Kathy Chow Has No Plans for Marriage
Kathy Chow (周海媚) has been in half-retirement in recent years, but this does not mean that the 46-year-old Manchurian beauty has plans for marriage. Although Kathy is in a happy and stable relationship with her boyfriend of 10 years – Mr. Liu from Beijing – Kathy has absolutely no intentions on getting married.
“I already have a family! My parents did not rush me to get married. They just want their daughter to be happy. We have been together for ten years. The wedding certificate is not important to us anymore, and all that matters now is that we get along happily. We never thought about having kids, and we definitely do not think it is necessary for us to get married.”
The former Miss Hong Kong pageant contestant debuted in the industry when she was 19 years old. Her first series was 1985’s star-studded The Yang’s Saga <楊家將>, portraying Yang Jiumei. Kathy’s acting career has lasted over twenty strong years, but her early years had been really tough. The struggles are over, and Kathy has finally grasped the meaning of happiness.
“To be happy, you need to be in the right mindset. I’m a very simple person. I’m very easy to please, even small things like treating me candy can make me very happy.”
Was that how Mr. Liu stole her heart? Kathy laughed, “When he was pursuing me he gave me a lot of chocolate. I guess that was how I gave in!”
Kathy met Mr. Liu when she relocated her acting career to Beijing in the late 1990s. The couple met through a mutual friend and it was love at first sight. Mr. Liu may be seven years younger, but Kathy did not find any speck of immaturity in the tough Mr. Liu. She knew she had found her Mr. Right.
The loving pair agreed to not get married, but it was not always the case. Kathy had rejected several of Mr. Liu’s proposals in the past. “He proposed to me several times before, but I never responded to them. He gave up in the end. It’s the 21st century now; marriage isn’t as important as it used to be. I’ve had a few weddings myself because of filming, and they were in both modern and dynastic eras. I’ve already gone through that age of fantasizing.”
The couple does not fight very often, but life is not always drama-free for them. Their longest fight lasted several months. “I have to fly around a lot because of work and we don’t really don’t have much time for arguments. When we come upon disagreements, we’ll try our best to be patient and accommodating. We’ve had given each other the cold treatment before though, and one of them lasted several months. At that time, I was shooting for a drama. He did not call me, so I did not call him. When I got back home, we came together as if nothing happened.”
Kathy added with a laugh, “He is a bit chauvinistic. When we first dated, he once told me to retire from the industry and rejected a lot of my job offers. One day, he decided to visit me on set and got really upset as he watched me doing intimate dating scenes with my costar. He never came to visit me on set again, but jealousy is normal.”
Is Kathy at the happiest time of her life now? “I still have another twenty to thirty years left. I do not know if I am at my happiest now, but in comparison to my earlier life, my life now is much more relaxed and comfortable. I get to choose the life I want to live.”
Source: ihktv.com
This article is written by Addy for JayneStars.com.
except for rare incidents, Overseas Chinese life is very quiet so these types of anecdotes are very intense information – kind of like cautionary tales – so maybe all these late or never marriages are just fake news (I hope so)
but isn’t it WEIRD that in this last era – we are getting so many younger males with older female stories? and usually it is Mainland youths with more cosmopolitan elder sisters? That’s ODD.
what is up with that?
also – if she isn’t marrying him – she doesn’t trust him to share her nest egg.
but it is kind of – well something – that she is with someone who is not her husband – it’s not exactly a good example to set for impressionable young people.
I know, nowadays it’s getting more and more like a trend for HK men going after China women or vise versa.
The ones we know are as follows:
*NNadia Chan or if that is still her name -married a china man initially 12 years younger but recently it was said to be 9 ok whatever still an old looking cougar compares to the guy hahaha….LOL
*Hong Yan-If that’s her name, this one is pretty looking thou and also married a china man almost 9 years younger or somewhere around that.
*Marco Ngai (HK) the one that dumped TVB JOYCE n married a china student
*Gallen Lo-Married a China woman
*Benny Chan-Married a China woman
*Ada Choi-Married a China man
It’s like most of them are going back for marriage partners. hahah LOL..
Add more : Sonija Kwok and maybe Hawick Lau soon :p
-Cleo,
As for setting examples, I doubt they care since most young people nowadays are living together before marriage anyway. I have cousins really literally right after out of college have been cohabiting together since they are all born and raise here, the word marriage has probably never enter their minds since everyone lives together anyway before marriage. I am not saying they are right but I see a lot of young people these days are doing exactly that. People really don’t see marriage that big of a deal anymore, sad but true.
maybe most of them are secretly married and just laying low for privacy’s sake by besmirching themselves publicly so that others aren’t envious of their good fortune otherwise Ma Ying Jeou’s son in laws conduct would not be so praised.
Cohabitation seems to be the new trend. I know that in NA, only about half of the people born after the 80s are willing to enter into a marriage while more either prefer to be single or cohabit.
Marriage itself has eroded and isn’t as sacred as it use to be because the initial design of it was to protect women. I can’t speak for other countries but in the US and Canada, it favors women heavily which has led to crazy things happening. For example, in California they have 8 out of 10 marriages ending in divorce due to a disturbing trend of women marrying men just to take half of what they own. Go back a few decades and it would probably be considered sacrilege.
There are other factors too though beside that like kids witnessing their parents stuck in unhappy marriages because of a piece of paper, one party abusing the other. So for those growing up it’s almost like a prison that marriage locks you into.
My personal views are in line with that as well, I don’t think a piece of paper that legally binds me means anything. If I truly love someone, then cohabitation will be fine until the day we die or until we realize there’s no love anymore. Times change, just like religion held more power then kings a few centuries ago and now it would laughable if they tried to intervene in state affairs.
Not really sad, just another evolutionary step in human society and phyche. When old models don’t work, you replace them to reflect society.
how do you know if your ROOMMATE isn’t secretly regarding you as subhuman and utilitarian as a COMFORT WOMAN and rent subsidizer? pretty words in bidding adieu will be sufficient to release him from any moral obligation?
nay cheng ngor yoon – as in this is consensual behavior – ask any father of daughters and I think they would disagree – they would prefer their daughters to have Ma Ying Jeou’s son in law and NO LESS.
I like her attitude toward marriage. She seem happy so that’s all that matters.
Smart woman!!! With a “younger” man, her sex-life must be great.
….rrrrrrrrreally?
I always liked her back in the 90’s.
Glad she is doing a bit of HK series again. She is still pretty for her age.
I still prefer marriage over just long term relationship =)
She was actually already married before and is probably scared to get married again…
You mean …… Kathy Chow was already married to Lui Leung Wai when she was young? I heard about it.
Yes, they got married back then… That may be one of the reasons why she is scared to get married again.
Poor Kathy who cannot get rid of her past experience.
wow if that is true
and horrible because he didn’t keep her and moved on … YUCK