Alice Chan Said Ex-Husband Rarely Touched Her
Keeping her divorce a secret for five years, 45-year-old Alice Chan (陳煒) was in denial that her marriage with Taiwanese businessman James Yen (顏志行) had truly ended. Aside from the communication breaking down, Alice and James had a sexless marriage in which they were rarely intimate with each other. Her ex-husband’s behavior caused Alice to question her attractiveness and even self worth.
When they first met in 2006, Alice was 33 years old and she was three years older than James. After a whirlwind romance in which they were passionately in love, they got married in 2008. Retiring from acting, Alice moved to Beijing and Thailand due to James’ business needs.
Cooking and cleaning every day, Alice’s life was very mundane and she felt like she was a maid. In an earlier interview, Alice shared, “Other than work, he spent all his time at home, enjoyed my cooking, and wasn’t unfaithful to me. What more could I ask for…?”
But Alice did want more. Their conversations were filled with silence, and Alice started feeling like a piece of “human furniture”. Even when James was home, his mind was still on business matters and this took a toll on their sex lives. Alice revealed that James rarely touched her, “If our relationship was good and he frequently touched me, we wouldn’t have divorced!”
A lack of intimacy in a marriage can drive a couple apart, and this became a source of anxiety for Alice. This triggered Alice’s insecurities and damaged her confidence and sense of self-worth.
Their marriage was suffering and James finally suggested divorce in 2012. Left without a sense of direction, Alice flew to Taiwan to look for James one year after their divorce. Although both didn’t have romantic prospects, they knew that they couldn’t go back in time and remained friends instead.
Confiding in her close friends and going through therapy, Alice finally got back on her feet. But it took her five years to find the courage to announce her divorce publicly.
Filming for TVB also allowed Alice to focus on a goal and take her mind off her lackluster romantic life. Working tirelessly at TVB for the last six years, Alice is finally reaping rewards. Nominated for Best Actress for her performance in Deep in the Realm of Conscience <宮心計2深宮計> at the 2018 TVB Anniversary Awards, Alice admitted that she is highly interested in winning the award.
Source: On.cc
This article is written by Jayne for JayneStars.com.
pretty private stuff, more importantly what breaks the relationship is probably the loveless instead of sexless.
@m0m0 I think it is a combination of many factors that caused Alice’s marriage to break down. But physical intimacy is also very important to sustain a marriage and make the couple feel closer connected to each other, especially since men don’t always like to verbally communicate.
@m0mo
Yeah, absolutely agree…………there really is no need to share with the world about such private stuff………How would she like it if her ex-husband came out to the press and said that she didn’t have the sexuality or seductiveness to get his libido up so that is why he didn’t feel like touching her………….Best for both sides to just keep these things to themselves which the ex-husband seemed to have.
@yuaida yes and no? Sure it’s private stuff, however, it’s not untrue? Is it that much of an ashame to say why your marriage fail? Not be able to have intimate contacts can be a result of many reasons, not solely on she’s not attractive enough for him or not good enough in bed to get his libidos going! Also if he does come out, possibly be good for her, at least she will be able to learn where she fails.
@m0m0 Wasn’t he the guy who kept the divorce a secret for her for 5 years all because she doesn’t want it to be publicized? And now she feels the need to make this info public and goes this deep into their private details?
I feel so bad for the guy and think he wanted a divorce for more reason that has not be mentioned.
That’s crazy. What kind of guy will look at Alice Chan & don’t wanna touch her?? I can’t imagine work being so consuming that he doesn’t have time for her.
Even Mark Zuckerberg has time for his wife!
Also, very disappointing that she’s getting nominated for her role in DIRC. She deserves a nomination & has already won BSA in my heart, but not for DIRC.
@coralie to be fair, mark Zuckerberg gets to pick a young sexy wife for a wife? Like he’s rich enough that he has a field of women to choose from. I can’t say the same for this unknown businessman. And to this day, I still don’t think Alice is that hot/pretty, and the reason why he choose her might not be because of how attractive she is. Maybe he just need an obedient wife, who cook and clean and be a human furniture for him. A person’s look matter very little in a relationship, especially in the long run
@littlefish Mark Zuckerberg’s wife is one year younger than him and is a brilliant doctor.
Her name is Priscilla Chan and they met at Harvard. She is attractive but I like that they are together because of compatability and not superficiality.
For Alice, it sounds like there is no compatibility what so ever. Sex will fade if you don’t enjoy being around your spouse.
@potatochip didn’t know that part about his wife, however, my comment is still acceptable as in, he does have a field of women around him to realise which one will suit him the best. And mark has such a questionable personality that I also would not think he picked his wife due to love.
@littlefish word on the street is that priscilla made mark agree to spending at least a day a week with her in their prenup.
i think mark is with priscilla because they’re comfortable with each other. he knows she’s not with him for money as he didn’t have much when they started dating (from what i know anyways.) they did have a lapse in their relationship which led to a breakup before, but have since reconciled. i think if mark wasn’t so paranoid, he could’ve picked a lot of other women. but i like to think priscilla is a good woman who stuck with him through his highest and lows and so he decided to dedicate a lifelong commitment to her.
@littlefish I think saying Mark didn’t marry Priscilla for love is a bit presumptuous and demeaning to Priscilla. She is brilliant, kind, and a self-made woman. She must be hard working to go through medical school and residency to become a doctor. Why wouldn’t he love her? And why wouldn’t she love herself enough to marry someone that loves her?
I agree with @m0m0 that he is lucky to have her. They chose each other because they share values and are a good match.
@potatochip lol, ok, first of all, saying mark isn’t marrying his wife for love isn’t demeaning on his wife, as I did state that I’m a bit weary of his personality to think/trust he can love. He gave me a psychopath vibe. She can genuinely love him, I don’t doubt, but him, I just don’t trust mark, that guy is dodgy!
@coralie I don’t think Anita mum looks that great either lol, however, she does have that sultry aura, which Alice is still lacking. I saw her act when she was young and her face back then is mature for her age, and sure it doesn’t change now, but it just like it catch up with the age and now it’s appropriate.
@msxie0714 I actually don’t bother judging her look or how her look affect the marriage, it was the other comment, who said due to her good look, the husband should have no problem be intimate with her, and then I said she’s not hot to me. You can marry and be with someone if their look is just ok, so to him, she could be just ok.
Why would he marry her? Who knows? You are not him, how do you know it’s based on look solely? It could be 50-50, she doesn’t look bad, has a miss atv title to her name, must mean she is a looker, she’s obedient ? Content? Etc etc. many many reasons.
@littlefish someone’s appearance is not the only factor in choosing a partner, but it’s definitely one of the most important ones (at first, anyways, especially for men.) you’re saying looks doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage (well, that’s obvious, because nothing does.) but good looks help to first attract a relationship. i was being facetious when i asked how can anyone say no to her. if jay-z can cheat on beyonce, anything can happen. but for most normal folks, having such a beautiful partner, i would think it’s difficult to say no.
@potatochip well, actually, it’s somewhat hypocritical of me to comment on this, as i mentioned that alice’s exhusband shouldn’t have issues wanting to touch her. but i actually do know a young couple that hasn’t been intimate for a long time, even though they’re very compatible. i don’t think it’s a compatibility problem as they had no problems early on in the relationship as mentioned in the article. sometimes the problems can stem from psychological or physical stress.
but at least with the couple in my example, one of the partner has been like this the entire time in the relationship, so it’s not like it suddenly stopped happening just because. so that is a weird situation alice went through. personally i think they should’ve gone to couples’ counseling instead of breaking up.
@littlefish
humph! Alice looks way hotter than her dorky husband.
@msxie0714 beauty is in the eye of the beholder lol. It doesn’t matter what I feel or what you feel, at the end of the day, they don’t work together, irrespective of their look. Their problems are beyond their physical look
@littlefish
again, it’s always the female who’s judged for looks but not the male who can be ugly as hell and still demand a pretty wife.
@littlefish girl lol, what do you think about anita mui?
i think alice chan has a very sultry look to her. and if it wasn’t for her looks, doubt the business guy would be so attracted in the first place. he’s rich so he can have any woman he wants, but he chose alice…i can’t imagine it’s for any other reason other than her appearance. let’s be honest, guys are not going to tell you they’re interested in a woman’s personality first lol.
@littlefish
I first also have the same impression about Mark and Priscilla. Thinking that she’s such a lucky girl to have married one of the wealthiest and youngest in the world. Mark could and can get pretty much any woman he wants. Then my thought changed when I saw an interview of Priscilla. She is such a genuine, sincere, and kind person. You can tell that she’s very into what she’s doing about improving lives and doing good for children and future generations. She’s brilliant, smart, and candid. I think Mark’s actually luck to have her as a wife instead of the other way around. Much of the success of Mark is attributed to Priscilla to have given him ideas and propelled his empire forward. She’s truly one of the most beautiful person.
@m0m0 I don’t doubt Priscilla isn’t a great person, I just don’t trust Mark lol. However, we are not in their shoes, so who knows. I don’t think I ever mean/directly attack Priscilla lol, I did say it was mark I have problem with. He could totally use her because of how great she is, and if she’s blindly in love, she possibly couldn’t see him for who he is. Anyway, time will tell what kind of person mark zuckerberg is
@littlefish
well, if he wants to run for president then he better not do another stupid… oh wait, i had forgotten about our current president… perhaps the republicans are more open minded….
This is too private to be shared publicly.
Sometimes passion fizzled out and is replaced with friendship. I like her honesty and they parted ways amicably in that sense. I don’t think it is too private to share. Some women or men may relate to her in that sense. And the fact that she can talk about it means she’s ok with it now. However I hope she did ask her ex husband permission to talk about it. Sexless marriage is more of a dent on a man’s reputation than a woman’s.
It seems like she wants an active lifestyle indoor with the opposite sex. She shouldn’t have problems finding another man who wants her since most men are horny animals.