Alex Fong Doesn’t Want Another Child
When Alex Fong (方中信) and Hoyan Mak (莫可欣) were still dating, they came to an agreement that they would not have kids. In late 2007, the former Miss Hong Kong winner surprised Alex with a message that she was three months pregnant.
“It took me two weeks to take in the information,” Alex said.
Alex and Hoyan registered for marriage two days before their daughter, Fu Ka Ching (符迦晴), was born on June 9, 2008.
The 50-year-old actor told the press at the time that one was enough and he was not planning to have another baby anymore. “One is enough! I have to carry that package with me for the next twenty or more years. I can’t buy cars, watches, or yachts anymore. I can’t be that charismatic, prodigal son anymore either. Now, I have to be a caretaker.”
The carefree Alex did not seem to be very paternal at first, but after becoming a father, Alex settled down and spent most of his private time with his family. He was seen taking his daughter to school, attending parent-teacher conferences, and often took time off from work to go on vacation with his daughter.
Agreement Not Reached
Although Alex is satisfied with just one child, Hoyan, on the other hand, wants more. Sudden Weekly reported that Hoyan is actually interested in having another baby, but she could not come up to a final agreement with Alex.
On March 16, Alex attended Stefan Wong’s (黃長興) wedding as his groomsman, leaving Hoyan to pick up Ka Ching herself from a horseback riding school in Sheung Shui. A Sudden Weekly reporter overheard Hoyan’s conversation with other parents at the school, saying, “I really do want to go for a son. In fact, I wouldn’t mind having two more, but I don’t know if that will happen.”
Sudden Weekly believed that Hoyan’s reasons for having another child is because she felt insecure around her husband. Before giving birth to Ka Ching, Alex regularly had rumors with his female costars. Although his romantic rumors have dwindled in recent years, Alex’s recent rumor with mainland Chinese actress, Kong Wei (孔维), reportedly frightened Hoyan.
In the next six months, Alex will shoot for two mainland Chinese dramas back-to-back. As a result, the A Great Way to Care 2 <仁心解碼 II> star does not have plans to renew his TVB contract anytime soon. Alex’s decision to stay in mainland China allegedly caused great worry for Hoyan, which prompted her decision to have another baby in order to tie Alex back to Hong Kong.
A source close to the pair said, “Alex earns a lot more in the mainland, but Hoyan rather wants Alex to stay with TVB. She doesn’t mind the lower pay. She’ll just be thriftier on their spending.”
Alex and Hoyan could not come up with an agreement and have recently been giving each other the cold shoulder.
On March 20, Alex accepted a phone interview from to Sudden Weekly. “I don’t have the qualifications to shoot for another [baby],” Alex said with a sigh. “One is already enough. Definitely do not want another. It will be too much to handle.”
When Alex found out that Hoyan had mentioned to her friends that she desired to have a son, Alex sounded surprised. “What! She told you guys? Really? It’s enough! One is enough! Everything is too expensive now!” What if she accidentally gets pregnant like last time? “If it’s an accident… then I will have to accept it, but I will try not to kill any lives!” Will you practice safe sex? “Ay, I am quite old already. I’m not very interested in [sex] anymore!”
Alex confirmed that he will be spending the next six months in mainland China to shoot two Chinese dramas, and is not planning to renew his TVB contract. “I want more freedom!” the actor exclaimed.
Source: Sudden Weekly #921 via kuangaitvb.com
This article is written by Addy for JayneStars.com.
I didn’t even know he has a child. Sounds like a reluctant father but he married the mother, legitimise his child and settled down as a father. Can’t complain much about that.
““Ay, I am quite old already. I’m not very interested in [sex] anymore!””
And there you have your solution Alex. Don’t have sex with your wife! Guarantee no pregnancy!
Funn,
I believe it was Alex’s marriage and being a father that changed Ekin Cheng’s perspective on marriage. Despite his comments, Alex apparently dealt with his new roles well enough to convince that a man doesn’t lose his identity and can still balance his interests.
Why would you even make such statements like that? When your child grows up and look back at the articles floating online, she’ll be like “so I was an accident”.
But she was an accident. I am sure the kid can deal with that.
I disagree. Kids are the most receptive towards their surroundings. On the other hand, kids can be very mean. When you interact with all kinds of people at school, who have access to the media and internet, what makes you think that other students won’t use it to taunt her in the near future. She’s also a celebrity’s daughter. She will be hounded by paparazzi who will twist stories and say malicious things. At the point she might start questioning herself and own existence.
That is like thinking too much isn’t it? At least the parents didn’t have sex tape with resulted in her creation. That I can understand the turmoil. Alex is being very candid with his reaction which is honest. I’d rather he be honest with his feelings than be pretentious and then be the actual worst father.
yeah I agreed this is not something you should say publicly, honesty is good but not publicly esp if you are a celebrity, has to consider the little one’s feeling. Sadly, a lot of people don’t respect kids as human being, and thought their feelings are not important.
actually the whole issue lies on his wife’s selfishness, she shouldn’t force her way to insisting having kids if the other partner doesn’t want to and worst is that she had agreed from the start for not having kids. she should respect him and her own self. if she wants to have one, then she should consider on leaving him or having children and raise them by herself and continuing being his gf. is better that way.
so to have alex fong to even marry and being dedicated father, it says a lot he is a responsible man and should respect him for not having another one more child. that is what we call mutual respect.
I agree. The way Alex is handling the press is hurtful for his child. But then again, it is the media that is more cruel than he.
Iris,
“He was seen taking his daughter to school, attending parent-teacher conferences, and often took time off from work to go on vacation with his daughter.”
Although Alex said he didn’t plan to become a father, he didn’t ask Hoyan to get an abortion. Furthermore, the article also mentions that he is an involved father. If his daughter has vivid childhood memories with her father, then that is more important than what his original intentions for his own life was. Obviously, Alex already put behind his own priorities one way or another due to his daughter’s birth.
Our original intentions for our life plans may be disrupted or circumstances may take us in a completely different path, but as long as we take responsibility and make the best of the situation, that’s what matters. And Alex has already done that.
Totally agree with Jayne. As long as the child is loved and cared by the parents, “accident or planned” should not be an issue to a child.
Just because your child was an accident does not mean that you love them any less. Also, IF ALex is a responsible father and his daughter experiences it all then why would she believe these BS articles that may or may not be true in many cases???
Just because you are 50 does not mean that men don’t like to have sex anymore. There are many that are way older but still want to. Maybe he just does not want his wife to get accidently pregnant again?? it is sad when you are not on the same page especially when it comes to having kids. Marriages and relationships can easily break apart because of that.
“Life is What Happens To You While You’re Busy Making Other Plans…”
Seriously, the reaction here is way too dramatic, even TVB will go “No, we shall pass on that for a dramatic series”.
Give this guy a break. Children these days need to toughen up. They need to understand adults make mistake. To them she may be a beautiful mistake. Just because you’re a mistake does not mean you’re worthless. We don’t plan a lot of things but a lot of things happen anyway. He is being candid, honest and open about his reaction, feelings and this is probably how most new fathers feel anyway when they’re not prepared for children. Should he lie and say “I was prepared from the get go” when he wasn’t? I respect him for his opinion. he is doing his duty as a father, and he loves his child. Just because he said he never had any intention of having her child does not mean he does not love her. Children should not be mollycoddled. I hated The Iron Lady movie but one quote stayed in my mind. Something about people asking other people how they feel when feeling is such an unsure thing. People should ask what do they think. I am sure the girl can deal with the whole father-shocked thing. This is a non-issue.
Yes I do agree with you Funn, children need to understand that their parents sometimes do make mistakes too and you are right that it is better that he is candid and honest with it because he has already came to accept the fact that he has become a father and do what he can for his family. I think that is actually respecting his daughter by being sincere and honest, even if the truth isn’t always pretty.
That is much better than parents painting a perfect picture of themselves to their children, expecting themselves to be perfect moral role models for their children, being all self righteous on their high horse, then bam one day the kid finds out the parents did something bad, be it tell a lie, have an affair, didn’t want them intentionally etc, and the kid becomes shattered. The perfect parents image falls apart into lies and hypocrisy. So yes, honesty and sincerity and growing to love one’s child, I think is better than pretentious and unloving.
If Alex has given her enough love and care when she was young, I’m sure reading this article when she grows up won’t affect much.
I don’t think one article will erase all the love and care in her memories.
This subconscious thing affect a child more than an adult because a child is not as logical as an adult.
Hmmmm..that depends.
I am sure she will feel hurt upon reading them.
I don’t think she would be that hurt since she will know fact from fiction… If she knows how the press is versus what her father actually does for her, then these articles will become nothing….
Let’s just hope. I just don’t think it’s a good idea to reveal so much. He doesn’t seem to really enjoy fatherhood , like he’s doing it for the sake of what a father should do. “I have to carry this package” . . .
@ UNI
Which parent have not sometimes lamented the lost of time and freedom after having kids? But, these same parents will also fuss over their kids, doted on their kids, worried about their kids, love their kids.
He could have done much less if he doesn’t enjoy fatherhood.
Yeah she will feel hurt but guess what? She will snap out of the hurt. Her father is doing his best. If she can’t even understand that, then she is worse child to her father than her father as a parent.
Agree, she’ll think “So I was an accident and you don’t really care but are doing it out of obligation????”
Not that she’ll disown him or anything, just that he won’t be a good father and she won’t be a good daughter and Hoyan will always be in the middle.
Being an “accident” isn’t what is hateful in his comments. I know people who were not “planned” and they are great and well adjusted. Nothing wrong with them at all, and why would there be? Their parents loved them.
What is hateful in his comments are the comments about being “tied down” and “not able to buy cars and watches” – those are a lot more hateful then being an “accident” as he is essentially saying that the child robbed him of his life/things he wanted to do.
At the very least he still did the right thing by taking responsibility, it’s too bad that he sounds like he did so begrudgingly.
The problem is not being an accident, but unloved. If the child is loved, she should not be bothered by something like that.
Honestly, really an unlikely match! He could have done so much better! Still dont know how the heck she won Miss Hong Kong!
Angela,
Hoyan Mok seems to be an easygoing girlfriend. It was probably her personality that attracted Alex more, since she gave him a lot of freedom.
Isn’t that what women want, that their guys appreciate their personalities more than their looks?
Yeah, women are a contradiction sometimes. They want a man to appreciate his woman for her personality. But, when they see a hot guy with a not so hot partner, they complain that the couple doesn’t match and the guy should get a better looking girl. 🙁
Exactly, personality should always be more important since we all will get old one day. I actually would not be happy if I were attractive and to have my future husband/boyfriend like me just for my looks. That would not be very healthy or last long lasting…Even if it did last, it will not be fulfilling…
Agree. Mok Hoyan was not that pretty when she won Miss Hong Kong, but she seemed to have a very good personality which attracted Alex Fong.
‘He could have done so much better!’ Better how? What is so wrong with Mok Hoyan? She’s not pretty enough? That’s just a matter of taste. Judging Hoyan by her appearance is shallow and subjective. Wanna know how she won Miss Hong Kong? The judges in the panel saw a smart, attractive, well-spoken, educated, talented person who can represent Hong Kong. That’s how!
We could say she could have done so much better than Alex Fong, and this is how. She could have found someone who wanted to have more children, someone better looking, someone with more money, someone who makes her feel secure so she doesn’t have to worry about him cheating on her and think she has to have another baby to tie him to HK. But then again, this is all subjective. So let’s stop saying how one or the other could have done so much better. That’s not the issue.
I think the real isssue is she wants more kids but he doesn’t and they need to figure things out without ending up resenting each other and ruining their kid’s life.
Well said! Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Agree and true. Everyday we see lots and lots of ‘unmatchable’ couples out in the streets or acquaintances that we know in our lives so for celebs it’s the same concept. Usually, when he/she is HOT does NOT mean they will find their better halves equally so and yes we will say really?? haha But it happens all the time so it’s really NOT suprising at all. I have a colleague, she is older than her b/f 6 years and he is the better looking one in the relationship, why they matched? I think it’s their personality. Guy still have tattoo’s even when he’s soon hitting 30 and the woman is not the conservative type either. hahah She’s a heavy smoker as well as being older in their relationship so should we care about whether or not they will last? They themselves probably don’t care. One of my male colleague who will soon to have a masters degree and he actually a g/f that is not even a H.S. graduate? So every day we will see many many of situations as these and we are baffle by it but still I guess we will never know if they will last or whatever but one thing i am sure. There must be some type of common ground and similarities that they both have for them to actually be attracted to one another or they wouldn’t have lasted this long. Also, some women definitely wouldn’t accept marriage due to a pregnancy or kids before marriage but the way I see, lots of men/women get married JUST BECAUSE the baby came along first. It’s not even weird anymore which means really the world is changing constantly and lots of reasonings are NOT as same as before.
You are so shallow.
agreed with UNI. I dont wanna judge ppl who hates responsibility, children. If you already have one, just shut up and move on with life. Whatever you said today, will deeply hurt your child’s feeling in the future.
All the females really hate Hoyan.
Well Alex Fong is hot looking. Dont hate the player, hate the game. She got him cuz she’s pregnant. Never married someone cuz they are preganant.
And plus, getting pregnant does not make the relationship better. Hope they get a divorce. It doesn’t seem like they are on the same page.
Alex, it’s not u don’t wanna have sex. You don’t wanna have sex with Hoyan. Hahaha
You should not say things like that… I can’t believe that you would say that you hope for them to divorce. If you mention looks, HoYan doesn’t look that bad and they can always work things out if they really love and care for each other.
I agree with HeTieShou.
They will work out things if they really care and love for each other. And I could understand why Alex Fong would be concerned if they had another baby.
I looked at older pictures of HoYan and honestly, she doesn’t look that bad. Compared to the other beauty pageant winners, she looks healthy and doesn’t seem that she’s bony:/
Did I seriously just read that?
I can’t believe that I just read your comment. How can you live your life like this? How can you have such an evil thought? Let just say, if you are married to a man and turned out to be the guy I hate so much. Will you be happy and do what I say if I get off telling you to divorce your husband? I hope not. I am sure that he married her just because she was pregnant. They have been dating for years. Sooner or later they would wed each other. Don’t be jealous because he chose her after all. This is fate. Hoyan might not be prettier than others but it doesn’t matter at all. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” A person like you have no right to judge. Besides, I don’t think Alex would never appreciate if he ever has chance to read this comment of yours.
correct: “I am sure that he married her not just because she was pregnant.”
Correct: “I don’t think Alex would appreciate if he ever has chance to read this comment of yours.”
I agree with you Nori!
You guys have no clue what a man think, then less power for you. Guys will always think differently from a man. If this guy don’t wanna have sex with his wife meaning he’s cheating. So shut it with you lame positive work it out. Get real. It’s 2013. He can find another girl.
So shut it with you lame positive work it out. Get real. It’s 2013. He can find another girl.
^
I’m sorry to sound offensive, but what you have been saying is just plain RUDE. You say that we do not have a clue. Perhaps, we do not necessarily have a clue on what a guy wants. However, just because a married guy does not want to have sex with his wife, it does not mean that he is cheating on her. In both of these comments of yours, you are not only putting 冷水 on them but wishing them to get a divorce. Who in the world would wish someone to get a divorce or is hinting to someone to get “another girl”? If they truly LOVE each other, they will work things out.
And it’s not that Alex Fong is irresponsible and doesn’t want to have sex with his wife but he is worried for that child (if they do desire for a second baby)’s future and the dangers of pregnancy (since Hoyan is around 43) as well as their own futures. He is recognizing the potential factors.. Right now, Alex Fong is around 50 and his health might deteriorate due to his hectic schedule. Furthermore if they do have a baby, by the time he is 70, that child would only be in the 20s, the “prime” of his/her life. Also don’t forget that the living costs in HK is rising as well. :3
Not really cuz they’ve been dating for many years before she got pregnant. I’m sure that in those years they’ve been through thick and thin, and were able to resolve disagreements. And considering how shallow you are, it doesn’t even matter if you’re drop dead gorgeous – I’m sure Alex Fong won’t even tap that anyways.
hmmm..not really nice comments there about the daughter.
The tone of the article made it sound like Alex doesn’t enjoy fatherhood. He just don’t want to have more children.
He did admitted that he was shocked and unprepared when he learned that he was going to be a father (he and Mok lived together for many years) but he doted on his daughter. He even call her ‘boss’ and apart from his motorbike hobby, his tweets are all about his interaction with his daughter.
One thing to note, he will be one formidable father-in-law. LOL.
Awww, that’s very sweet. Actions speak louder than words, and his actions show that he loves and dotes on his daughter so whether he never wanted kids or any more kids, is unimportant.
Alex doesn’t want to have kids ,it is good he is honest but the way he send the message sounded frustrated and mean ,i think his wife feel the ‘pinch’ after reading this article…and he said he cant buy watches,yatch and etc sounded like the daughter is the reason why he cant buy luxuries anymore or less ..and if nt having a child is because of material it is not acceptable reason.it will be difference story if his reason not to have child is because of other better reason
How come Alex’s daughter sir name is “Fu” instead of “Fong”?
Alex’s real surname is Fu. Fong Chung Shun is his stage name.
Im watching A Great Way To Care 2 and his acting is so bad-so wooden, stiff, unnatural, forced….you name it. His acting style is like Bowie Lam’s but Bowie actually has charisma to pull it off. This guy…..is like watching a corpse.
But he’s sexy. At least some good points.
@Sushiroll
Agree!! I thought am I the only one thinking that?
But….
@Funn
SUPERRRR AAAGREEEEE with u!! Hahas xD
Been watching AGWTC2 as well and don’t find his acting bad like you said. Have enjoyed watching him thus far and hope he’ll have more screentime in the episodes to come. In fact all the leads acted pretty well IMO, even Yoyo Mung, who is convincing as a doctor who sticks to her own principles and is not afraid to voice them.
Even Christine? I find she overacts in some scenes. Ditto tavia.
Not Edwin… he’s simply unbearable to watch.
kids these days are highly unlikely to look after their parents as they grow old. Most likely is that they will dump them in a nursing home and then have a quarrel about the funeral bills when the parents die. So all the hard earned cash the parents used to raise their kids are all a waste.
I’m spineless but it’s reality.
If parents dump kids in childclare, I guess we cannot blame them? Esp if those need to work
If Mok Ho Yan’s main reason for having more children is to “tie” her husband down, then that’s not good. Obviously she has some trust issues. Anyways, maybe Alex doesn’t want anymore children because he’s already 50. I don’t think he wants to be worrying about his children by the time he’s 70!
Sounds like they reached an agreement, but she got a change of heart and planned getting pregnant anyway. No wonder he was shocked lol
Well he can be honest but there isn’t any need to put his feelings onto print right?
Yes I don’t like the use of ‘package’ too.
Ekin decided not to have kids due to high costs of raising them too.
They are actually much better well off than most of the ordinary people.
It may be a matte of translation – in Chinese, a package doesn’t have that literal of a meaning – it’s more like a burden or responsibility. And let’s be real – a kid is a HUGE burden/responsibility if you’re going to be a good parent and actually care about them, esp in Chinese culture, where you will care about your kid for the rest of your life. My grandparents always tell my mom that she’s not wearing enough clothes or eating enough, and my mom’s almost 60!
so why in the world did alex fong had sex with hoyan mak in the first place, only to find out he that he is not interested in her now, he didn’t think properly before getting into a relationship? stupid guy! he should have chosen for ‘sex for hire’ instead
woww… after that phone interview with the reporter, it most likely kill all the sexual activity in their marriage. Alex will always be too afraid if “this time there will be an accident” everytime they get intimate. Thank you, reporter, for ruining another marriage.
in another 10 more years, he’ll be 60, won’t be that good looking anymore, no mainland actress would want to be with an old man
U are wrong!
As long as you got the $$$$, everything is possible in today’s society!
did come across my mind but didn’t want to type it in comment cos don’t want to put down some people
Hi Jayne, I would like to ask you if there is a typo mistake on the Alex’s daughter surname.
Is her name Fu Ka Ching (符迦晴) or Fong Ka Ching?
Oke, Alex Fong’s real name as I checked on the website is Fu Lik (符力).
I dont know how it is in HK, but in the US, if everyone is honest with themselves, I would say half of kids born these days are an “Accident”.
It doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t loved or dont have a great family life with loving parents though. That is what really matters in the end. – Not whether they planned to have the child or not.
Parents like to lie and say that they “planned” for kids, but the truth is usually something else. Nothing for the child to be ashamed of though, it is not up to them and should not reflect on them in any way.
This guy sounds like a douchebag. First of all, old people do still have, want, need sex. They still feel the same way a younger person. Secondly, it’s called being selfish when you complain about not getting a yatch because you now have the burden to raise a child.
1. For the record, some older males do not prefer sex anymore. It happens.
2. Feeling the same way as a younger person — No, it would be utterly impossible for all the older men in this world to feel the same way.
3. Selfish or not, it’s up to how you perceive it. The way he answered, you could have thought of it as, ‘Hahaha, yeah if not a child, I could have bought myself this’. Yes, a lot of us go through that kind of thought processes. Sort of like how some parents tell their kids in the open blue, ‘AIYAH, if you didn’t come out… I’d be doing this and that’ But is that enough to judge if the parents aren’t loving or caring towards their children. Not one bit.
He doesn’t sound very sensitive and caring at all. Let’s hope that it’s all just macho talk on his part, and that he really doesn’t treat his wife that way. I’m concerned on his “withholding sex” part. He seems like he still wants to be a young, desirable guy, so if he’s not having sex with his wife, I’m sure he’s getting it somewhere. I feel sorry for Mok Hoyan.
I agree, he does sound a bit overbearing to make sure a comparison. Something like I can’t be materialistic anymore if i have more children. Haha I am surprised they actually have kids since I thought both of them were really old already. LOL..even thou we still see him pairing up w/younger actresses we feel of he’s not that young anymore even thou he does still look good for a 50 year old. The woman, I have no idea who she is but i knew she was a MS. HK from a long time ago and she was NOT famous at all I doubt anyone will recognize her besides Alex Fong’s wife. She seems the kind that let their other 1/2 lots of freedom or he wouldn’t have picked her. I remember his ex was that ‘lan zi’ n she probably was a sticky one since they didn’t end up together.
LOL. It’s true he could have bought a yacht and so many more things if he didn’t have a child. At least he didn’t abort her so he could have his yacht.
I don’t know, but seems kinda similar to the times when your boyfriend told those lame male-humor jokes around his friends? And spoke to you in a gruffer voice around them? yet when you two are alone, he’s suddenly very willing to use baby talk again?
He’s probably a age-adjusted version of that, like how he didn’t want to be a family man, and
he obviously dotes on his daughter from his weibo, typing out andecotes about her probably feels easier when facing a machine.
Yet on both occasions speaking with the media, he gets more swag and machoish
The first – I’m no family man! I’m a guys guy.I want toys for men. Kids are a baggage!
the 2nd – Waa, no more kids and jokes about sex. I want freedom!
Well, he’s coined Hong Kong’s Richard Gere for a reason, I guess he’s just not comfortable answering the media as mr family man. 😛
richard gene adores and respects his current wife, this is richard’s second marriage, people learn from mistakes and think they doing right by marrying again but divorce is not encouraged in God’s eyes because it also means unforgiveness
At least He is a responsible father. Imagine Jackie Chan doing charity all over the world but refused to acknowledge his daughter.
How come the reporter is so ‘auntie’ in meddling people’s lives? I guess the low fertility issue really kicks in s even an entertainment reporter has to get involved. Haha.
Basically to me he is a decent man as he acknowledges his actions and takes his father’s role with responsibility where he can be selfish in requesting the woman to abort or not acknowledge the presence of the child.
His acting skill is like wine. So fragrant.
If this confession is bad, you must read this and tell me which is worse?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2303588/The-mother-says-having-children-biggest-regret-life.html