Gallen Lo Dumps Father’s Funeral Arrangements on Ex-Wife?
One life fades away and another is born. A week before the birth of Gallen Lo (羅嘉良) and Sophie Su’s (蘇岩) daughter Sela, Gallen’s father had passed away in early April. However, to prevent the clashing of the mourning and the baby’s arrival, Gallen did not fulfill the responsibilities of the eldest son and left his father’s funeral arrangements to his ex-wife Clare Fong (方敏儀) instead.
Gallen’s father died at the age of 83 years old in a public hospital in Hong Kong on April 9. A wake was held for him at the Universal Funeral Parlour on May 3. Though Gallen sent a wreath with Sophie and his name on it, he was noticeably not present at the wake. It was Gallen’s ex-wife, Clare, who had to oversee and make the necessary arrangements. Without Gallen present, the funeral responsibilities of the eldest son of the deceased fell instead on Gallen and Clare’s son, Lo Yu Shing (羅裕珹). Despite the absence of a father figure, Yu Seng maturely followed instructions of the funeral parlor director, praying and kneeling without any signs of impatience from a 14-year-old teenager.
The following morning, a downcast Gallen showed up at the funeral home with a mask on his face. At 11 a.m. when the funeral procession began, it was Yu Shing who carried his grandfather’s photograph at the front of the procession to the Diamond Hill Crematorium. Traditionally, this duty is performed by the eldest son of the deceased. Instead, Gallen accompanied his mother and followed behind. Clare kept a low profile and remained even farther behind.
After the cremation, the family moved to a temple for prayer rituals and then they headed to a restaurant in Kowloon City for the meal after. Despite the media’s numerous inquiries about his absence from his father’s wake, Gallen remained silent.
Gallen Issues Denial in Press Statement
After East Week’s scathing report over Gallen’s infidelity and lack of responsibility in his father’s funeral arrangements, an angry Gallen issued a press statement today. “The situation was distorted in the news report, I was very upset. This publication took advantage of my father’s death for their headlines. This action is questionable, which has hurt myself and my entire family.”
Gallen’s lawyer will follow up on the slanderous report against the tabloid.
This article is written by Karen for JayneStars.com.
Note: This article was updated on May 9 at 12:32 p.m. to include the contents of Gallen Lo’s press statement towards the reporting of his father’s funeral.
oh gallen! u r my idol and i always like your dramas!
but why u did that?
sometimes the custom is so ‘cruel’. your son is born and your dad is dead, you are not going to be in-charge of the father’s wake! no!!!!
0.M.G
ever since gallen met his new wife, all the stories about him is about his life revolving all around the new wife and he was overhype over the new baby that i was afraid how his first son feel over all that when he wasn’t really there while he’s growing ip. And now this news come out about gallen’s father’s dearh. doesn’t sound good gallen.
Sorry but since Gallen was a no show at his father’s wake, that is the ultimate disrespect. Without his father, Gallen would not be alive today and be where he is at now. Divorcing his wife for another woman but leaving the funeral responsibilities to the ex-wife is despicable. I never like Gallen as an actor as he tends to overdo his role, now I have more reason to dislike him as a human being!
agree. used to like gallen during threshold of era years but don’t like his acting anymore when he come back for born rich and that dog series. also has increasing bad impression on him as a person after realizing that he abandoned his wife and son after falling in love with a younger woman while working in mainland, and later seeing him overexposing his new happiness too much. who knew that while he was showing off his new baby to god knows how many medias that his father has died! and then what a disrespect if he left everything to an ex wife and son while he was busy showing off his new daughter to media to make news.
cant agree more !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I find leaving the funeral arrangement to his ex-wife is abhoring and despicable.
He already left her for another woman, what more of a role as a daughter-in-law does she need to fulfill? There’s no need to, not her responsibility.
If not for her son, who is the deceased grandson, I say, shove it.
i think differently.. his ex wife didn’t lose face because his family and gallen’s mom acknowledged his son / her grandson, hence yu shing carried grandad’s photo, present wife was not in the scene
I thought an ex wife has no more responsibilities to her ex in law/ s . What a sweet lady. Hats off to her!
People believe that if a baby is born you can’t go to a funeral. It’s bad luck At least he showed up.
And hence he shouldn’t even attend his own fathers funeral? It make it ok because it is bad luck? So the fact that he show up meaning he has already done more that he should have??????
Absurd , that you are even trying to defend him
Everyone has their reasons. I’m just pointing out that it could be worse.
How do you know he isn’t mourning his father privately?
As outsiders, we don’t know.
We don’t know. But we know he posted his happy family pictures on tha same week his father died. That is not mourning to me
So much for the “model father” image he had tried to push recently.
This is one seriously old creep.
Have to say I’m disappointed in Gallen.
The more i read about him, the more i start to dislike hịm. Thanks to Sophia Su (maybe), since they went public, at first, i thought it he was sweet and romantic, but then i read on how neglects his own son … well. it all goes down hill from there. And now, this would add him to the top of my sh*t list!!!
what goes around comes around. he might have a taste of his own medicine when his time is up because he only have 1 son. the daughter with the new wife will not be able to fulfill her duty as a son. sometimes tradition can be excused especially when the dead person was his father!! sad
his son will decide for himself but i think he will perform his duties as a son cos the family wouldn’t want more negative news from the media, wish lo yu shing will get a happy marriage/family of his own
As expected, Gallen denies all allegations and has handled over the matter to his lawyer to follow up.
http://e.weibo.com/1686300145/zvVJj1YyN
Clamine,
Thanks for the info, which has been added to the article.
Jayne: You’re welcome. Anyway, the damage has been shredded whatever rep he had before this report. For me, action always speaks louder words- and Gallen’s actions were loud and in light of this report – deplorable. All that publicity of Sophia’s pregnancy generating lots of news reports and pictures over his new found bliss of being a father, his own father was in critical health – close to death – not one word of concern for him! What kind of a son is that?
Clamine,
I think the backlash reflects the same sentiments as you expressed. His trip back to Hong Kong with Sophie to await the birth of their daughter was heavily reported and Gallen distributed press photos of Sela’s birth. It turned out that he had already lost his father days before.
From his Weibo posts, it’s obvious that Gallen greatly cherishes his marriage with Sophie. It is perhaps this newfound happiness that he chose to spend the early days of Sophie’s postpartum confinement with her rather than mourn for his father’s death in the proper way.
Gallen’s decision to not attend his father’s wake and allow his son to bear the rituals at the funeral obviously shows signs that he prioritizes his daughter’s birth more.
No matter how happy you are with the birth of your child, I cannot imagine anyone spreading the joyous news as if nothing has happened when your father just died (unless you didn’t have a good relationship). And then to add insult to injury, he leaves the funeral arrangements to his ex-wife? Deplorable.
It is sad that he seems to chose Sophie over even his own father. He only has one father who is now gone, but he can one day divorce Sophie or she can divorce him. He can have many wives and they can come and go, but in all his life, he can only have one father and he can never get his father back ever…
relationships.. not many people will marry their first girlfriend/boyfriend and not all marriages work, spending time with a friend for a couple of hours and staying together under the same roof is different but God does not encourage divorce, its in the 10 commandments cos divorce begets unforgiveness
sad to read…Gallen is growing from bad to worst..sigh
Haha and all those people who were defending him earlier. Clearly, he is a scumbag. Not only is he a bad father but he’s not a filial son.
Gee, that’s disrespectful. The timing is truly horrible but sometimes in life there’s choices to be made, if this news is true then Gallen has clearly made a bad call. The last thing he can do for his father is to pay his respects and fulfill his duty as a son. I hope he doesn’t regret this choice.
Really disappointed to read this news. Whatever the relationship he had with them he should be there. Good for his ex wife and son to be there for the last journey.
People always read into the negative side of things. My uncle recently passed away and two of my cousins did not show up. One recently gave birth and the other is pregnant. They didn’t go because my family wouldn’t let them, not because they didn’t want to. Being there or not doesn’t prove anything. At least Gallen still accompanied his dad on his last ride.
Also, the fact that his ex wife was there proves their relationship is not as bad as the media wants to portray it. Especially since she handled the funeral arrangements. What ex spouse would take up that responsibility if the divorced couple are on such bad terms?
@Ric What ex spouse would take up that responsibility if the divorced couple are on such bad terms?
Done not for Gallen but despite of Gallen. She probably did it to repay Gallen’s father and his mother too for the years of kindness and acceptance shown to her as their daughter-in-law, a a relationship that probably still stays strong despite the divorce. Just saying.
You say one just gave birth and the other is pregnant. It is not Gallen who has to give birth/has given birth, and he is the eldest son. That comes with responsibilities. It’s disgusting that he left those responsibilities to his young son and funeral arrangements to his ex-wife.
How do you know his ex-wife didn’t do it out of respect for her ex-father-in-law and her son? If Gallen was any good man, it would never even be up for discussion that she should have to deal with such matters.
Exactly Advo! He was not the one that just gave birth, it was his current wife. I can’t believe that he would pick his current wife over his own father. That is so unfilial and when someone is unfilial, all of their kind acts are all fake. I wonder how his mom and siblings feel? I would really upset if my siblings don’t make it to my dad’s funeral unless we had good reasons. That did happen in real life where one of my brothers could not make it during the first day because he was too faraway but he came later. I wonder what Gallen’s reasons are if he has any good reasons.
Speculation, speculation, speculation. I don’t know why he didn’t show up for the wake and none of us will unless Gallen tells us. The fact is he did show up in the end. All I’m saying is that it’s wrong to speculate about how filial he is when nine of us know the facts. Obviously the report is trying to paint him in bad light. We all have reasons for doing what we do. Gallen’s father passed away and all I see people doing is chastising Gallen. Where are the condolences? None.
Guess, just browse Gallen’s weibo, he did not show any grief over the passing of his father at all. His father passed away on Apirl 11th, the very next day April 12th he happily posted 3 pictures of a very pregnant Sophia baring her very big tummy, with caption: “Thank you my two beautiful models, love you forever.” Followed by more such sappy posts of him expression love for his beautiful Sophia and later his beautiful newborn baby girl.
No sign of any grief for his father who had just passed away – none.
At least he politically correct weibo a condolence entry for the Sichaun earthquake victims on April 21 saying his heart was PAINED 讓人心痛不已 to hear the news.
But no words at all about feeling pain at the passing of his father, as if all was fine and dandy what with him and Sophia being all lovey dovey with their weibo interactions.
It isn’t just his absence from his father’s wake but his seemingly callous disregard for his father’s death. How to give condolences who was see so happy on his weibo just a day after his father’s death?
when the funeral procession began, it was Yu Shing [..]Traditionally, this duty is performed by the eldest son of the deceased.
It may be the father’s dying wish to have his grandson lead the procession instead of Gallen cos’ he deemed the latter unfilial.
4月18日与第二任妻子蘇岩誕下女儿Sela的羅嘉良，父親于同月11日因病去世。生女喪父，悲喜交集，但羅嘉良卻未見傷感，更在父親去世翌日，在微博大晒自己操刀的老婆孕照，夫婦倆顧著网上打情罵俏，一切身后事只推給胞姐負責，毫無擔當。
良卻未見傷感，更在父親去世翌日，在微博大晒自己操刀的老婆孕照，夫婦倆顧著网上打情罵俏，一切身后事只推給胞姐負責，毫無擔當。
Correction: How to give condolences to someone who seems so happy on his weibo despite his father passing away just the day before?
Guess I one again forgot to close the italics tag.
Sounds bad but perhaps there is a good reason why he wasn’t there.
Fair point
Applielim= a supporter of Funn Lim? or maybe it’s just Funn pretending to be Applelim.
Low low move.
“Applielim= a supporter of Funn Lim? or maybe it’s just Funn pretending to be Applelim.
Low low move.”
First of all, I do not pretend to be some other commenter. The only time there may be some confusion is when I write as Funn instead of Funn Lim. The only major confusion was when someone pretended to be me and posting some stupid comments.
So I expect an apology because it goes to my integrity with the words
“maybe it’s just Funn pretending to be Applelim.
Low low move.”
Until you are sure and get your facts right, please refrain from immediately pointing fingers and jumping to conclusions because it implies
a. I am posting under another name
b. I am pretending to be someone else to agree with myself which is so unnecessary because I am above that
c. that a and b combined makes it a “low low move” which I agree except a and b is not true.
And you mean Apple can’t agree with me issit?
it appears that you also jump to conclusions.
A few weeks ago, you also accused someone of being multiple identities. Why do you expect an apology when:
1. You did the same thing to another user.
2. You also jumped to conclusion and pointed fingers without the evidence.
3. That user did not even ask for an apology from you or Larry. So why are you special and get an apology for it?
4. You’re only getting a taste of your own doings.
Liza, when did I accuse someone of using multiple names?
Coco,
“Applielim= a supporter of Funn Lim? or maybe it’s just Funn pretending to be Applelim.”
How is this jumping to conclusions when it is a direct accusation? Do you even understand what what that paragraph mean?
Liza, YOU are confuse.
Funn= That user who had names with Teresa/etc. Don’t necessarily remember which specific article but you also questioned that same user saying she pretended to be multiple people.
I reread Nikki’s initial comment. It sounded like she wasn’t sure since she used “maybe it’s just Funn pretending to be Applelim”. The word *maybe* hinted that Nikki was not directly sure if you pretended to be Applelim and showed that there was uncertainty.
Thank you guys :’)
And coco, you are right. There was just uncertainty.
I also agree with Liza in how you also accused someone indirectly. And now pretending that you don’t remember who or when is a bit ridiculous.
WTF, you people either have brain fart, can not remember something, or making dumb accusations. Just great.
Oh Larry, you also accused of Teresa, etc.
http://www.jaynestars.com/features/hot-gossip/tvbs-bullet-brain-is-getting-more-plastic/
^ Proof of Funn accusing someone indirectly?
Coco, where did she accuse someone? where????
Nikki, Teressa did something really stupid, and you are doing it too Nikki.
Larry, then explain to us what is this: http://i40.tinypic.com/xd3b6.png?
So, I agree with Liza.
First of all, Liza didnt address it clearly. She still hasnt.
Second, Nikki, that pic shows Funn Lim response on my Coco for Coco Puffs cereal comment.
Coco for Coco Puffs, yummy.
a. I was talking about that post which Lillie mentions. In that post, Funn seems to believe that Coco was pretending to be Celine. “Still coco right? Only one is crunchier and perhaps more manufactured.” STILL COCO RIGHT? –> indirect accusation.
b. The word “maybe” in Nikki’s comment suggested that there is definetely uncertainty since she did use the word *maybe*.
c. As for the low low move, that is completely unjust and rude on Nikki’s behalf. She should definitely apologize. There’s no need for mean manners on this site.
And as for me, I apologize for all the confusion. Good day to you all.
indirect accusation? (facepalm) really? Have you eaten a cereal?
Thank you every much, but I have eaten a cereal before.
There’s a thing called accusing someone indirectly, which Funn has done in that post to that Celine/Coco. My point being is: why should Funn be expect someone to say sorry to her for accusing her in being Applelim?
Very^
Liza, where did “Funn seems to believe that Coco was pretending to be Celine.”?
Funn, reply to my post on coco for coco puffs, She did not say any wrong going.
Jesus!
Good luck convincing me.
You, Larry3, also accused someone as well: “Can you have me sympathy Lily/Lisa/CoCo/Teresa? Obviously you dont watch TVB dramas from the 80s to NOW.”
And no. Funn was talking to Celine.. “Still coco right? Only one is crunchier and perhaps more manufactured.” only ONE is more crunchier and perhaps more manufactured?” That hinted that Funn was indirectly accusing Celine as Coco as well.
And why don’t we let Funn clarify herself then?
Yes, I fail to convince you because YOU are really culeless.
I do not think either of you can clarify for Funn. What does Funn actually mean? No one knows except for Funn. Both of you have good points. However, it is best for Funn to clarify that post herself before you guys continue to argue on a pointless topic. Furthermore, it is not right to associate a bunch of users together. Both of you needs to loosen up on this topic.
HOLD ON, Liza makes good points? Is this a joke?
Just wonderful.
Larry-
she did agree that what Nikki has done in the very first post saying how Funn may be pretending to be Apple Lim is completely wrong and rude.
You got to admit that that point made by Liza was well said. Liza has also apologized for the confusion she took part in.
There’s no need to attack me..
And like I posted in the earlier post, just let this go and let Funn an opportunity to clarify this since you and the people here have opposing views.
Where did I attack you? Dont give me excuses.
I have explain CLEARLY to Liza, She still is confuse.
How am I confused? only pointing out the possible facts the people have said.
But I think I would go with Sandra and how Funn needs to clarify herself.
And if she didn’t do what I have described, it would be a big misunderstanding and if so, I apologize in advance for the confusion.
DO YOU even know the reply system on this website? Funn did not comment on Celine. She comment on my POST. Not Celine’s post. On MY POST.
This is really lame.
I’m aware of that, but if you haven’t noticed Larry, you can’t comment on Celine’s post at all! There’s no “reply to this comment” on Celine’s post at all. So it can go both ways.
If you are aware on this comment system, where did “Funn seems to believe that Coco was pretending to be Celine.”????
I agree with both of you. But just let Funn clarify the whole thing, okay?
This is going nowhere, guys. Let IT go.
but Liza is right, it could go both ways. There’s no “reply back to this comment” on Celine’s post. This is what I see:
http://imgur.com/L8IwTiX
Larry3: maybe this? –> ‘ “Still coco right? Only one is crunchier and perhaps more manufactured.” only ONE is more crunchier and perhaps more manufactured?” That hinted that Funn was indirectly accusing Celine as Coco as well.’ said by Liza.
Sandra, How is it goes both ways. Funn didnt accuse someone in that post.
YOU either can not read someone’s post clearly or you playing silly game.
Please read Celine’s comment. What part of it would induce Funn to accuse Celine of being an impostor?
I think you guys need to go back to school.
yes! skinnymocha, what a life saver 🙂
Still Coco right?
There are some concerns/questions:
1. If Funn was not questioning the identity of Celine, why did she write, “Still Coco right?”
2. What did Funn meant when she wrote “still coco right?”
3. Celine’s original comment was this: @Larry 3:
I don’t think Coco’s comment was for you. i think it was geared to Ray supporter.
Followed by Still coco right? Only one is crunchier and perhaps more manufactured.
There’s a sense of questioning going on. It may not necessarily be an accusation but there’s something going on there.
4. Because there is no “reply to this comment” on Celine’s comment, who is Funn talking to? Is she talking to larry or Celine?
Hence I mentined that it can go both ways.
Is Funn hinting that Celine may be also Coco or vice versa?
There’s both uncertainty in both of these posts.
Funn also once asked: “Am I seeing the same “person” reemerging as yet another name?”
So this may be the same case with Celine/Coco.
But i’m gonna stop there.
Oh Sandra… YOU OVER ANALYZE on a very simple comment. This not a rocket science. You need to get a grip. Open your eyes. Reread the post. There is no both ways. There is only ONE, that she she did nothing only to comment on my post.
I am sure YOU are an educated person. You really CAN NOT comprehend on this simple problem????
agreed but it’s good to clarify or ask questions if Sandra is unsure or when it causes these huge disagreements beween people.
Sorry, I did not know this was going on. So the accusation of me accusing someone is the
Still Coco right?
statement?
Ok let me clarify because it seems only Larry 3 seems to have read the reply in context of the entire discussion.
Larry 3 previous kept saying Coco and Coco Puffs and my reply is saying “Still Coco right?” which means whether Coco or Coco Puffs, both still coco except one is crunchier (the food) and one is manufactured (in context of what Larry 3 and the discussion about).
I feel like I am Seth Macfarlane who probably had to break down every word in a sentence to explain what he meant.
So now, I never accused in that sentence.
As for my statement about someone reemerging, anyone who was here a few months ago will know who I mean.
And I don’t think I need to clarify anything but for the sake of Larry 3 and now Skinnymocha’s sanity, that’s my explanation above.
Thanks for clarifying. A lifesaver.
“to prevent the clashing of the mourning and the baby’s arrival ”
This was portrayed in HOG where Tavia’s mom wanted Tavia to move back to her maternal home because Louise was dying and the baby would be born soon.
It seems that Gallen or her wife may believe in this superstitution and how it brings bad luck to the baby.
his wife***
True but you really wonder what the reasons are?? At first glance, IF this is true then he is truly an unfilial son. He tends to forget that he is a father himself and has neglected his own son so you really wonder how his son will treat him after he dies?? This is his “father” someone who gave birth to him, raised and loved him(unless his father was abusive and we don’t know), however, regardless of anything, he should have been there to pay his last respects to his late father. This looks really bad… His wife he can divorce and can have another, but he only has one father…
Good points.
And If Funn didn’t do anything wrong, it would be easy for her to clarify herself.
whoops, wrong post._.
Apologize for this shortcoming.
This is one side of the story. I’m sure he has his reasons.
However, I do notice he doesn’t hang out with the same friends he used to.
For whatever reasons Gallen Lo had, I have no respect for him. He seems to be a terrible husband, terrible father, and now a terrible son. He is just a terrible man with very selfish and self-centre personality.
On the other hand, I think highly of Clare, his ex-wife, who would accept this heavy responsibility to do the funeral arrangements for Gallen’s late father. Very kind of her.
I never particularly like him or dislike him when he was popular in TVB. To me, he’s just average in all; looks and acting wise. But after hearing him broadcasting his new found happiness and new child thru social networks makes me wonder how his man who we used to remember as a ‘great’ family man just totally flipped the switch.
I mean, OK you get bored w/the wife the woman that spend 28 years w/you and yes we don’t know what happened there, when couples break up obviously only they would know but the way he described the relationship w/his son as ‘NOT CLOSE’ that is just not right. People get married and divorced but if you really love your kid, you make the time and don’t give all that BS excuses that he is busy, please if you have time to go social networks you have time for your kids and priorities period.
I agrees. He is an awful person. Despicable.
We have only heard one side of the story. We don’t really know why Gallen did not attend his father’s funeral. And just because he did not go to the funeral does not mean that he does not love or respect his Dad. When my grandmother died in HK many many years ago, my mom did not go back to HK to attend the funeral because she had to take care of her family here as my sister and I were still kids. Her family was her priority. But this does not mean that my mom did not love my grandmother. My mom as actually very close with my grandmother. In this situation, some people are very superstitious and really believe in clashing of the life and death. So it’s not fair to judge others when you don’t really know the whole story…(btw…just to clarify, I am not a Gallen fam, but I am just trying to be a voice of reason.)
You make good points but your situation and Gallen’s situation is entirely different. HE IS IN THE SAME CITY as his own father. Superstition or not, clearly his last moment with his father should triumph over any other “priorities”. Ya Sophie gave birth and its not good to conflict. However, judging from his actions how he ignores his son and fail to acknowledge his first child makes you question his character.
Was he close by where his father was?? If so, then there is NO EXCUSE to not come and attend your father’s funeral. It’s not like he just gave birth, it was his wife. If I had a husband, I would make him go and pay his respects to his father. I have a feeling his current wife, Sophie is just as selfish as him and live in their little world of their soul called family and completely disregards even his parents and siblings. I feel sad for people like that…
I think the significance of his absence is this. He is the oldest son I assume? So he has the duty to you know perform the rites, not the grandson. In fact it shouldn’t be the grandson at all but other sons, etc. If he is not the eldest son, then his absence may be due to some reasons, as some says the clashing of birth and death. Irregardless, he should have attended even if it meant bad luck for 3 years. Unless he wasn’t close to his father which his absence suggests that. I will even venture to theorise his new wife forbade him from going because my impression is either that or the worse theory; he is unfilial son.
That depends which one you choose.
He could have asked his ex wife to do the arrangement with him paying the money.
Ahhh he is the eldest. So if he can’t be there, I thought it should be the 2nd son taking over the duties and not the grandson?
Even if he pay the money does not make it better. It is bad that he did not attend funeral when they were both in HK. You can be superstitious and that does not excuse it but it is despicable to be flaunting his happiness to the whole world with how happy he is with the new family and not a word of his dad passing.
According to traditions, Gallen’s son is next in line to fulfill the duties. But in this day and age, it will depend on the family.
Whatever reason(s) Gallen had, he should have attended the funeral because that was the last time he could see his father.
Gallen has children too, so let’s see how his children will treat him in the future.
Agree and support. Probably with Clare’s good care and coaching of their son, his son will turn out to be a better son than his father (Gallen).
lolz.. I wonder if he ever thought a/b how his children will treat him when his turn to be gone….. That day is not that long for him anyway..
Its not like his father died unexpectedly, Gallen probably was beside his father’s death bed and we don’t know about it. Superstitions go that when expecting a new baby, all funerals should be avoided because it would interfere with the spirits of both the dead and newborn. Not only is it bad luck for the new born but also for the reincarnation of the dead. Miscarriages, still birth, or life-long health complications are also expected for the new born. Gallen’s father probably understood and allowed it, because no parent would want to risk the health of their grandchild and the well-being of their children just so they can make an appearance at their own funeral. Respect is shown not by attending a funeral, but how you treated the person while he was alive and when he was gradually dying. Sacrifices should be made. Gallen and his family understood that its time to celebrate a new life in the family instead of mourning over the dead. The dead is dead, but a new life is still waiting to be nurtured.
Its a common practice for buddhists. Even weddings should be avoided pregnant and expecting a new born. In this case, religion should be respected not judged.
I am a Buddhist and my mom and aunt are strongly devoted Buddhists and I have never heard of any of that. In my own family, when my dear brother passed away, my sister in law was pregnant with my nephew but she still came and my nephew is fine. Also, my mom and aunt were happy that she did and would have thought badly of her if she did not. Therefore, I am not sure where these Buddhist practices came from?? The only thing that I heard that you cannot do if a death occurs in your family is that you cannot get married for 2 years until the mourning period is over. However, I have never heard of not attending anyone’s funeral because your wife is pregnant or a birth is coming ever…
I don’t know if it’s a common practice or not, but I do know it exist in my family. When my great uncle passed away, someone in his family line was pregnant and she did not attend the funeral. It has something to be ‘red and white’ cannot mix. LOL. If only I knew how to type Chinese…
It is not buddhism, but taoism or that sort. Buddhism has no such superstitious restriction.
It could be a different type of Buddhism.
And I agree with FingersinNose. This was mentioned by Elaine and how TVB used it in HOG.
This is just like a mother/father should not go to her/his son’s funeral. “White head person sends off the black head person.”
It’s likely the father told Gallen, “hey son, you’ve been with me, go take care of your baby and wife … i’ll be okay.”
I still see Gallen as filial since he sent his son to take his duties but then again, not mentioning it on weibo made it kind of iffy.
Regardless, Gallen’s got skewed priorities. With or without this incident, his image was already tarnished in my eyes when he left his first wife.
It’s superstitious beliefs. “Red events” should not mix with “white events”. Most family members would prevent Sophia from showing up because she’s having a “red event”, that’s understandable. But for Gallen, he’s having both at almost the same time. It’s probably the worst scenario and I can understand why he would want to keep a low profile about it on his weibo. Imagine the confusion it would cause, some people congratulating him on his little girl while others talking about his father’s death. But to not show up at the wake? That’s too much.
“With or without this incident, his image was already tarnished in my eyes when he left his first wife.”
He shouldn’t have married her in the first place if he wasn’t sure. Pity that he had a mid life crisis right about then. But I am sure the wife feels blessed in a way because he gave her a son.Hence she is defending him.
Agreed:’)
I mean he agreed with wildberries.
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“Respect is shown not by attending a funeral, but how you treated the person while he was alive”
well said,i totaly agree with that FingersinNose.
Funn limm,”He shouldn’t have married her in the first place if he wasn’t sure”
we are all human and human beings can make mistakes,who can say in his/her life doesnt have make mistakes? its not fair to judge someone’s marital matters if we doesnt know them personal without knowing every detail of their relationship. i dont think gallen is that bad as many ppl implied here. at least gallen have given his ex-wife an appartment worth in millions and pay the alimony monthly.
well said, gallenfan.
You have your point. But there is no need to flaunt his happiness at the time his dad passed away. That’ make it unforgivable.
His father died a grand old age of 83, and by right shouldn’t be mourning. Or is it 90 these days?
He was just announcing the birth of his child. One death, one birth, that is the cycle of life. He wasn’t flaunting. Why should he be more sad about his dad and less happy about the birth of his child as opposed to the opposite? His father also died a good death in the sense he is no longer suffering.
Was it a good or terrible death? It depends on the person. As outsiders, we wouldn’t know.
In the end, it all depend on one value. To Dilly, her value is such that if parent died, anf for whatever reason you cannot attend the funeral, you should still show some respect and not flaunt your happiness to the whole world to see. Funn on the other hand thinks it is perfectly ok not to attend the wedding and flaunt the happiness because the father is old, ie 83 and he should not feel less happy about the birth of his daughter.
so in the end it is all within value of oneself, which is why they are people arguing that whatever he is doing is ok.
Just like ths Boston marathon bombers, they are people who defended them, and just like Ariel Castro from Cleveland, some just think he is mentally ill and hence is it defendable.
I am with Dilly in this case.
I don’t think it is right to flaunt his happiness when he cannot fulfill his duty as a son during funeral .
I agree with Dilly that at such a sad time, you should NOT be flaunting your happiness.It is your father, regardless of what age he passed away. It is sad that many prioritize their kids over their parents and tend to forget that the relationship that they have with their kids the same relationship that they had with their parents. I wonder if his daughter will treat him the same way when he gets old?? If so, that is karma…
I am surprised to hear that by announcing his happiness at the birth of his child, even if it coincides with his father’s death is considered flaunting. If he spent his time in mourning and ignored his child’s birth, no posting, no announcement I wonder what you all will say? A father who doesn’t care?
Just because he informs the world doesn’t mean he is flaunting. Be very clear on what flaunting means.
I am of the believe he could tell the world of his happiness AND go to the funeral and do his duty. He can be happy and he can be sad. And yes, his father was in his 80s, it is death by old age, it is considered a good life. Just because a son does not crawl on all fours and cry like the end of the world doesn’t mean he never loved his father and just because he did doesn’t mean he is a good son.
Somehow I was never fond of Gallen Lo as well. But if this is true, Gallen Lo is not a responsible/filial son.
And although his wife was carrying his baby, he could have asked his wife not to come but he should still make some time to see his father one last time.
To FingersInNose,
I understand that some families have own or religious beliefs different than others, but it was Gallen’s wife, Sophia was pregnant, NOT Gallen. If Gallen were pregnant and he did not attend the funeral then, it would be okay.
I think no matter what “great reasons” he could have, nothing is acceptable for not taking his rightful position to send his father off. Any Chinese should know the importance of that.
And to leave his ex-wife to take care of the funeral but his new wife is missing in action. What a compatible couple.
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Shame on you Gallen. One day, you will grow old. One day, retribution will strike.
Have no idea why Gallen abandoned his father’s funeral and I guess we won’t know unless he says. A lotta writers here are disappointed in him and I can see why. In the past, he did a lot of things that were considered very unfilial and disgusting, so that explain why so many are questioning his absence from his dad’s funeral.
I wonder if Gallen is under a bad love spell so is sooo in love with his current wife and will do anything she says, including abandoning his parents and siblings?? I also wonder if his current wife was partially responsible for his absence at father’s funeral?? You really wonder… It seems like his parents like his ex wife more than his current one.
That is you are assuming he is listening to everything his wife is saying. I do not believe in BS like love spell.
i do not believe in love spell.
However, i agree with what you said about him listening to whatever the wife said cause that had happened to ,y uncle. He did whatever his wife wanted him to do.
I am quite amused by many of the analyses here when it was fairly obvious (to me at least) that he had attempted an image makeover campaign with the birth of his birthday but now has found it backfired badly with the revelation of his absence from his father’s funeral.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hlFBfiF_5Q
mainland tv news report on this matter.
I am glad that the media told us the truth and now he wants to sue the media, he should be feeling shame of himself.