Shirley Yeung’s Struggles as a Single Mother
Shirley Yeung (楊思琦), winner of the 2001 Miss Hong Kong Pageant, seemed destined to be TVB’s next poster girl when she made her acting debut. She immediately snagged leading parts after signing a management contract with TVB in 2001. She starred opposite Kwong Wah (江華) in the 2003 drama In the Realm of Fancy <繾綣仙凡間> and was remembered as the tragic Wong Yi in the wuxia drama Blade Heart <血薦軒轅>, which starred Adam Cheng (鄭少秋), Liza Wang (汪明荃), and Raymond Lam (林峯). Though Shirley was given many acting opportunities in her peak years, her image suffered a big blow in 2011 when her messy relationship scandal with Gregory Lee (李永豪) and Andy Ng (吳帥) came to light.
Demoted by TVB
After giving birth to her daughter Krystal in 2012, Shirley returned to Hong Kong in hopes to revive her career in Hong Kong. However, Shirley’s former glory never returned, and instead of being cast in dramas, Shirley was only given spots on variety shows. Shirley negotiated her contract terms with TVB again earlier this year, but the two parties had disagreements about Shirley’s career direction. In May 2014, Shirley announced leaving TVB, ending her 13-year relationship with the station.
Tight on Money
Although Shirley denied that TVB had tried to cut back on her salary, recent reports claim that Shirley is indeed tight on money. As a single parent, Shirley is constantly spending to her limit. Owning three apartment homes, Shirley has to pay at least $100,000 HKD a month for her mortgage. Including the money spent on her daughter’s education and other activities, the costs amount to at least $200,000 HKD per month.
On May 28, while on her way to pick up Krystal from her playgroup lesson in Kowloon Tong, Shirley was unable to start her car. Assuming that the car’s battery was dead, she asked a nearby driver to help jump-start her car. After a few failed attempts, the driver discovered that Shirley’s car was actually out of gas. He was heard saying, “Your tank is empty. Next time, don’t wait until the last minute to fill it!” Embarrassed, Shirley quickly called a car service to fill her tank. She was late in picking up her daughter.
In regards to Shirley’s current struggles with money, a source close to Shirley’s mother said, “Shirley is always going back to Mainland China to take up side jobs. [Shirley’s mother] is constantly worried about her safety and health. She wants to help but doesn’t know how, so she’s trying her best to care for Krystal at home.”
In a later interview, Shirley said she is aware that many are worried about her current financial condition, but she assured that she is fine. “I recently took up a new commercial in the Mainland. I’m satisfied with the six-figure salary. However, my daughter’s playgroup costs at least $7,000 HKD a month. There’s also her education. It all costs a lot of money, so right now I am taking up as many jobs as I can.” Currently an unmanaged artiste, Shirley revealed that a few management companies have contacted her but she has not made a decision yet.
Source: Oriental Daily via kuangaitvb.com
This article is written by Addy for JayneStars.com.
Sigh…….so sad to hear this news being a single mom is tough and living in HK could be very pricey if you want and if you want to live in a middle class rate u will need alot of $$$$
Tvb is so heartless is some part of the news is true they stomped on her when they know she needs help
I agree and we all know TVB is not a charity organization but a business that wants to profit as much as possible.
Not only tvb but all ALL companies are like that. Profits comes first.
To be honest, if she is in another company, it will still be the same
I wish Shirley well and hope she can find great opportunities in mainland
If you have a similar problem like that or some sort of scandal that affected your career/image, do u think your company will still want to keep and promote u?
This is very common, not a big surprise.
Agree, all companies are like that. Business isn’t a charity organization, Profit comes first than anything.they are right too
It is normal. Life is that tough because Txb is a company and Shirley is low valuable in their eyes now. She must do the right thing to find life in other places than being stay in Txb with only basic salary.
This is when the baby’s father is to be blamed. It’s not like he’s dead or something. He should at least provide some financial support, how irresponsible and cowardly.
True and this a good example of how women these days need to be financially independent and not just rely on the guy for financial support. Many think that if they marry a rich/ well off guy that they can just drop their career and be a stay at mom. That is too ideal and traditional thinking. It is always good to hold onto to your career if you can in case anything happens.
Well said. Depend on ourselves will be the best and correct thing we ladies do in our entire lives.
Exactly. Doesn’t blame her for not wanting to have anything to do with that character…!
“Owning three apartment homes, Shirley has to pay at least $100,000 HKD a month for her mortgage.” If you don’t have a big head, don’t wear a big hat.
That was what crossed my mind too. If she can’t afford to upkeep those homes, she shld sell them to lighten her burden.
Agree! Just sell one of the 3 apartments. And daugther’s education and activities up to HKD200K?? Same thing.. If $ is tight, why don’t just ask the mom to try home school first or delay all those unnecessary activities/education or at least find a cheaper ones. It seems to me that Shirley herself is bad in managing her financial and caused the struggle.
She has THREE APARTMENTS. This are valuable assets. She can just let go and sell JUST ONE and she will be ok. So stop complaining again and again how she is struggling
Nobody will think that a person with THREE APARTMENTS are struggling souls.
Something just does not add up. Why does she have to have 3 apartments and suffer every month and years to come.
You are right! If you DON’T have a BIG head, DON’T wear a BIGGGG! Hat. Others should not blame to her ex, AFTER all she choose it for herself. SHE choose to betray his FIRST boy friend who love her so much.
“FIRST boy friend who love her so much”
Love her $$$$ is more like it.
Shirley needs to be more selective and raise her standards substantially when choosing a man.
Exactly. Try sending her daughter to a a cheaper play group lesson or sell one of the apartments to lighten the burden.
Completely agree. Three mortgages is unnecessary, she could have sold 2 and live in 1 and cut down on $7,000 per month playgroup. She’s living a frivolous lifestyle and cause her own struggle.
It’s v hard to pass judgement on someone if u haven’t lived a day in their shoes. I certainly don’t think Shirley is complaining. She’s merely stating a fact. I am a mother and I know what it feels like to want the v best for ur baby and ur family. 2nd best wont do. Property is a good investment for the future, for herself and her daughter. It might be hard work now but all her efforts will be rewarded. Thank goodness for leaving TVB. Best decision Shirley. Ur past is ur past, we all make mistakes but u r trying to turn ur life around and, for that, I commend u.
It is always hard being a single parent. But it is great that she has her mom and family to help her take care of her daughter. It is really hard to be the main breadwinner. Many that are supported by others and never carried the financial burden will not understand the financial hardships of raising a family and children.
Shirley has a job, a car, three homes and a family that supports her. She also has money but it’s not enough, Shirley wants more. Shirley is one greedy and selfish person that landed her to where she is. Yup, if you don’t have a big head, don’t wear a big hat. Live within your means. 😀
People are greedy.
You realize many single mother do not own 3 properties in HK (one one the most expensive real estate market in the world!) and send their kid to private school. How hard for her she can’t afford a maid so her family have to help. If there’s a women shelter in your area…please volunteer and go see single mother with no job, no shelter and no prospect…maybe you understand the meaning hardship.
True,but being a single mom regardless of what the circumstances are is always very hard. Of course,she is not the worse off because no matter how bad most people’s lives are there will always be someone who is struggling even more.
E X A C T L Y!
She’s clearly living beyond her means. If she can’t afford a flashy comfortable lifestyle, she shld not aspire to live like the rich people. Not everyone can afford HKD7k a month for playgroup. Looks like she hasn’t learnt her lesson. No sympathy for such people.
Exactly. I’m a good example. I’m a single mom without any support but myself. But I don’t go complaining again and again. Embrace it since you can’t change anything.
It is not THAT tough if she sells 2 of her 3 properties. She spends so much on 3 mortgages, sense says at least sell 1.
I agree. Why does she need 3 apartments if she is tight on money? If she really wants to save money, it’s better to sell two apartments and just live with her mom.
Agreed!
Sell all 3 properties and live in TVB canteen if thats the plan.
agree,i think she made herself into this situation,she is just greedy
To sell an apartment in price with good price isnt easy at this moment due to the real estate crisis. If she sells her properties, how can she live later because now she can have some gain from the rent.
There is a bitter joke said by the owners of appartment: “Hungry while sleeping in the gold hill” which means they seem to be rich with some properties on hand but actually poor when they cant sell them or lend them.
Her rent is probably not even enough to cover the monthly instalments. It sounds so terrible that she is struggling as a single mother and yet read closely. It is like someone in need of medical treatment begging the public for donation and then public finds out she is actually sitting on a few houses and she can afford it except not right now due to cash flow problem. So no Shirley is not struggling, she puts herself in this situation. To put her on the same place as real struggling single mother who had to work 3 jobs to pay food, rent and school is to me extremely misguided.
i understand that she want to secure the future for herself her daughter,who not?struggling or not,maybe she is greedy but at least she works hard for her future.
She is struggling while holding on to her properties because they (hopefully) will one day appreciate in price.
That said, she os also doing her best to self-sacrifice, and give her daughter the best education she can afford which means very high fees (even if Shirley is like many other Chinese parents, is somewhat ignorant and blinded in going about it because brand-name school + high fees doesn’t always mean her child will get that quality education).
“Her rent is probably not even enough to cover the monthly instalments. It sounds so terrible that she is struggling as a single mother and yet read closely. It is like someone in need of medical treatment begging the public for donation and then public finds out she is actually sitting on a few houses and she can afford it except not right now due to cash flow problem. So no Shirley is not struggling, she puts herself in this situation. To put her on the same place as real struggling single mother who had to work 3 jobs to pay food, rent and school is to me extremely misguided.”
Agreed! She has options and some don’t. There is a difference between frugal and selfish. She is selfish. 😀
Funn Lim, have you ever try to sell a house before? You can have some lost if you try to sell an apartment that you havent paid in full. So she should be smart to keep the apartment and then wait until she can sell it with some profit. If she sells the apartment right now, look like she will have money but in fact she lost money because she invested in it more (perhaps having loan with bank). I would say she is stupid to sell apartment during the crisis period.
Moreover Shirley does not ask for the donation but she is at worst to try to gain the sympathy to get better job. Your comparison is mislead because they are doing two different methods to earn money.
As for the rent, it seems not be enough because she still needs to work to gain money. However, it helps a little. Rather than get lost due to selling with low price.
I hope you will not advise any of your friends if they fall in similar situtation to her now. Selling apartment with mortage is never smart in such situation, honestly.
I understand with your opinion Alluka, but I agree with Funn that she’s hardly struggle and being greedy or just plain stupid. And certainly not to be pitied of, as many others are more pity than her.
Right from the first place, she shouldn’t get a third property on mortgage if she still has 2 mortgages.
So is better that the first property has been paid off or at least being paid 70%, then you can get the second one on loan.
So, if she is still on loan for all those 2 and get another 3rd one to mortgage. it’s just either stupid or greedy.
So yes, it’s better to sell one off, otherwise, bank will get it sooner or later. Unless that she has paid off for the first one and second one, and only one mortgage. If that is the case, then she is hardly struggle either, as at least got 1 or 2 has/have been paid off.
And again, she shouldn’t take on more loan if she hasn’t got stable income.
After all, there are many single mother is really called “struggle” but not her case.
Alluka, I will advise my friend to live within her means. If she is struggling maybe selling one will be helpful more so in HK which I am sure she will make a small profit and not a windfall.
There are many who sells houses with mortgages. Not many can pay off the mortgage and sell except for that 1 house or family home. Shirley has 3 and if she intends to pay them all forthe next 20 or 30 years or shorter, good luck to her but don’t go using it as an excuse for self pity to gain press time when looking for more work. There are assets that are investments and there are assets that are bad liabilities. When it becomes bad liability it is time to find ways to get rid of it and guess what? She still has TWO other assets to fall back on.
“I agree with Funn that she’s hardly struggle and being greedy or just plain stupid. And certainly not to be pitied of, as many others are more pity than her.”
“Right from the first place, she shouldn’t get a third property on mortgage if she still has 2 mortgages.
So is better that the first property has been paid off or at least being paid 70%, then you can get the second one on loan.”
Agreed! Learn to walk before you run.
Maybe you forgot that most of apartments are paid in installments. I think she is having to pay for all three apartments and it means there is a chance she is mortgaging all to pay for the previous installments.
Funn Lim, I hope your friend will be ok.
She’s desperate to get out of her poor life.
She was nicknamed ‘Miss Hong Kong from the Housing Projects’ because of her poor background (unlike other MHK which came from better economic and education background). Real estate investment and prepping up her daughter with privileged upbringing is her ticket out of poverty.
hi there
1. just hope that Shirley did her homework on her finances.
2. being a single mum is some hard work.
Must be bad luck for Miss Hong Kong winner syndrome.
Hilarious! I don’t feel sorry for her one bit. There are many single mothers and father in this world living with nothing. They still get by. She needs to live in her means. She has more than enough to live comfortably for the rest of her life. Stop living like you’re an A-list star.
Hello, she needs to maintain her status as a former Miss Hong Kong and a rather well know celebrity.
That’s silly. Whatever “status” she had went down the drain together with her reputation when she two-timed her b/f and got knocked up by another man. No point in keeping up with appearances when she’s struggling with her mortgage payments and living expenses. There’s such a thing called living within one’s means.
“That’s silly. Whatever “status” she had went down the drain together with her reputation when she two-timed her b/f and got knocked up by another man. No point in keeping up with appearances when she’s struggling with her mortgage payments and living expenses. There’s such a thing called living within one’s means.”
Agreed!
Agreed!
Exactly, I dont know why some pp here few sorry for her. She have 3 properties in HK…and we all know the housing market in HK…she probably is more wealthy than many pp here in this forum. Also complaining about your kid private education tuition cost?…if you cant afford it then let your daughter go to public school like most.
Every damn article I read about her is she complaining how hard to make end meet to pay her 3 properties mortgage, the private school tuition cost for her daughter, saving $ by not having a maid etc … get over yourself. Many single mother struggling to afford rent and food for their kid. This is why Shirley is so unlikeable … she is so delusion … Im glad TVB dump her!
Well said, well said. Same sentiments
Agreed!
“Shirley said she is aware that many are worried about her current financial condition, but she assured that she is fine.”
Title is misleading. Shirley can think on her feet and is doing fine as a single mother who wants to give her daughter/family the best. Don’t even let the men in her past back in her life again. They will only “leech” off of her. Keep all her properties if possible. That’s how all the other wealthy stars invest. Work hard. Best wishes!!!
Re: ” That’s how all the other wealthy stars invest”.
Probably true, but question is : is she wealthy to begin with?
“I recently took up a new commercial in the Mainland. I’m satisfied with the six-figure salary.”
Shirley wasn’t wealthier because she was “held back” by the evil monopoly after the scandal. Obviously that evil monopoly was lying when they said that her value dropped since she was able to find jobs that paid her a 6-figure salary on her own.
Wealthier than most people if she can get creditors to approve her for three (3) apartment homes.
6 figure ranges from 100k to 999k. Now that she’s out of a regular job, debt servicing will be much harder for her.
I don’t think it’s as bad as the media portrays it. Shirley seems like she’s well-prepared.
“well-prepared”? in the last 2 to 3 years…. she is not going to last long.
I can’t tell if the media just loves to report how “bad” Shirley’s single mom life is, or she just loves whining to the reporters about her oh so pitiful life.
She’s complaining about being tight on money when she sends her daughter to some $7,000 HKD playgroup? Some single mothers who has more than one kids don’t even make 7,000HKD a month. Most single mothers don’t get to just appear at a function, standing there looking pretty and earn thousands of dollars. Shirley should just shut it and be grateful that she has a job and a home–oh wait, it’s 3 homes.
Also, can’t blame TVB for demoting her. Her image has plummeted so so so much since the ugly relationship b/w Greg & Andy.
“Currently an unmanaged artiste, Shirley revealed that a few management companies have contacted her but she has not made a decision yet.”
Shirley can try to do without a management company first to compare being an unmanaged vs managed artist. Management companies are there to take a cut of the artists’ income and comes with all kinds of penalties if things don’t work out (as in Elanne Kong’s case; be sure to stay away from those types of management companies). Rain Lee did without a management company (since her mother was her agent) to avoid the middleman from taking a cut (sometimes BIG) of the income.
And, management companies can also hold an artist back too (like the evil monopoly did).
Drop the playgroup. Her daughter is 2 years old. What education? Just need to eat, sleep and play at home like other normal babies. So unnecessary…
Agreed. Sending a toddler to an expensive playground is absolutely unnecessary. I know a lot of parents want to give their children the “best” in hopes that they can become little prodigies. However, let’s face it, intelligence is hereditary and parents should look at the mirror themselves and check if they can see an Einstein in their own reflection.
Judging from Shirley’s history of getting knocked up before marriage and over leveraging in property investments, I have to say she is one dumb woman. She is better off selling her properties to reduce the liabilities, send her child to a cheaper playgroup (or let her stay home instead) and save the money for the child’s future tertiary education instead.
Agree about expensive playgroups.
At 2 it’s meaningless, and half of these groups are meaningless play and circle time.
Kids can also be homeschooled and creatively stimulated to read by 3 without playschool/preschool.
Just lots of reading to the kid, interaction and singing … and alot of intelligent observation and inserting FUN learning opportunities on the part of the parent/educator/
Instead of wasting that $$$$$ in fees which can be channeled to help support her 3 houses (which I think is pragmatic long term investment nest-eegg for the future she should try keep) …..
Instead shop around for quality for far less money.
What is more important is that a child is happy and stimulated in the learning environment, comfortable and interested in absorbing … and exploring how to share and get along with people.
A bullied kid in a branded school will not thrive or enjoy learning, regardless of how good the teaching is.
I noticed almost all Hongkies seemed to be ultra kiasu on getting into a “branded school” is the most expensive school the best for our child? If that’s true then all those who cant afford to send their children to such expensive school would mean their children will definitely be less academic smart than those children being sent to branded school.
To Rika,
Since you were writing about parents wanting the best for the children just reminded me to just share this. It’s nothing related to going to expensive play school but purchasing an expensive water filter. One of my friends is a divorcee, she’s not working but has been relying help from her boyfriends. I know it’s a norm to want to give the family the best of everything, but it has to be within our means. Anyway, she told me she bought this water filter that cost approx USD4K and she was telling me all the wonders it can do. Quietly I was teling myself that as if she wants the best of health for her family. What about those who cant afford to buy that unit, I personally feel it’s overpriced as all direct selling products are. I feel a Panasonic unit or a Bacfree unit for example are equally as good. Sorry, just want to share how some parents think these days. From what she said to me I concluded that for those who can afford to pay for a higher price products will definitely have better health, better life, better this & that. Those who cant afford are doomed?
“[Shirley’s mother] is constantly worried about her safety and health. She wants to help but doesn’t know how, so she’s trying her best to care for Krystal at home.”
Like mother, like daughter. Only think for themselves.
Krystal needs love and care that money can’t buy. Shirley is Krystal’s mother, teacher and she can’t see that or just doesn’t care. Family value, it’s free.:D
@bloom You are right about Hong Kongers being extremely kiasu. I have a friend who was in HK for a short while and she took up a part time job to coach a 2 year old child in English. According to her, that child is practically swamped with all kinds of activities; swimming, music lessons etc. The lifestyle of that child was more insane than us adults.
People who can afford can certainly provide better living environment for their children. However, that is not the pre-requisite of success. Do allow me to introduce you to Narendra Modi who came from a poor family but is now the most prominent person in India. When he was a child, he had to help his father sell tea at the railway station to make ends meet. Nowadays, when I talk about him with my Indian friends and colleagues, they have nothing but praises and high hopes in him to change the country for the better.
“Those who cant afford are doomed?”
Don’t fret. There is no doubt that people who come from humble backgrounds may have weaker odds at the starting point of their lives but that does not translate to failures in their entire lives. In fact, their disadvantaged beginnings could morph to become their greatest strengths as they will be more determined in seeking success compared to people who came from affluent backgrounds. You can very well see China having problems with succession plannings since the 富二代 (Fuerdai) are more contented spending money on luxurious goods and living a good life than working hard to take over their family businesses.
@nomad 822 Talking about expensive playgroups, my colleague spends close to USD1.5K each month for both of her kids on it. She even has a domestic helper at home. I honestly don’t understand how parents of this age do their financial planning.
To Rika,
Thanks for agreeing. My colleague from Hong Kong told me that she has to leave office by 6pm every evening to fetch her son from school and has to start doing his homework from 7pm right till midnight. If he doesnt start by 7pm there’s no way he could finish his homework. Chinese schools seemed to be focusing a lot of homework, is this the best education? I really don’t know to be honest.
Rich ppl can afford to send their children to the most prestigious or branded school but doesnt necessarily their children can do well. If the children dont know how to appreciate this, some of them might just end up being a waitress or waiter. I dont have rich friends, but one of my ex-colleagues do, she told me her friends all went to prestigious school, drive luxury car but they were not studying but playing and partying and now they ended up doing nothing.
I feel the success of the child still lies not only on how we groom them but also on themselves. As a parent, we provide them with shelter, education, all the necessity and guide them, but at the end of the day, they also have to work hard for themselves. I often believe that rich kids are not necessarily successful and poor kids are not necessarily will end up poor but might be the opposite.
To Rika, do you noticed those parents that don’t really speak english are more ultra kiasu to ensure their child learns and speaks good english. They seemed to think learning English or master it is success, I wont deny the fact that english is vital as it’s a business language and it’s used internationally. But then again a child not only needs to learn english (spoken, written) but other things in life are equally important. Mannerism, independent, honestly, compassion, moral etc etc, I guess we need to impart all these to the kid from young. Not just read, read, read. We’ve to encourage them to have more self-confidence for example, be more vocal just to name a few.
@bloom I had a similar discussion along the same lines with a close friend recently. Our conclusion was Asians (even though I am one myself) have the “paper chasing” mentality ingrained in them. Children are encouraged to study, not to learn. They are made to memorise textbooks, practise past year exam questions and write essays in a “formulated” manner. There is absolutely zero freedom for students to break out of the mold and find the best ways to express themselves. Instead of treating each child as an individual with varying talents, he/she is programmed like a robot where the expectation is he/she must excel in Maths, Science, English. Reading any other materials apart from what is relevant to their exams is mostly frowned upon. Practically every Asian parent I know of desires their child to be either a doctor or lawyer or banker. When asked what if their child wishes to be an artist, fireman or circus performer (note: I think it’s an awesome job!), the horrified and disappointed reactions on their faces shuts me up immediately. I have a colleague who completed a MBA majoring in finance recently. When asked why did she choose finance as her major, she replied that it was the easiest. I swore I nearly flipped the table at her. That kind of response is no different from saying “I’m not interested in learning. All I want is just to have a post graduate degree so that it looks nice on my résumé!”.
I no longer see parents placing much importance in ethics anymore. Just to state a few, very often I see young teens not giving up seats to the needy in public transportation, children jumping queues and their parents keeping mum about it, young kids shouting and screaming in public areas etc. etc. What troubles me most, however, is the way people treat blue collar workers e.g. domestic helpers aka maids (in Asian context), construction workers, cleaners etc. I once jokingly asked my colleagues what would they do if they are expected to work round the clock and take home low salaries every month. Not surprisingly, their responses were similar: inhumane. Yet, the same seed of discrimination is being implanted in the minds of their children that blue collar workers deserved neither respect nor human rights. Heck, I was even told by someone that her maid should not complain about not having day-offs since she ought to feel blessed to be able to have a job at all!
I disagree. Asian has all along place a lot of importance on education, and in the academic sense and it makes sense. A lot of top scientists or those in medical fields etc are Asians and it makes sense.
To Rika,
I honestly share the same thought with you. Asian (yes, I’m one of them too) seems to want all As for their children. Competiting with other kids, kids these days are programmed like a robot, yes, you were right about that. They pratically dont have any time. School, homework, tuition and more homework and tuition. It’s also not safe in some countries so the parents dont let them go out or play with neighbours. The only thing that they’re allowed to play is facebook, online games etc. Do you noticed kids these days (especially the chinese) kids are overprotective and overly pampered. Maybe because we dont give birth to many kids, most is 2 for most chinese parents. These days most families would have both husband & wife working so 2 income and they tend to want to give the most expensive to their children. Be it the milk powder, the branded clothes, branded kids shoes, branded prams, expensive toys just to name some. Chinese kids are also wearing glasses the most, it’s already in the chinese genes (which I read it somewhere) and thanks to mobile phones & computers, the more chances they are being short sighted.
Coming to learning piano, ballet, drum etc etc. I noticed most children dont have interest, it was their parents that wanted them to learn.
I’ve a relative and they only have a grandson and he’s honestly a spoilt brat. At 11 yrs old he’s already good at cursing his grandparents, sometimes spoke vulgar words, all the grandparents and his parents did was just called out his name & never even discipline him and sometimes they just laughed it off as it it was really funny.
Not every child can become lawyers or doctors. In most parents eyes these profession seems to be the best and makes a lot of money.
Most parents also have maids in the house, the child is so dependent on their maids that everything is being done by the maid. What do you expect the child to be like when they grow up? They cant lift a finger, some even asked the maid to organize the school bag for the child. None of us are immortals, we should try as much as possible to make the child independent, having good manners etc not just academic. Children these days are not so street smart, everything is planned and they’re like taking orders, they dont know how to think. Just look at some young people joined the workforce, the attitude is really terrible, I’m not saying all, but they’re really different from our generations.
bloom,
What you said was true!!! All asian kids are like that from my observation. May i know where are you from?
To Qwerty,
I’m a Malaysian Chinese.
Why is she OR the media keep reporting that she’s struggling as a single mother. I’m a single mother too. I struggle all ALONE to be the best Mommy for my son. All single parents are struggling. This is the route we choose or are forced to be in.
Stop whining or media players, find something new to report.
Next….
To Eve Junie Chan,
Media writes about her because she’s an artiste. Not all single parent suffer, some may not be in the hard way because some may be having a high paying job or having a rich family that can support them. I understand that majority are not that lucky.
Sometimes I just don’t understand why some ppl just want to kill another person’s rice bowl just because of her personal life. Yes, she may not be faithful to Gregory & got herself pregnant with another man while dating Gregory but this is her personal life. If her acting is good, why boycott her just because of some mistakes she made? All of us have made mistakes in our life, I dare to say none of us never once made any mistake. But we don’t need to go to such extend. I kind of pity her because I try to put myself in her shoes and I may not be as strong as her. Sincerely hope her path going forward would be clearer and not this tough.
I agrees with bloom.
My point of view in Shirley
1. She is not a gold digger by being with her mediocre boy friend Gregory for 10 years
2. At certain age of 30s, a woman might need some stability in life like marriage which Gregory unable to give her
3. Her mistake for trusting and believing Andy Ng
My credit given to her
1. She have courage to give birth to her child outside wedlock
2. Her courage to stand up and face so many media for the mistake she have choose. Where is the man she being with for 10 years and more importantly where is the lousy Andy Ng
3. She have dignity and self esteem to leave TVB if TVB really demoted her. Nothing wrong being a single mother.
4. I salute her for her hard work going back and forth to mainland china to work to support her daughter and her family
I will continue to support her. Shirley you have my support!
Her choice. 620 said “Shirley is stubborn”, agreed. 😀
Nobody judge her unless she wanted to be judge. You have to take Sweet, sour, bitter and hot that’s life. LOL! 😀
i don’t like her acting though. She should only be a supporting not a lead actress.
To Support Shirley,
Thanks for agreeing. I don’t know why a lot of people bashed her up for cheating Gregory. Yes, it’s wrong to have “yat keok tap leung suen” literally translate as one leg steps on 2 boats, but it wasnt a really huge mistakes. Ethically can be wrong, but I’ve seen so many people doing it. She’s being rejected all because she’s an actress that’s all.
I do not have any sympathy for her or whatsoever. She ruined her own reputation and career. The moment she lied about her relationship and cheated on Gregory, she already ruined her future. Yes, being a single parent is hard and being the breadwinner is even more difficult. But oh wells. You have sex, you have a baby, and this is what you get.
So the baby daddy is just out of the picture? He doesn’t care for the baby? Or even helps her? Wowiee! IS the baby only 2? Why is her play date so expensive? My kids just have free play date with my friends kids or the neighbour!
I don’t think Shirley is complaining right now, it’s the press that loves to report about how she is struggling, etc.
as for the mortgages, she is probably hoping that real estate prices will jump in the future so her daughter will be very well-off when she is an adult.
And the play group, that’s unnessary money spent in My opinion because her daughter will need money for high school and university, but I guess she hopes her child will get superior education environments from the beginning or for her daughter “to mix with the rich”. If her daughter grows up with rich friends, they will usually not suspect her of being gold digger unless taught otherwise by their parents!
(1) Agree on the houses. It’s worth her while to keep them, if she can … for long term gains. For the child’s university expenses, whatever.
(2) While quality education is good, this is PLAYschool. It’s stooopid to buy into the ‘branded school’ concept at this age where it makes very little impact.
How much foundations or habits are acquired at this stage?
Not to mention, in private schools – there’s also a hidden sub-culture.There are the top tier kids who are first class… then those who struggle to get in or are in on scholarship (they’re second class).
Imagine kids from families who have no problem funding a $6000 Europe field trip … and the struggling ones trying to go on that same field trip.
It’s NOT a healthy environment for the child to grow up in.
yep, as a i mentioned above there i think its unnecessary money spent, but shirley might want her daughter to grow up playing with kids from well-off backgrounds.
I’m sorry but she brought this upon herself. She was too naive and irresponsible. Shirley should have broke up with Gregory before stepping out with Ng Shuai, instead she led Gregory (and the media) on which made her look even worse. She probably thought that Ng had loads of money and didn’t think about the consequences before sleeping with him.
I hope she live well as a Single Mom. She should pursue acting career in Mainland China. She’ll become famous in Mainland China. So she could save money to raise her child.
i never liked her acting. She has a weird voice. Anyhow, we should not feel pity for her because she has 3 houses in HK. She is way better off than a lot of people. With her love life, it’s her choice..
“we should not feel pity for her”
No need to pity her. Just don’t be malicious and try to ruin her is good enough. She is just trying her best to provide the best for her family.
Not referring to anyone in particular (except maybe the evil monopoly). 🙂