Paul Wong Vows to Kill Father for Domestic Violence
Above: Paul Wong and wife, Athena Chu.
On the morning of November 22, Paul Wong (黄贯中) published a statement on his Weibo, denouncing his father with implications of domestic violence.
The 300-word statement started off saying, “Father, please forgive me. Drinking and women are not the bigger problems; I can endure them, but you hit mother, used a large kitchen knife and hit her. The three of us brothers were only eight to ten years old then.”
Paul’s statement turned more emotional and threatening, writing, “Father, do you know? I respect and hate you. If you weren’t an elder, I would have already hit you. If you dare to make my family suffer again, I will kill you with my own hands. Half of the genes inside me are from you; I call them my garbage genes. If you want to hit my mother, my wife, I’m afraid I will become my own father’s murderer.”
Paul’s post attracted over 25,000 comments and 32,000 reblogs. Paul’s statement scarred netizens, and many of them urged Paul to seek legal help. One netizen wrote, “Use the law to protect your family. Don’t be rash! If he does do anything to hurt [your wife Athena Chu (朱茵)], I will not let him go!” Another wrote, “Don’t do anything stupid! You still have your wife and daughter! Leave him!” One netizen advised, “I understand this pain of yours, but the only thing you can do is to leave him with your mother, wife, and child. If you do kill him, you would have to pay the price. You would regret it.”
After Paul released his strong statement, reporters rushed to Paul and Athena’s residence in Kowloon City, but the couple could not be reached. The press contacted Athena’s good friend Ada Choi (蔡少芬), who responded via her manager that she was not aware of this news, but even if something did happen to Athena’s family, Ada would not make any statements.
According to lawyer Vitus Leung (梁永鏗), Paul is at risk of facing legal trouble for the threats he made to his father on his Weibo. Paul’s statements have damaged his father’s reputation and it can be a serious criminal offense.
The Hong Kong police have also become involved, and the force stated that they are currently looking into the matter.
Paul’s Explosive Records
In April 2012, Paul was accused of throwing glass bottles at the paparazzi. Paul denied it and vowed, “If I did it, I’ll get [expletive] run over by a car.”
Around the same time, Athena, who was pregnant and unmarried at the time, was blasted as a hypocrite for having premarital sex. Athena, a devout Christian, had stated that she was against premarital sex in the past. When Paul was confronted with these statements, Paul angrily said, “Which [media firm] are you from? Tell your boss to ask me!”
In July 2012, a report claimed that Paul was unhappy that his Hong Kong Coliseum concert only had 70 percent of the seats filled. As soon as the report was published, Paul took to his Weibo to slam the report, writing, “[expletive] you. Don’t let me see you!”
In May 2013, a reporter whom Paul did not get along with uploaded a photo with Paul’s Beyond band mate, Steve Wong (黃家強). Paul was said to be upset with Steve, and in a later interview, Paul briefly talked about Steve and said, “Beyond’s not just his family’s business.” Asked what he would do if he sees Steve again, Paul said, “[expletive] him.”
Source: ihktv.com
This article is written by Addy for JayneStars.com.
Why don’t he tell his dad instead of took it to social media? is is dad on facebook,twister, QQ, etc..? What his dad did was wrong but he should had use law enforcement to protect his family instead of threaten the dad, if this is true I felt bad for Athena, he will be just like his dad
@Erica. I agree it is a shame that Paul had to use social media to speak his mind to his dad about their family matter.
Maybe he tried many times in the past to talk to his dad, and the dad did not listen. Maybe Paul feel he is at the end of his rope and figured this is the only way he will get his father to listen.
Some of these old folks think it is within their right to be the man and put those women in their place by sharing some blows to the poor women. A lot of men who are old school traditionalists feel that way.
This man had no business hitting his wife, and he is way out of line for hitting Paul’s wife. Any man who hit my wife will be picking his teeth out of his throat, even if that man happens to be my very own father.
This man is a bully and a tyrant and he needs to accept psychological help or do some serious jail time for physical assault and battery. Maybe he needs both.
If this isn’t fake news to use celebrity to highlight the problem of domestic violence, then calling his father out must be some kind of an anti-traditional Chinese move – like Ngor M pah yun gee (I’m not afraid of going public)
because tactically, you never want the outside world to know the details of your own family’s shortcomings – because it WILL be used against you – not necessarily that someone will gloat over their own happy home life to bruise you further – but now strangers know intimate details about you that ONLY you could have weakened yourself by revealing.
Now this is something the family bully has been counting on because it controls you while also undeservedly benefitting the bully because you don’t want to be known as damaged goods – so you basically helping the criminal hide in plain sight AND helping them to bully you further knowing that you will never tell.
Maybe his father uses his son and now his daughter-in-law’s celebrity to gain advantages socially (my cousins did that even though they refused to greet my father at family gatherings but they would tell people especially potential employers and business people that they were his nephews).
Now if that father claims to be related to celebrities, everyone will know that he is the one who was accused of violence against women – a HUGE no-no in Hong Kong culture based on what I was raised to believe.
Hitting a female – well, you might as well commit suicide, right? It’s something Chinese men would find shameful.
I was wondering the same thing. Even though his father is wrong for he things that he did,for him to air his dirty laundry to the public is not the way to go. Did his father really hit Athena? I did not quite get that from his message or did I miss something?
No matter what, it is his father so for him to want to kill his own father makes him an unfilial son. Being unfilial is the number one sin because if you cannot treat the person that gave birth to you well, then regardless of how good you are to others, it is all fake. However, I can understand how he feels since I have been through similar experiences.
@trini,
You sound like a good husband and your wife is lucky to have you. However, I really want to ask you something. If your wife,wanted to hit someone for an unreasonable reason, would you side with her? The reason I ask is the other day, I was shopping at Walmart and my cart accidentally hit this one couple’s cart, but I was very minor. However, the evil women threatened to punch me and said that I was lucky that I did not bump the cart into her. I was shocked but not really scared since I am tougher than I look, but I look timid. The thing was her boyfriend/husband just stood there and did not say a word. Luckily, I controlled my anger and just ignored her, but as I walked away I said “gosh, I do not understand why some people have to be so mean for absolutely no good reason” . I think that evil women heard it and I think she knew she was wrong so just kept silent. I then thought to myself, boy if I was guy and my wife/ girlfriend dared to act that way, I would not side with her and teach her not to do things like that. Some think just because they have back up that they can bully others as much as they want. That is so wrong.
HTS:
I think the guy is prolly thinking to himself “she is pmsing again. Let her be let her be” lol
@crystal.
Ok, I wonder why people are like that?,I felt a bit threatened but you really wonder if she did that to someone who was really timid, it would really scare them. Or if she did it to someone really mean, they may even beat her up. Hey, but she would get what she deserves. Even when I am on PMS, I am fine for the most part but I am different from most people I guess.
Trust me, you would rather deal with people who have anger issues cause all you do is say sorry (thats if you made physical contact), walk away and laugh at them for being angry. Cause at the end of the day, theyre the one lacking sleep for being difficult.
Well, it was in a Wal-Mart… that type of response is usually based in upbringing.
This guy is such a loser……..I mean a real BIG loser…….can’t imagine what Athena was thinking when she decided to be with such an idiot!
@HTS, I think that guy in Walmart is just glad he’s not at the receiving end, therefore he (wisely) kept his mouth shut… He prolly deserves sympathy for having to put up with someone like that.
If he were to gang up with his partner to bully you (either verbal or physical), then it’ll make him as bad (or even worse) than her.
Thanks for all the feedback guys. I feel much better now. I never thought of all those other scenarios and you all reminded me that we must look beyond the surface when dealing with any situation. I still hope that none of us would run into mean people like that too often.
It’s for publicity
Maybe to raise awareness?
Maybe he wrote it after drinking one beer to many …
I confused, is he referring to a recent domestic violence or something that happened when he was young … ‘… but you hit mother, used a large kitchen knife and hit her …. us brothers were only eight to ten years old then.” He went on to say … “If you dare to make my family suffer again, I will kill you with my own hands”
True or not, i don’t think he should air his dirty laundry on social network
Poor kid is raised with such negativity. I don’t care who is at fault but adults should learn to control their temper.
I suggest the family go through counseling to get some help!
I wouldn’t have further contact with him especially as they now have their own family unit with a small female child. Why not really go anti-traditional and stop forebearing and just cut off ties?
I like you Cleo. Just kick him out of the house if house belongs to paul. If not, paul and Athena have money to buy a house for themselves.
Hello @HeTieShou
That is horrible that the woman had to become so angry at you for bumping into her cart. The world is full of strange individuals. Like Crystal said, she could be PMSing, as some women do get extra snappy during that process. Maybe she is a bully and bullies the guy too, hence the lack of response from him. Could be anger management problems. There are many factors that could have brought on her unnecessary behaviour. You are alright, that is the most important thing.
Yes, I love my wife deeply and never laid a had on her. I have never even raised my voice at her. So you can understand how I would feel if someone, anyone hits her.
To answer your question, as much as I love my wife, I would not be a party to her wanting to hit anyone, especially if it is unnecessary .
@trini,
Thanks for your response and answering my question. You sound like a great husband and your wife is lucky to have you, but I am glad that you are not blinded by your love for your wife that you would do anything she tells you.It is great that you still keep your good character.
You are right that I am lucky to be ok,but it was because I held back my anger. However, I do not think everyone would be able to. My late father taught me to stay out of trouble as much as possible, especially if it is with unnecessary “xiao ren” like that.
so stupid. although his father was wrong but he as an adult also should know better than to hurl them bitter feelings on social media and made headlines! both of them has issues!
guess what now of anything happen to his dad we know who the cops will suspect first.
So he suddenly chose to speak out about abuse that occurred a long time ago? Or is he implying that the father has threatened violence recently? This guy doesn’t seem too bright and with a temper like that, maybe his wife has far more to fear from him than from her father in law.
Paul is the kind of person who shuns the media spotlight. He obviously has been pushed over the edge to publicly comment like this. Why should Athena fear her husband more than the father-in -law?. It is the FIL who has been violent towards her and his own wife. He has no right to hit his wife, and he certainly has no business, NONE whatsoever, hitting Athena
Not the smartest move, obviously. But I’ve seen genuinely intelligent guys lash out like that and it was hard to blame them considering the violence they experienced in their childhood.
And why now? Well, contempt isn’t something you can easily get rid of and his father must have done something to set him off. Hopefully, his wife and child are alright.
I think I will be very nervous if I get this kind of man for husband. Feel sorry for Athena.
I hope he does not inherit his father’s immature gene and beat his wife.
Why the hell is he airing his personal, dirty laundry to the public? That’s really immature and just pure sad. His dad should’ve hit him instead.
he’s already over 40, right? so it must be tactical in lieu of some kind of physical response. putting him on blast must be worth it – because his dad must have a fragile ego and must be invested in a public image of himself whereas it sounds like the son is willing to sacrifice public opinion – he’s a native HKer so he knows how critical the public can be but he is willing to risk it or it doesn’t matter to him
you have to be willing to see the most important thing in your life as a front door that you can lock from the inside and not public opinion – if your neighbors think ill of you or gossip about you – the most important thing is that the door to your private home locks.
What happened with Paul and Steve? They seem to hate each or something. I thought that even if band mates cannot be close friends, at least they should not be enemies.
Here’s why they hate each other:
http://asianpopnews.com/paul-wong-and-steve-wongs-conflict-intensifies-i-dont-have-such-a-vicious-brother/
Paul need to control his anger. The way he answered the paparazzi seem like he have a problem control his temper. Seem like he is easily be provoke by the paparazzi.
I think Paul has temper issues, possibly inherited from his bad tempered father
I am against domestic violence and also using law in our own hands but I do understand how Paul felt when he posted such comments.
I, myself, was a victim of the same kind when I was a kid. My mother and sibblings had to live in fear back then but now…… we are witnessing the suffering of that old man!
All I can say is that karma will play its role somehow…
Karma is not a simple as you think nor does it always work. There are many holes to karma.
Hi,
I didn’t confirm that karma will always work nor as simple as it is. However, I know many real life experiences among people that I know…..
Don’t take this too personally!
Oh I know and I was talking in more general terms about karma not always working. Of course karma works at times and I have seen some cases of it working, but also cases of where it does not.
Maybe his father has been causing much embarrassment for Paul & the rest of his family in public, so he takes his threat to his father public as well….??? tick for tat? Only people from HKG will know. People like us who cant even read Chinese, no way to know 🙂
Social Media…both enabling and destructive.
God is good
Weird that he will air these type of info. in social media.. especially when Asian like to keep things in the dark.
Feel sorry for Athena tbh… to be caught up in all this?
The reason why Paul is so angry is because his father has hit Paul’s mother and Paul’s wife Athena very recently.
What I do not get is that people do not seem to be addressing the fact that what this control freak tyrant is doing is wrong. Why should he hit Paul instead. Maybe airing this on the web was not a good idea, but maybe Paul felt he was at his last recourse.
Put yourself in Paul’s shoes. For many years you watch your father physically abuse your mother, yourself and your siblings, and now he is even hitting your wife, and not for the first or second time. Imagine that. This man should be in jail.
Dont invite your inlaws in upcoming Chinese New Year then.
@Tvbfanatic
I agree it is ad that Athena has to be caught in he middle of this, in more was than one.
I can consider myself lucky. My parents adore my wife and her parents. I could not have asked for more wonderful in-laws. My parents My dad never laid a hand on my wife. We all get together a lot, especially for the CHINESE HOLIDAYS and we have a lot of fun.
I meant it is sad in my above comment
Like father like son situation. They both need therapy.
Not fair what you said Kiwi. Where does it say paul beat his wife or his mother or anybody. Where it says he attacked anyone with knife. Maybe he need help for the nightmare he went through with his pop beating his ma, but to say what you say, is just not right.
im here for you athena anytime
Never understood why this woman pick him anyway. He looks bad, talks bad and even now acts bad. Haha LOL… Yes, you can threaten him in your own home and steam it off but on social media? What like he can easily retaliated and gain sympathy from his fans or what?? This is ridiculous I mean we obviously don’t know what happened but regardless, isnt asians usually keep anything negative in their own home and now he’s using this new technology to get back to his so called dad who gave birth to him? This is actually really ridiculous any way you think or look at it.
Why should Paul be the one who should be beaten, why should Athena be afraid of him? I get the impression that a lot of people are extremely angry at Paul for airing the family matter on social network, but are ignoring what the dad did to these poor women.
I realise that the Chinese like to let the outside world think that the culture is superior and more innocent and pure than other cultures. Someone mentioned that the Chinese like to keep their negative stuff private. Is that why Paul is being cursed out?. I guess it is because he brought shame and dishonor to the culture by going to the web with he family matter.
Paul’s father like to give others the impression that he is a loving, caring wonderful husband father and father-in-law. What he really is a woman beater, child beater, control freak and a bully. Maybe Paul had had enough and wanted the Asian culture to see the monster his dad really is
This man had no business hitting his wife and he certainly was out of line to be beating up Athena. I guess for a lot of people they don’t seethe bi deal. After all beating these women to keep them in line is a TRADITIONAL thing that hss passed down from many generations, so what is the big deal with Mr. Wonc continuing the tradition. However what Paul did was so shameful tat it brought dishonor to us. That is the impression given. ne older Chinese couple even told my wife, it is the man place to keep the women grounded as patriarch of the family. We know what her husband does to her.
Although it was not the smartest move for Paul to put the issues on social network, he probably was so angry and fed up when he did it. What he did is the way lesser evil to what his jerk of a father is still doing.
I agree that it wasn’t the smartest move for Paul to post this up in weibo (legal implications since he threatened to kill his father), I was surprised that many people (mostly Asians/Chinese) were blaming Paul for airing his family dirty laundry, citing he has shamed his family.
If anyone hit my mother or spouse, they’d be ending up in jail, father/siblings or not. Paul is already kind enough for not kicking his father ass and reporting him to the police for domestic violence.
@sehseh: were blaming Paul for airing his family dirty laundry, citing he has shamed his family
I’m not against Paul airing family dirty laundry but against the way and place he chose to air it- expressed as a uncontrolled rant and a threat to shame his father on a social network.
First, to me, publicly shaming someone on a social network, and a family member at that, is not only pointless as in doing nothing to improve the bad currtent situation but also smack of cowardice.
Second, exactly what does Paul hope to get out of his revelation on his father besides aggravating a bad situation even more?
Third, there are different more honorable and upfront routes to take care of this situation than shaming his father. Paul should have just get an injunction against his father to keep away from his mothre and wife and baby. Anything but this belligerent outburst about murder his own father.
Fourth: People tend to take you more seriously if you look to your own behavior first in how you expressed your feelings and thoughts.
Woah, please ignore my typos.
He is just being overly dramatic. Most of the time it is the quiet one that you should be afraid of. I don’t see how posting this publicly will help him. If his father was violent or threatened violence report him to the police. Posting threats and even defaming your father for public shaming won’t help secure your loved ones safety.nall it does is to prove nowadays people have no filter. They blurt out absolutely everything Ian’s then cry their privacy was infringed when reporters asked about it. In western world critics will call him a fame w…e.i will call him seeking attention. Surely he must have friends he can pour his heart out instead of to Internet where everything is forever?
@Funn, how can you say that Paul defamed his father. Are you suggesting that Paul is telling lies on his father that will affect his father’s character and credibility and hurt his chances of attaining work, good character etc?. That is what defaming means, last time I checked. Why do I get the impression that except for myself and maybe three others, everyone seems to think what the father is doing is okay.
Because I have not first hand knowledge of whether his father was the abusive monster. All I have is a rant on Weibo and the likes. If his father was that violent, shouldn’t he be making a police report and let the police investigate? And the fact he didn’t and did not take any action means the father may feel defamed and has a cause in libel/defamation. And that is defaming as you explained it.
He sounds like having attention deficit disorder. What a loser.
His father is who is the loser, and a cruel monster too. I would rejoice if he is thrown in jail. Waste of old space.