Aimee Chan’s Dream Marriage
A woman’s desire is to be able to find an ideal destination – a man who loves and cares for her. For Aimee Chan (陳茵媺), the concept of love is to simply go with the flow. Currently in a sweet relationship with Moses Chan (陳豪), did Aimee already find her Mr. Right?
“The relationship between people is very intriguing. There needs to be coordinated timing. When I was young, I imagined getting into a relationship after my studies, and then experiencing marriage and having children, creating a family of my own. But reality isn’t as perfect as imagination, because we’re not Cinderella who has a pair of glass slippers. There are always so many factors involved in a relationship, and people’s personalities are so complex. Perspectives change as time pass.”
Aimee wishes everything to be natural, and as long as everyone is peaceful and happy, things will turn out fine. After meeting the right person, it is important to cherish one another. Speaking of Moses, Aimee said, “Fortunately, our personalities are very similar. We often think the same way, and so little problems don’t become big ones. It is easy for us to get along, and arguments are rare. But it’s the same to whomever I’m trying to get to know better. Patience and respect is the most important.”
Asked if she will design her own marriage in the future, Aimee smiled and replied, “I did think of preparing myself before, but after seeing so many good friends go through the process, I think I won’t end up doing so since it’s too complicated. It doesn’t matter where the marriage is held, because the most important thing is having the groom with me at that moment.”
The perfect wedding for Aimee would be a mix of a Chinese traditional wedding and a western style wedding. Since marriage is a big event in a woman’s life, she does not want it to be too simple with just the signing of the wedding contract. Having a ceremony would make it more memorable.
In terms of wedding gowns, Aimee wants something that is not overly fashionable. She believes the gown’s cutting is very important, and can easily bring upon different tastes. Aimee loves classical vintage looks, and hopes her gown will feature the style.
“The best would be to find a unique combination of materials. For example, the lace on my wedding gown can be from a tablecloth or curtain some years ago. I think vintage things have their own lives and stories. It’ll be like gathering friends from different places so the whole thing becomes more unique. There is very little chance that the same product will be made again with the same resources.”
Source: Weddinghk.hk via kuangaitvb.com
This article is written by Shirley for JayneStars.com.
tablecloth wedding dress…
LOL
Sounds a bit strange/too casual for a wedding but honestly I find her reasoning very convincing/logical. Plus, vintage is in style these days anyway.
I’m so over Moses & Amy… just get married or break up… whatever…. we need some new couples happening!! 🙂
This one has had enough media coverage already!!
you ‘re not really over it. if you;re over it – you won’t be reading this let alone commenting
Then why on earth to you bother commenting on these articles about them? Just ignore it if you are really over them.
Hahaha, tablecloth! OCAD’s hipsterness grew on her. 😛
she capture him due to her bubbly sunshine n happy personality.. so lucky both
Yes, and I hope they will both end up having a really happy marriage.
“Since marriage is a big event in a woman’s life, she does not want it to be too simple with just the signing of the wedding contract. Having a ceremony would make it more memorable.”
Sorry Aimee, but that’s a completely personal perspective. My wife had no interest in a ceremony at all, nor wanted to be the focus of attention. (Nor did I really). We both preferred a simple ceremony with JUST family and a justice of the peace. I think the ceremony was 20 minutes 😛
IMHO, too many people put so much on the ‘event’ that they forget about what they are actually doing. Everything has to be ‘perfect’ and if it isn’t, the ‘day is ruined’ – it’s terrible. I’ve seen grooms and brides totally stressed out over the wedding. It’s a lot of pressure, and it’s very expensive. I know couples who end up starting life by adding large wedding debts to their already growing debt pool (houses, cars, furniture, etc…).
All that energy spent, all that leadup, all that attention.. and then the next day after? nothing.. just debt. Is it any wonder some people (both male/female) slip into depression after the day?
again, imho, the focus of the day should be the couple choosing to live their life together.. not the food, the hall, the clothing, the gown, etc….
It resonates to my way of thinking. Well worded. (I am another female of same outlook .)
If only all women were like your wife. It will certainly make things a lot easier for us men 🙂
i’m a woman and i’m not into the big wedding thing either. i rather just sign papers at the registry office and be done with.
Agreed, I think the same way … it’s a lot less hassle (conflicts, stress, pressure, tension, etc.). But, for people with money, why not?
i’m against marriage in the first place and i’m not even old enough to get married. but i think your way of thinking is what i would go for if i was getting married. very logical 🙂
I have done that..a simple wedding..and now wish that I have more to remember of that day..so I totally agree with Aimee that wedding is a very special event in one’s life and that having some simple, tasteful ceremony will help to make it memorable.
Why not have a wedding now? You can still have a simple ceremony and a memorable event. It doesn’t just have to be at the start of the marriage. Renewing ones vows can be just as special. My wife and I have discussed just that… maybe on our 20th or 25th anniversary having a small ceremony with family on a beach in Hawaii 🙂
Celebrations can be had anytime!
I’m with tvbfanatic in regards to keeping it simple for the same reasons… but to Angs comment in regards to having a memorable event…, wouldn’t having a loving marriage for 10, 20, 50, years BE an memorable event entirely to you instead of just one day? Just my opinion, no offence intended.
It’s always heart warming to see two people in love coming into matrimony. All the best to Moses and Aimee. Let there be love, respect. Never give up to discover more about each other. Curiosity is a contributing factor to lasting marriage. Good things doesn’t end with marriage. In fact, marriage is the best excuse to make things sparkle. Hot and sizzling… Have fun.
I wanted to post this story here, although, not sure how many will read it since the original Jaynestars article was so long ago..
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/story/2013/06/20/toronto-wedding-flap.html
THIS is why weddings have lost their way… take a look at the bride’s comments..
“Weddings are to make money for your future.. Not to pay for peoples meals. Do more research. People haven’t gave gifts (sic) since like 50 years ago,” the bride wrote in one of the messages.
What? Weddings are to make money? Did she really sit down and just invite people in the hopes of making money? it’s absolutely terrible that during what is supposed to be a day of celebration that in the end, it was only about getting money from people.
When you invite someone to a wedding, you do so with the hopes they’ll come and witness and share an event with you… not because you want money. Don’t expect a gift in return! Terrible. Utterly terrible. Most likely a friendship ruined over greed.
This is why both my wife and I opted out of the whole huge “marriage ceremony” lie… the industry has twisted the event.. we had a simple ceremony that was meaningful.. not lost in the dinner, the dresses, the guest list or the gifts.
This remind of ACOH, Dr Yiu’s younger brother Ah Yuet held a grand funeral to kill two birds with one stone: as a funeral and as money making opportunities from the condolence money from guests.