Felix Wong Defends Choice to Ignore Father: “I Am At Peace With My Conscience”
Felix Wong (黃日華) spoke out for the very first time since his elderly father’s dire situation came to light. The actor admits to an estranged relationship though declined to reveal the details. Believing that his latest controversy hides an ill-intended agenda, he attributes his father’s condition to bad karma, and emphasized that his family issues are far more complex than they seem.
When his stepmother publicly decried his absence by his ill father’s bedside, Felix was criticized by some for his unfilial behavior. He remained silent despite the local media’s one-sided reporting, seemingly unwilling to address the issue. His daughter Adrian Wong (黃芷晴) later provided a statement, saying that Felix has been working in China and will speak to the press soon.
On February 26, he was spotted at a soccer practice with the All Star Sports Association. Looking tired but calm, Felix noted that he has always kept personal matters private and will continue to do so. Asked about his father’s hospital stay and the subsequent media exposure, he feels that it is a setup and questions the timing of the reports. “I feel that the whole thing was planned! Why now? Why did these news surface just as my wife became ill?”
Although Felix does not want to dig deeper into his personal issue, he admits that he has a strained family relationship and feels justified in his inaction. “I have already mentioned in past interviews that I have a poor relationship with my family. I have always been very independent, so I am at peace with my conscience.” He remains vague about the circumstances behind the conflict, summing it all up with the concept of karma. “I feel like it is similar to a saying in Buddhism, ‘as you sow, so shall you reap’! If you perform good deeds, you will never receive bad karma!”
While Felix did not confirm whether he will visit his father at all, he shared that he has been in touch with his elder sister, and that relatives are currently handling the matter. He added that the issues are very complicated, and is confident that the truth will be unveiled in due time.
Source: Oriental Daily
This article is written by Katrine for JayneStars.com.
Just leave Felix alone. People who haven’t gone through family drama should keep their mouths to themselves.
but you see, reality doesn’t work this way. Not in the Chinese people culture. Chinese like to gossip, even within family members, they do gossip, comments about each others.
Harder with the fans and anti-fans to shut up, simply they WON’T. Felix is an actor, once you are a universal icon, people will talk about you whether it famliy drama, or who you dating, LOL!
There are plenty of Chinese Forum right now already posting in Chinese comments about this, how about go there and tell them to Shut Up eh? Telling people to keep their mouth shut when it come to an ACTOR, it will be impossible. Actors choose this profession and they know once they famous, they are the topic people to talk about.
If you don’t like people comment on your family drama, don’t be an actor, then nobody will give a s-h-i-t about you nor your family.
I’m sure most of us here have have some degree of famliy drama before, but who care about us? No one, we not celebrities.
There is a price for everything, take and give. All actors know that once they are in the entertainment industry, they can’t have any privacy.
Gossip, rumours, tabloids will come after them, this is a part of their profession. Yet, they still choose the road to stardom. Sure, no privacy. But in exchange, they got Money, Fame, spotlight, and nice house, nice car, nice wives, LOL!
This Felix news is still very fresh, give it some time, it will died down, people will get bore of it and no longer care to comment about it.
Agree ………… “Telling people to keep their mouth shut when it come to an ACTOR, it will be impossible. Actors choose this profession and they know once they famous, they are the topic people to talk about.”
If you are not a popular artiste, no one will talk about you or your family. This is the “price” for being a popular artiste.
UNI,
I support you. I know that being an actor you have to be subjected to the spotlight all the time, but it is becoming quite cruel what the media is reporting on Felix and his family now.
I think that the media and all of us netizens should just leave him alone. I totally agree with his comment on karma. Just because you are a parent does not mean that you are always right and it does not mean that you have always done right to your kids.
Quite honestly, if Felix his father has always been wonderful to his children, then there is absolutely no reason why Felix would not want to see his father despite the evil stepmom.
Think about it guys. Don’t always assume that children need to bow to their parents regardless of the kind of people that their parents are..
okay, so clearly he said that he does NOT want to visit his father, fine.
If that is what you choose Felix, then let it be. But I still wish your father get well, doesn’t matter what bad relationship you have with him, after all he is a 84 year olds old man, he does not have much time left.
Yup, karma does goes around, hope one day it won’t come to you Felix.
I am not sure if I believe in karma anymore. There are many that are selfish,evil and people yet they enjoy their life so much while there are great people who,continue to suffer. You really wonder if karma truly exists at all?
Ofcourse karma exist, see it with my own eyes before to the people in my life.
Evil people that haven’t face karma yet is becssue their time haven’t come. One life does not end until they die, karma does not find them now, it will find them later in life.
Even if it does exist,I do not find it consistent or fair.
“believe in karma, it cross time and dimension, it always find u soon later.” i believe, cause i saw it .
I have seen karma too,but as I have said it is not consistent. You also wonder if was all just a coincidence? I have also seen many cases where it does not work too so you really wonder about it?
We know its Felix family business, but its heartbreaking to see a son not visiting his sick elderly father. The worst his dad can do is hurt his mom and yes be mad but still see him. Regardless of what the father did, as a son should still visit, care and comfort him at this crucial time.
Idiot comment…
I support Felix. It’s his personal family business and no one knows the real reason behind his resentment, so people should not judge.
Agree.. it’s his business.. his dad could have done something terrible so now he doesn’t want to see him. No one knows but him so if he choose not to see him, he can deal with it later if his dad passes away. People should stop judging and let it be.
I agree. Until you are in his shoes and experience what he had gone through, you never really know what really happened. And actually I do believe that there are things done that can be so bad that it’s unforgivable even if it’s your own family.
Agree, but even if Felix visit to see his old ill father for few minutes in the hospital does NOT equal to being “forgiven” to your father.
He doesn’t have to forgive his father, but if his father get very ill and died later on, he will regret it if not see him for the last time.
LeilaFan: The article did not say that Felix didn’t or will not visit his dad. Please read the last paragraph. At least he’s checking in to make sure the situation is being taken care of.
JuJuBee: I totally agree with you. Felix’s personal matter doesn’t have to be laid out for the public to know.
I have read, and I am waiting for the update of the original article so I can read it in Chinese. Translating to English are not always 100% accurate.
While Felix did not confirm whether he will visit his father at all, ====== Have read, read many times. He did NOT confirm whether he visit his father or not. So we just have to wait as times goes by as if he ever visit his father.
felix’s personal matter doesn’t have to be laid out for the public to know.. thanks to his big mouth stepmom
So he should just go see his father even though his heart does not want to be there? I rather not see my kid, even on my death bed, if they do not want to truely be there for me. In your mind going to visit him may not indicate forgiveness, but to Felix it may and give his father false hope for something that isn’t there.
Must be hard on him making the decision not to see his dad. Maybe at a later time he might changes his mind.
I think its highly likely that his father may have hit his mom. Its very hard to forgive but thats still his father. My granddad hit my grandma when he was drunk and my dad once when he was mad. I hated what they done and would try to stop it but they r still ppl I love. Not an excuse but ppl w hard circumstance and lack of education do wrong things. That does not mean they are pure evil. I will still forgive than hold grudges.
I am not sure if it is that,but it can be more than that. He could have been a gambler and made life hard for his mom ,sister and him. None of us know for sure so I do not think we should jump to conclusions too much.
I have a feeling it may be that his father remarried and I think he did not like that. When you have a stepmother and step siblings that you do not get along with,it makes things more difficult.
It is sad that this family affair of Felix has become headline news. As much as I think Felix should visit and make up with his dad, we should respect his decision.
I just hope he won’t have any regrets in making this decision in not seeing his father…
@Bubblez
Agree, agree, agree.
I hope not too, I hope not.
I do not know why he feels so strongly against his father but it is his choice. His father must have done something to justify that reaction. all I wanna say is however much you hated your father, unless it is something truly unforgivable, Felix should just go and have a look at the old man before he dies. It is not for the old man but for himself, a sense of closure because if he doesn’t it could turn into regret. If it is something unforgivable, still go but give the father a piece of his own mind before the old man dies.
I agree with you Funn. I can understand where he is coming from but if his father suddenly passed away,he will have to live with that regret for the rest of his life. Even D-icky Cheung who has a strained relationship with his father said that he would come and see him if he was going to go if his mom asked him. After all, it is his father and I am sure he will regret it down the road if he does not see him one last time. He is 84 so he may not have much time left.
agree,”its not for the old men but for himself”.its true that buddhism say “as you sow so shall you reap”,but buddhisme also say to ppl to forgive,forgiving is the way to get out the circle of karma.and i think bad karma is also on felix side,otherwise he would not have to deal with such situation.so i hope felix can do some good deeds fore his own sake.
Rumors floating around is that his father is abusive toward his mother and pushed her to death. But of course, this is just rumors and there’s no way proving since Felix doesn’t want to acknowledge nor deny.
Ok,I sort of doubt that is true because I have a feeling if it was, his father may be in prison if they turned him anyways. Rumors are just rumors…
if it is true,then why didnt he cutt the ties when his mother has passed away in 2000,but until 2009 after his father remarried,in this nine years he still pay visits to his father.
Good point Kolo! I have a feeling that his rife with his father has something to do with his stepmother.
Rumours not true, here why:
Felix has been in the entertainment industry for 30+ years, and he is quite famous.
HK tabloids are famous for digging up celebrities private matters to make headline so they can make money. IF Felix’s were like what you said, it already been everywhere in the news already, 30+ in the industry like Felix is not a short time.
Look at Ada’s mom case, she just gambling alot, tabloids able to find out. Do you think tabloids won’t find out if Felix’s dad beat his mom and cause his mom death, LOL!
I never knew Felix had such bad relations with his father. He seems like a great family man to his own family, so it is a bit of a shock to me to hear that his father and him are on such bad terms.
I know what you mean @Hetieshou. Sadly sometimes we see only what we want to see.
Still this is such a difficult time for a father and son to be estranged from each other. This is a heartbreaking situation for the Wong family, or any family, no matter who you are, or where you are from.
I do hope that Felix does not live to regret his decision. The whole situation is very sad. I can only pray for this family
Well said Trini and that was what I was thinking. But I really hope that Felix makes the right decisions and does not become a bad role model for his daughter. I hope that he does not forget that he is a father himself and will consider his father’s feelings.
Seeing his ailing father is not a problem to felix, maybe the stepmom is being difficult to him and afraid that a lot of problem may come in near future.
Now they dont hv money and take this excuse to extort money from felix?
For an aging man sure hv a lot of illness but that time elder wong hv plenty of money in d bank so felix present was not needed. Now it is because d money in dried up? So responsibilty shld be on felix huh?
Unfair to felix lo.
D money in d bank dried out.
I hope Micheal Mui or Andy Lau can talk some sense into him because these two men are very close to Felix, and despite whatever myself or others think of Andy, he is filial to his father, although they have their disagreements at time
@Hetieshou
Great point at the end of your comment about Felix being a father himself. I wonder how he would feel if the shoe was on his daughter’s foot, and she washed her hands of him, when he needed her love, support and forgiveness the most.
I also hope that Andy and Micheal can talk some sense into Felix. I always liked Andy and has his flaws just like anyone does and as we can see Felix is not perfect either. Andy is very filial and close to his father so I hope that he can encourage Felix to not only see his father but to take care of him as well.
Yea, I do hope that Felix does not set a bad example for his daughter. If he were sick and old,I am sure he would want and need her love,attention and support during the toughest times of his life.
I don’t think it’s fair to compare Felix with his father. We don’t know the reason for Felix’s hatred for his father. But we do know that Felix dotes on his daughter and wife, and by all accounts is a responsible family man. Going by the statement – you sow what you reap – then Felix is sowing the good seeds towards a blessed old age.
When come to karma, you plan good deed is you be a filial son to your father, then when you have children, you children will be filial to you.
A man care for his wife and children is his duty, that is what a man should do, just like a son at least show some basic filial to their father.
I don’t agree. When it comes to karma, if you do evil you will be punished in your later years. The Chinese has a saying for people who do bad deeds – no son to send you off during your funeral.
Like I said, we do not know the cause of the bad blood between Felix and his father. And if speculation is true that it was because the father has done wrong to his mother, then Felix is being filial to his deceased mother, no?
I am not advocating that Felix not visit his ailing father. I am just saying that as outsiders, we do not know the reason and should not judge what is right or wrong.
there is also a chinese saying “if you treat your parents badly then you will be hit by thunder”. i dont know if karma really exist,i see many good ppl die too young but also many bad guys living in luxury till high age,but if it really exist,then i think its just a tool given by god to better ourself as human being,and not using it as a reason for revenge.this could not be the message of buddha.if felix is doing so, then he will not only sowing good seeds(his wife),but also bad seed for himself.
The video link says it all …
君子相分 不出惡言
自小独立 – regarding self/Felix
種什么因 得什么果 – regarding father
路遥知马力，日久见人心 – regarding stepmother
Kids remember very well all that parents do (and don’t do) for them.
“What goes around, comes around.”
@kolo,
I also wonder about karma. I used to really believe it but now I question it all. I remember once watching a series and they said one thing that I will always remember.they said regardless of how nice you are to,anyone,but if you are unfilial then all of that kindness is fake. I agree with that but of course it depends on the situation too. In Buddhism,being unfilial is the top sin. I really hope that Felix had so,e good reasons for acting the way he does towards his father.
Andy is the known workaholic in showbiz and he never neglected his parents as no matter how busy he was, he would still take some time off to accompany his parents. ===== Yup, Andy is good son. This is just Only accompany to his parents. I’m sure if his father fall ill, he would give visit his father in the hospital.
What dissapointed me about Felix is that he can took time from his work in China to see his wife when she sick. Now when come to his father, he just not putting effort into it.
Anyone who is Felix’s fan know that 5-6 years ago, there were rumors that Felix Wong Yat Wah and his wife, Leung Kit Wah had marital problems due to a third party involvement. But they work it out.
Those who know Chinese can search it up, I’m sure the news still up floating around the net.
I hope he work it out with his father. the old man probably died soon of old age anyways, what ever grudge there is should be gone after someone death.
for people who can’t read chinese characters well, who is the third party?is she very pretty?
The third party was a man, one of the employee. It wasn’t Felix that cheated. It was the dear wife of his.
rush, it was not felix cheated, it was his wife cheated on him.
they did work it out though, obviously felix forgave her.
if he can go forgave his wife wrong doings, then he can at least try to put some effort into seeing his sick father.
seeing an old sick father does NOT equal to forgiven him, it just a basic filial.
Felix clarified a long time ago that his wife did not cheat on him.
Even if she did, no actor would go out admit their wife cheat on them.
Kenix and Frankie both cheats, yet Frankie still say his wife didn’t cheat on him.
Thanks kiwi for this 黃日華與梁潔華緋聞加深夫妻情
Those who can read Chinese can read more about this.
But if she really did cheat on him, Felix would have divorced her long ago, given his public status. In most cases, when a man finds out that his wife has cheated, he is most likely to want to have nothing to do with her. But reports on how Felix loves his wife and cares for her doesn’t seem to show it. A lot of stories are made up by the media. I don’t believe everything I read. Unless there is concrete evidence.
In one of his old interviews, Felix referred to the time when the media reported that he was in a relationship with Ada Choi when filming Justice Bao. Hence he knows rumors are easily made up, therefore he has absolute trust in his wife when the media reported about her relationship with a colleague. That article is still floating somewhere online.
Disagree, the more famous you are, the less likely you will divorce, due to you want to keep your image and for the children. The famous divorce are messy, due to “asset” splitting and “saving face” for both side families.
Kenix and Frankie both cheats, and they work it out for their daughter sake.
Same to Felix, even if his wife have a one time affair with another man while he away. Felix will likely work it out, for his daughter sake, and keep his clean image in the 30+ years in the industry.
Media have evidence or not, search up the Chinese news and read it for yourself.
I disagree with you too. To each its own.
Yup, you welcome to disagree with me, since this is a public discussion place. We all entitle to write our viewpoints.
There are plenty mainland forums right now post this news, and there are tons and tons of mainland Chinese posters talks about this topic, and the MAJORITY are criticize him. It hard to tell them to stop since this news is still very fresh. Until tabloid stop make headline out about this, it won’ t be died down anytime soon.
Which is my point – what business is it of all these people who do not know the true story to judge?
No one here judging him. Don’t get so offended, Felix is not your father nor your “sugar daddy”.
We are here in a PUBLIC DICUSSION site to write out our viewpoints, even Trini also think we are not judging him.
Here is the reality for you:
1. The news come out, people read the news, and people make comments.
2. You in no possition to tell “us” to shut up, you do not like our viewpoints, don’t read it.
3. After this news broke up, there 2 side support. One thinks he should have the basic filial and visit his old father. Other think it is FINE that he choose NOT to visit.
No one here say what is right or wrong for Felix. We said what we feel after we read the news. If you don’t want people to make comments you don’t like, go tell the news to stop make headlines about this.
I am not offended. Neither did I ask anyone to shut up. I am stating my views just like everyone else.
Primrose, I understand you, and I agree with you too when you said we as outsiders do not know their family issue therefore we should not judge. Totally agree!
I’m a old woman, LOL! I like Felix too, all his dramas in the 80s and 90s I have them on DVD. I think he is a great actor.
As fan we all like see him happy. It nice to see your idol work out his marriage, and now is living a happy life with his wife and daughter.
He visit his father or not, is up to him, we all respect his choice. Actually we have NO choice but to have to accept his decission, LOL!
It is very easy to hate someone. I’m sure this you agree with me. The hardest thing is love and forgive.
When you hate someone, you actually making yourself uncomfortable, and being unhappy too. So this is why some fans don’t want to see Felix hold the grudge against his dad, fans like him happy, and certainly fans don’t want him to be stressful over all this headlines coming out about his family issue.
Tabloids are annoying and evil, just look at how they follow Bosco and Vanessa, LOL!
I don’t think Michael and Andy would want to do that. Why put themselves in a situation that’s none of their business in the first place. Felix is not the kind of guy where you can sit down and talk because he’s 大男人. Like father, like son.
Felix was a workaholic. The wife didn’t like him working too much he mentioned it in one of his interview where he took the long break from the industry. The wife cheated on him. Saw the youtube interview not a smart man at all.
黃日華與梁潔華緋聞加深夫妻情
Going to visit his father one more time does not mean that Felix has to forgive his father. It just shows that he is the son of his father and he does whatever a son should do.
lol,just gives felix papa the sense of forgiveness but actually he hate him to the bone.
Hating a person is actually a torture to oneself. Because you will never be in peace and be truly happy.
What happens between himself and his family we as outsiders will never know.
Hopefully his daughter can be the bridge to link them together.
Just that now his wife is sick and this news appears at the same time, I think it is a mental stress for him to handle.
Forgive. Forget. Who can do it?
We forgive but don’t forget. The sick wife and the daughter ha!ha! ha! no help at all but problems to him.
Why do people always point finger at Felix for not wanting to visit his father.
It could also be vice versa that his father also does not want to see or ashame to see Felix
I can relate to having a difficult relationship with the parents. I know how hard it can be to work things out sometimes, and sometimes they are irretrievably broken.
What matters most is that you can make a decision that you are able to live with and do not do anything that you will regret later. Otherwise it will eat you up inside for the rest of your life or the life of the person you are in conflict with.
Felix is a very smart guy and I’m sure he didn’t go down that path lightly.
Only he knows the true circumstances of this rift and has chosen to deal with it in a way that will give him peace.
It’s too bad that everyone else has to have a say in it and his rep will fall because of something that he may not even have anything to do with him.
Private family matters should always stay private.
I hope his family is strong and can recover from this bump in his reputation.
I still support and respect him. Especially for him not wanting to air his private matters in a public court.
I hope those who sought to embarrass him get the karma they deserve. Truly wicked and scheming!
i have no idea whats going on in his family but what done is done,i dont ask felix to love him but as a son do at least what a son should do,even if his father never loved him,he still is the one who raised him up and has accomplished his duty as a father. staying in the past and always hate his father till his dead will not solve the matters.
Well said, Panzer. Again, why should we have a say in Felix’s personal family matters? It’s none of our business and we don’t know the true circumstances, so what right do we have to judge?
With that said, I will say one thing…speaking from personal experience, I can totally relate to Felix’s firm position toward his father, but at the same time I feel that it’s unfair for strangers who have no idea what’s going on to ‘criticize’ him as unfilial. We should not be applying our own measuring sticks to other people’s personal matters, especially when we do not know the whole story…like him or hate him, support him or not support him, that’s up to each individual person, but shame on those who wish ill-will (in this case, ‘bad karma’) on others when they don’t even know half the story — to me, that’s just wrong….
@ilwy,im not wishing felix bad karma or neither hate him for not caring about his father,i just think its is a missed chance. if you have read my post above,i only gives my opinion about what felix have said about karma.you right wishing bad karma to other ppl is never good,especially not to your own father.
Felix is a grown man, if he have no relationship with his father, why does it matter? someone whom gives you life doesn’t mean they can take advantage of you and slave you. You don’t know whatd happened between them. His father could’ve beaten or abused his mother and him in the past. His father could’ve been a scumbag for all you know. If I had a scumbag father, I too would care less if he’s dying in a hospital. In fact, I would ask the heaven above why a person that bad isn’t dead soon enough…………for those who said karma exist, maybe his Father is deserving his karma right now. He’s dying and even his own son does not want to see him. He’s reaping what he sown.
In general sense, no matter what the elder Mr Wong did or didn’t do, Felix is still his son, that’s undeniable. I laughed at his comment “I Am At Peace With My Conscience”. Apparently, he has none!! It is heartless to ignore a parent the way he did under the circumstances but catered to his ill wife.
If his father was abusive towards him, if his father was neglectful, if his father was a useless no good SOB, then yes his conscience is clear.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to live with or visit the person constantly. I’ve seen this in my own family and my relative found that it was best to keep at a distance. Knowing the sort of abuse that was going on, I supported his decision. He became less agitated and a better person to be around with.
I personally do not think anyone here is judging Felix. They are just expressing the fact that f he chooses to cut his father off completely now that his dad could be dying, it can be a regretful situation for Felix years from now. The whole situation is sad and stressful.
Felix has been through a lot of rough situations with his family. We all know that much. No one is even criticizing him. They just want him to forgive his father and move on. You see, forgiveness is not for the party who wronged us, it is for ourselves, our consciences, our very souls. If we refuse to forgive others, it eats away at our happiness, our contentment, our spirit. We care about Felix here, that is why we are making these comments, we are not judging him.
Someone said that if Felix ‘s wife cheated on him he would divorce her because he is a public figure. WQW Wee!, what a thing to say. Not all celebrities divorce their spouse for cheating on them. Denzil Washington, cheated on his famous wife Pauletta Pearson over and over again. They both admitted that he cheated, but they are still together.
So many celebrities have admitted to cheating on, or being cheated on by their significant other, and they forgive them and took them back. Of those some bolted right away when they found out they were betrayed. Then they are others whose partner eventually left them when the cheating continued over, and over again. Mick Jagger, Garth Brooks and Micheal Jordan are just mentioned to name a few.
Of course Hong Kong and the rest of China and Asia have their own cheating spouses and partners too, not just the rest of the entertainment world. When you love a person, you can forgive them for doing things even if these things hurt and embarrass you. Sometimes, cheating does tear a family apart though, and no amount of love fixes the broken trust and relationship.
Felix and his wife seem to be in a good place now, and he needs to be there for her eight now, with her illness and all. That is why so many netizens just want him to don’t harbor any animosity towards his dad at this crucial crossroad in his life.
In Asian culture, if a man was made to “wear a green cap”, they usually divorce the wife. It’s about “face”.
Thank you TRINI!
And it seem like primrose do not know what truely “saving face” meaning.
Your case of divorce simple becuz “save face” from wife cheat is rare nowadays. Why? Because nowadays involve Split assets, involve going to court and fight over money, children. The more famous and rich you are, the less you divorce, because it a Big headache for the rich to divorce, simple over money issue.
“Saving face” here is not getting back at the wife for give you a “green hat” because you feel bitter or what ever. Saving face here is the Pros and Cons of BOTH SIDE of the families outcomes, as well as the sake of the “children”.
Also, especially famous stars will try to avoid bad news as much as possibles, they want to keep have fans, and they want to keep get roles, and survive in the industry.
Sometimes it not just about saving face, it about the culture of Chincese don’t like to divorce. Do you know many women in China women right now knowing their husband have “ernai” but still have to suck up to it, especially the one that dependent on their husband.
So not all affairs turn out to be divorce. A married couple work out their differences does NOT means none of them cheats. It just means that they weight the pros and cons, and more beneficials for them to continue this marriage.
And by the way, a famous movie star who everyday have tabloids follow them and try hunt down news to make headlines will NOT likely divorce the wife right away simple over she have one cheating.
Why? Because the more save face he wants, the more he will try to work it out with the wife. Becasue if he tell the whole world he divorce her from she “cheats” on him, that is equal to telling the whole world he is wearing a “green hat”
How saving face is that? LMAO!
It better to work it out, at least show the public see that they still love each others, and willing to forgive their other half mistake. And I’m sure as a fan, you will rather see your idol work out his marriage than see him stressful over divorce procedures and non-stop headlines about him.
What I write is just about general and majority movie star cases, I don’t write it specificly about felix case, so don’t said I judge Felix, LOL!
Well said Trini and I totally agree with you that no one is judging Felix,but even though no one knows the whole story,as an outsider seeing a son that refuses to visit their ailing old father. You really wonder what the reason is and of course many would think negatively about it. That does not only apply to zFelix’s case but everyone who refuses to see their parents,especially when they are old and sick.
I remember recently watching Inside Edition and they talked about children who literally celebrated after they heard that their mom died. I heard it was because she neglected and abused them to the point that they could not stand it and had to,be raised by foster parents. I can understand why children would not love their parents because of the things they do. However,when they are at the find of their life,it is best to let all grudges go or else you will regret it.
Regret eats away at you like a cancer. HETIESHOU, I am going to share something with you and everyone here. I have a young doctor who is 33 years old old who mentored. When he came to me as a med student almost 13 years ago, he was broken. He had fought with his mother on the morning of September 11th 2001. We all know that was the day of the attack on the Twin towers in New York city.
He told me he said some horrible things to her that morning. He was a 20 year old hothead young man at the time. Well, his mother mother was one of the casualties of the attack, and he said he never got to say he is sorry, he never got to say he did not mean it when he told her he hated her. I cried when I heard his gut wrenching sobs.
I have a relative who I disliked with a passion and who I fought with verbally almost everyday. We did not like each other at all. We threw in some good insults at each other. We loathed each other. I thought of him and I realized that we do not have to be friends, we do not have to be cousins who are close, but we can learn from what happened to the families and victims of 9/11.
My cousin and I are not the closest of cousins, but we do not insult each other anymore, we talk some, we hang out a few times a year, and we occasionally tell each other that we care fro each other. Now, if I die, or he dies , at least I know we made peace with each other and like you said HTS, we have ” Let all the grudges go”.
So Primrose, you are telling me and everyone here that the wives of Asian men, including celebrities, never cheated on them. Oh Please. Are you aware that 16th century china, and Asia have passed five hundred years ago.?
I don’t know what you are talking about?!?
EXACTLY, you won’t know what I am talking about, or you maybe you are being coy, or trying to be a smart alec.
Let me bring you up to speed. Many wives have cheated on their Asian husbands, including the wives of celebrities. So many Asian me have worn, are wearing, and will continue to wear the green cap. If you don’t know that, or cannot admit that, then you are stuck in 16th century China.
Fine, I get your point. One Asian man that has never worn, is not wearing, and will never wear a green cap is my husband. 🙂
Well if you can say that with surety, then great. Not all women cheat, nor men either. Some of us spouses are happy with what we have at home. I wish you and your husband many loving and healthy, happy years together.
I meant to say so many Asian men have worn, are wearing, and will continue to wear the green cap, including celebrity men. Get real.
@LeilaFan
WOW, double WOW, WOW!!. How old are you?. Very wisely said. I for one understand that you are speaking generally about the pros and cons of rich divorces and you are not targeting Felix. You are being real.
I like to read what you, and some others here have to say. I am sure the rest of them know who they are. :ike I said, we all may not always agree, but we disagree with wisdom and common sense. That is what a discussion thread is all about.
Loved everything you said. I would like to add one more thing. No celebrity is going to admit his wife cheated on him, especially no Asian one anyway. After all, he does want to save face, and saving face means no divorce.
Thanks Trini, I’m 29, getting old, LOL! Thanks for understand that the century we living in now have change, our times now is not the same as our parents times. in the past. There things now happened that don’t happen during our parents times.
Maybe I am bias, but for some reasons I still believe that the rich and famous divorce is more troublesome and stressful than us normal folks, therefore if the rich can avoid divorce, they definately will.
Even if they get divorce because of cheating spouse, they will just use the reason citing “irreconcilable differences”. I have not see a Hollywood or Chinese stars come straight out citing “my spouse cheats”. Fans sometimes suspect real reason is cheating, but our idol never say it “cheating” reason. Trini knows alot about Hollywood stars, she can confirm this is true, LOL!
Anyone Chinese here will agree with me that we Chinese have a lot of pressure from our family and surrounding. It take a lot of courage for Chinese to actually live “TRUE” to themselves, because most of the choices they make are influence by their family. Normal people like us have that pressure, imagine the rich and famous Chinese, their pressure is thousand times more than us.
Felix is a Chinese traditional family man, so it not outrageous to say that he prefer work it out with his wife than drag it to divorce court.
Anyways, it extremely difficult to forgive someone who you hold a grudge against. But life is short, it not worth it to hate, mad, anger, grudges, especially they your parents.
Trini, you see this link yet? http://orientaldaily.on.cc/cnt/entertainment/20140224/00282_001.html It have picture of Felix father in the hospital. He looks quite sick, amazing how some people thinks he faking it, or like Felix daughter said his condition is nothing serious, LOL!
LeliaFan, you are 29 and you say you are a old woman! Then I am a much older woman than you since I am in my 40s. 🙂
And I guess our views differ because we belong to different generations 🙂 But I definitely am not stuck in 16th century China. LOL. Although I am by and large a traditional Chinese woman.
@leilaFan
Hey, you are still so very young at 29, what are you talking about, saying you are old?, haha, you made me laugh.
Yes, I am in my 40s too and I know a thing or two about being a traditionalist Chinese. I love my culture and cultural traditions. What I do not like is how some chinese daydream and seem to be struck in the past about matters that they should be updated on. GFor me, some things do not change. Like respect, good morals, beliving in a higher being than ourselves, teaching our children love, respect, empathy, sympathy, consideration, humbleness,how to care for and share for those less fortunate than ourselves and don’t look down on anyone and feel that we are better, no matter how much or how little money we have, . etc. I can go on all night, but I will stop there.
Certain things do need to be updated. We do not have to like or welcome a lot of things happening to our culture, but admit that this is what is going on in our corner of the world. Living in denial or a fantasy world only hurts us and we live at blindly, which is so pathetic.
A chinese patient of mine told me there are no drugs in China. He meant drugs like estacy, cocaine, heroine, marijuana, meth and so on. He even believes that celebrities are perfect and are the standard by which we all should live by. I guess he very happy. Ignorance is indeed bliss.
Yes, chinese rich people divorces are more stressful, complicated than the average blue collar couple divorce, especially if the divorce is between famous, rich public figures. And yes, they never say the divorce is because of cheating. Yes I have a lot of knowledge about rich and poor divorces.
The one thing these divorces have in common is if the couple truly loved each other before, there is always hurt, sadness and a feeling of loss, and no amount of money can mask those emotions.
Felix’s dad is ill. Anyone can look at the man and tell he is gravely ill, even from these picture stills.
One more thing @LeilaFan, I am a man, male, not a girl. lol,
Nothing wrong with being a traditionalist. It is just like I said, we just can’t bury our heads in the sand and think that every single thing is still the same as many years ago in China. I too wish some things did not change, but they have, and sad as it is, I have learned to realize these changes are going to manifest more and more.
Scary…first you were named after your maid now its your cousin’s wife. Then you clearly stated being a Vietnamese now you say you are chinese. It’s not just celebrities that lies through their teeth or has something to hide.
you are sharp ray i also remembered she/he said that ones,ohohoh….i think more readers here knows she/he is not what she/he meant to be.
This is my two-cent worth about filial piety. The fact is you can choose your friends but can you choose your parents? Of course not. If you don’t like your friends you move on. But if you don’t like your parents you can’t break off ties with them.
Love begets love. Some are fortunate to have loving parents who love them unconditionally. They raise their children with good upbringing. If these children turn up to be unfilial to their parents may they be struck by lightning…
Some children are raised by parents who feed them, provide a roof over their head and money to spend but they are emotionally uninvolved parents.When their unloved and neglected children have grown up they’d repay their parents by doing their duties of taking care of them. But they are filial.
Some children through no faults of their own live a hellish life because they are raised by parents from hell. These parents are guilty of horrific violence, rapes and whatnot. They are so rotten they are totally unredeemable. These unfortunate children might be so screwed up they might repeat their history on their own children.
If such children grow up to be sane adults but are faulted for being unfilial simply because they would rather keep a safe distance from their aging parents who now make pleas for their children to take care of them in their old age. Such children should let bygone be bygone and if they don’t they’ll live with regret for refusing to see their parents in their last breath. If there’s such a saintly person who is too magnanimous for resentment and generous in forgiving I believe it’s a rarity…
LOL
hes not a bad son.
The daughter Adrian said Felix was in China so can’t visit. But we now read in this article he attended a soccer practice. Just stop making excuses! You (Felix) don’t want to visit your father- FINE! Like LeilaFan mentioned above “what goes around comes around”. When Adrian gets marry and Felix has a disagreement with the son-in-law and the grandkids (if he has gets any) don’t visit him in hospital when he’s ill, Felix will experience how his father is feeling right now.
Felix stated “…I am at peace with my conscience”… didn’t know he has one. LOL