Shirley Yeung: Last-Minute or Deliberate Runaway Bride?
Yesterday, Shirley Yeung (楊思琦) announced breaking-up with former boyfriend of nine years, Gregory Lee (李泳豪). Shirley noted it was a mutual decision to end their relationship several months ago. Gregory’s father, Lee Ka Ding (李家鼎), noted the pair had been planning for their wedding. Days ago, Gregory noted that the pair were boyfriend and girlfriend while speaking on the telephone. He claimed that he did not know what had prompted the “runaway bride’s” break-up decision.
Shirley’s Break-up Request Came Only Days Ago
According to an inside source, Shirley asked for a break-up with Gregory Lee several days ago. At the time, Shirley’s face allegedly dripped with tears and she admitted to Gregory that third party, Andy Ng, had entered the relationship. Due to the presence of a third party, Shirley had used “a reason that a man can not withstand” to break-up with Gregory. Despite Gregory’s unwillingness, he was forced to accept the change in circumstances.
Gregory Unable to Let Go
Gregory also knew Andy Ng, the alleged third party in his relationship with Shirley. Andy was from Beijing and met Shirley eleven years ago in high school. Gregory and Andy followed each other’s blogs as well. Gregory was shocked that Andy turned out to be the third party. After Shirley asked to break-up with Gregory, he was emotionally unstable. Over the last several days, Gregory has been unable to accept the situation. The Lee family was very concerned that Gregory may commit a rash act [in hurting himself].
Shirley Planned on Leaving Gregory Months Ago
According to an inside source, Shirley planned to end her relationship with Gregory in advance. Previously, Shirley had lived with Gregory’s family in Kwoloon Tong. Two months ago, Shirley bought an apartment in Clear Water Bay Peninsula, Tseung Kwan O. Although Shirley claimed the apartment was purchased for her brother, she moved into the apartment long-term. Shirley only returned to Gregory’s apartment to stay overnight once per week. Two weeks ago, the living arrangements remained the same.
Since Shirley still had a large amount of personal belongings in Gregory’s apartment, he did not see signs that Shirley was considering ending the relationship. When reporters asked whether Shirley had asked for a break-up using “a reason a man can not withstand,” Gregory said, “I have not been able to accept it yet. My emotional state has not stablized. I do not know what to say. My thoughts are very chaotic now. I will come forward to address the matter later.”
The Lee Family: “There Were No Early Signs!”
At 7:30 PM last night, Gregory and his father, Lee Ka Ding, went to work at TVB City. Gregory said that he has been unable to contact Shirley. “I do not know what happened! We have always been fine.” Crying uncontrollably, Gregory asked to stop the interview.
Lee Ka Ding cursed fiercely at Shirley [for the break-up decision], indicating that Gregory and Shirley had been preparing for their wedding. (Were there any early break-up signs?) Lee Ka Ding said, “No, even dead people show early signs! Last week, we had dinner with Shirley. Over the past week, I knew that Gregory was unhappy. However, I do not know what had occurred.”
Excerpt from Orientaldaily.on.cc
Jayne: If the inside source were to be trusted, Shirley may have already considered leaving Gregory two months ago but didn’t know how to tell him.
Perhaps Gregory has been unable to accept Shirley’s change of heart and even blind to her unhappiness, that she didn’t believe they were suitable to get married.
So it appears that Shirley and Gregory did discuss breaking up days ago in prviate. He may not have accepted and brushed off her concerns as jitters that may go away. He was shocked when she announced before press that their relationship was officially over. Shirley’s break-up announcement was as much for Gregory as for her new interest, Andy Ng.
Finally many thanks for Aly, who referred to Shirley as a “runaway bride” in the comments section, an apt comparison which I liberally incorporated in this article, which is an excerpt and loose translation from new information that emerged from Orientaldaily.
Wow so shocking I wonder what that Andy guy did to make Shirley change her mind since she did sacrifice a lot of things for Gregory in the past.
Well according to the article it seems that she indeed planned to dump Greg. a long time ago since it’s likely to use some time to find the right apartment in the first place.
I agree with Jayne on her unable to tell Gregory. Sometimes when you’re too comfortable with one another, you just don’t know how to begin, so Shirley did what she had to do. Actually from the looks of it it was planned in stages. She did do him injustice by breaking up in public but from the article it seems it wasn’t a unilateral breakup, but rather she tried telling him, he refused to listen? Or she didn’t know how so she decided to do what she did? I may have wrong Shirley. At least she didn’t push-push-pull-pull. But the way she did it was not right. Surely 9 years deserves a more dignified break up. And what a friend eh? But then he was never Gregory’s friend I suppose.
I suppose this relationship ran its course but she just found it impossible to tell him. Moreover he seems heads over heels in love with her, she might not be able to reciprocate anymore so she decided to end it. I don’t think of her as runaway bribe. That connotes fear of commitment, I think she just doesn’t wish to commit to him.
Funn,
Since it was a 9 year relationship, Shirley likely thought through matters carefully and as you pointed out, planned the break-up in stages. Looking for a proper “exit strategy” once she fell for Andy.
Sometimes you don’t know what you truly want in a life partner, especially if you have been dating the same person for a lengthy time which may make you “blind” and only accept circumstances as they stand. Without the entry of a third party, it may not have made it clear that Shirley needed something else in a long-term relationship. Without Andy, perhaps Shirley may have indeed married Gregory. Sometimes people are willing to “settle” if they don’t get the chance to experience what else is out there. It is not easy to end a 9-year relationship due to their shared past. It’s a gamble that not everyone is willing to take.
Although the term, “runaway bride” does connoct fear of commitment in marriage, I think it can also be used to describe a certain person fearing marriage to a partner due to specific circumstances and fear of a joint future together. I was alluding to the simple fact that she agreed to marriage and ran away before the event took place.
so freaking scary, same bed with the woman but did not know what she is up to. luckily she is not lunatic or else gregory will suffer even more.
Good analysis Jayne. 😀
I think it’s funny how people viewed Shirley before and after. People were praising that she’s not a gold-digger and that she doesn’t mind being the breadwinner in the relationship. Ultimately, people liked how she wanted someone trustworthy and placed personality above looks and money matters.
Now that news of the two broke up, it appears that most of the blame is put on Shirley for breaking his heart.
I don’t believe that cheating in any relationship in right. But it does appear that there is a third party which lead Shirley to come to a conclusion of breaking up with Gregory. Shirley and Andy have not only been keeping in touch as friends, but perhaps there may be something more promising and attractive in Andy that Gregory doesn’t have.
From Shirley’s perspective, it is not wrong of her to find someone else attractive, but being together with her bf for 9 years, she could have been a bit more responsible in handling the break up with Gregory and let his family know before speaking out to reporters. It seems like Gregory is still in denial.
I was re-reading the first article again and what Shirley said to the reporters. She said it was a mutual agreement between the two, which is obviously not true considering how hurt Gregory appears. She said they have considered break up many months ago, but it appears that she was the only one ho knew about this. I suppose moving out and buying a new apartment was her way of showing to Gregory implicitly that breaking up was soon to come. But if she was planning this all along, why did Shirley have to admit and give hope to Gregory and his family that they will get married.
Therefore, it was irresponsible of Shirley not to be more explicit about her break up to Gregory. It might be viewed as immature for her to tell the public first instead of the party involved.
If there is something going on between Shirley and Andy, it won’t be too long before we find out.
“Shirley had used “a reason that a man can not withstand” to break-up with Gregory.”
That’s a pretty powerful statement. I saw in another article on asianfanatics that Shirley may be pregnant with Andy’s baby. That’s only a rumor, but if it was true, then it’s possibly the reason for breakup. That really would be reason that no man can accept. Perhaps it wasn’t that she got cold feet or fear of commitment to marriage, but rather she was unfaithful to him? Cheating is one thing, but to get pregnant with another man’s baby? Now that’s hard to accept. I hope it’s not true though!
Aly,
I think the “reason that a man can’t withstand” just refers to a third party: a woman leaving a man for another man. If Shirley had indeed told Gregory that she was pregnant with Andy’s baby, then Gregory should be very clear on the break-up reason. However, Gregory came across as unclear about the exact reason, when Shirley stopped loving him. So the break-up reason is likely more layered than Shirley being pregnant.
I guess it is due to a variety of reasons that they broke up and it has been building up all of these years. I guess it just finally exploded all at once… So sad…
awww…. i feel so bad for him … look at his eyes ~
i think shirley handled the situation badly even if she just noticed now that she likes andy more , ;s
sighhh * i think she should’ve told the family before she told the media ;(
Dona U R 100% right. She doesn’t deserved the title for MS HK ,(a beauty with a brain ) she was so selfish did not take into a consideration of Gregory parents feeling since their were from tvb too. how his dad going to face everyone in the work place.
Honestly, does the title of MS HK mean what it meant in the past anymore?? Judging by today’s winners and all, the title doesn’t seem to mean anything anymore…
If Gregory were to given a chance by TVB Management and I shall said that his acting skill is as good as all the siu sang. GREGORY don’t be sad by this breakup, one day when ur luck came u will definitely got the awards for best actor…..Cheers up….Kiddo
What does Gregory do besides act? He’s only in 1-2 series per year, if at all. He should be getting minor roles… even if he isn’t getting promoted by TVB. Perhaps Shirley is looking for someone more motivated.
Im thinking about the same thing how can Gregory survive in HK? Sure there are choices with regards to food however the housing prices are at insane levels from what i read in newspapers.
Maybe he should take some courses and consider another career instead of playing KLF at TVB.
well.. he lives w/ him parents so they are probably supporting him?
i thought he and shir was living together? pretty sure he got some funding from his parent if he wanna move out.
no, it says he was living w/ him family in kowloon tong.
i see. hopefully he can find someone that will love him.
THanks for the info and it seems like he is close to his parents. Glad to know that they are by his side to support him through this tough time…I know that they all must be really sad over all this…
According to an article I read, Gregory’s monthly salary from TVB is HKD8000.
Besides his work in TVB, he is also a semi-professional car racer who competed in tournament (with prize money) and train new racers. According to the article, he’s into drifting.
If she didn’t think highly of Gregory and wanted someone better then she should have ended it long ago and not at a time when she agreed to marry him like that. But then again, who knows since we are not them.. It is over for them so hopefully the media and everyone will give them some space to heal and move on…
I think when you are young, you are very naive about love. You think that as long as the two of you love each other, nothing else matters. But as you get older, you realize that other things are important too… like career, stability, money. Like Jayne said, perhaps she agreed to marry him out of responsibility, but got cold feet and realized that she could not go through w/ it. I think that she did genuinely love him at some point… even fans had an extremely negative image of him (saying she paid for his mortgage/he eats soft rice, etc, etc), she stuck by him.
Who knows what goes behind closed doors?
Gregory seems like a very nice & simple guy… hope he can find a girl who appreciates who he is.
Yea, when you grow with a person, they change and you change and if you can’t complement and adjust to those changes, then you grow apart. Which then leads to break ups, divorces,etc… Even marriage is not a lifetime guarantee like we all used to think anymore….
If Shirley not love Greg anymore, then break up, this I agree because it is unfair to stay with someone you not love, not fair for you, not fair for him and not fair for the future children.
But money should never be a reason to break up. People should really be greatful for what they have. Look at children in North Korea, Cuba, Africa, those people in there don’t even have food to eat.
If you have a house over your head, a job, and food to eat, then it should be enough. Never measure love by how big his house is, or how much money he have. I don’t mind live in a small house, if the small house fill with love and laughters.
With Shirley status, she is trillions times better than those poor children who pick up dirty food to eat in North Korea and Africa. Sometimes you must know what is enough.
Notes: I am not Shirley, so ofcouse I do not know why she choose Andy Ng over Greg. What I write above are just giving examples.
Shirley really should of given his family some face and not announce this breakup to public without consulting their families together and let them know way in advance. those poor ppl were still planning for a wedding in total oblivion. the family really deserve more courtesy than this. they didnt know since she only broke it to Greggory some days ago before running to media. she should give it some time to sink in and it be known by all insiders(fams included) before outsiders get to it.
I heard that she announced to the public so that Gregory will accept the break up since when she did it in private, he would not accept… I feel so sad for him, but life goes on and time heals all pain. Hopefully he will find someone that will love him…
well hearing how Greggory’s mother nearly fainted at being served this news. i never expect someone like Shirley to be so cold blooded, especially when she has a quiet and sweet face. guess she wants to end it once and for all in order to move onto her new lover.
i agree that i hope the family and Greggory can heal from this consequence and any suffering from the media ambush.
i really hope Greggory doesn’t turn into a mad ex and go do something drastic or tragic.
my my, after reading so many twist and turns in the news lately, gotta say what a scandalous yr for celebrities eh.
What? His mom fainted?? Oh my gosh, that is serious then. No wonder his dad is sooo upset. Even though I don’t really agree with his dad saying bad things about Shirley, I don’t blame him because look at how badly his son and family is hurt.
Looks can be really deceiving. Some people can have a really sweet and kind looking face but end up being the most evil and cold blooded person you have ever met, while there are some kind people that may have a mean looking face. I guess that even though it hurts and all, it is better for it to all end now so that everyone can move on…
I also hope that the media and everyone will leave Gregory’s family alone so that they can slowly recover from this. I hope that Gregory won’t go and do something bad like this one other maniac that stabbed his girlfriend 65 times for breaking up with him…
Yea, this year has been a really scandalous year for celebs… After the Nic and Cecilia incident comes this… I wonder what is next??
What is so different between a breakup decision that announced to public and do it in private? Still have one result: Breakup.
If he can’t accept, he still can’t accept.
Would you like to be dumped publicly before even you know it? It is as cruel as being dumped via email, fax, phone call and last I remember, Taylor Swift wrote a hit song out of that.
Well to me the difference is that one is more considerate and the other is more inconsiderate, but that is just what I think…
Not wat I meant.
I meant Gregory can’t accept the breakup decision, so whatever way to deliver it, he still can’t accept.
The math does not add up….they say she met him 11 years ago in high school but 11 years ago (2000) Shirley was 22 years old (she was born in 1978).
Shirley won Miss HK in 2001, she graduated and was a kindergarten teacher before the pageant.
From what I’ve been reading(through english translations), it says he’s been courting/trying to date her for 11 years so it is possible they knew each other before but he was not interested in her at the time when they were in school.
Hm… Well, that is still just a rumour so who knows for sure if it is 100% true. However, the rumour about this Andy guy being the 3rd party seems to be true.
Anyone read this news from MSN, please read: http://entertainment.xin.msn.com/en/celebrity/buzz/asia/article.aspx?cp-documentid=4981175
Here is a quote from the news: ”
According to an insider, the split between the couple was due to Shirley being unhappy with Gregory’s obsession with car racing and that he did not have enough money for their wedding. Shirley was also rumoured to have fallen in love with her rich ex-classmate, Andy.”
So this guy Andy Ng is her rich ex-classmate.
This is so sad but I guess things in life cannot always be how we want it… Time will heal all pain and I hope that Gregory will get through all this. If this article is accurate and with the reoccuring rumours, I think that Andy being the third party may be true. I feel so sad for Gregory, but I hope that he will get over this with support from family, friends and fans… Good luck and best wishes to Gregory.
her boobs look great in that dress
Hm.. I wonder if that was why Raymond may have liked her before??
Raymond who?
Raymond Lam
Maybe. And maybe she is more than boobies. See, 2 guys are fighting to get her.
Raymond sure loves women with big boobs, I wonder did he got aroused while kissing Chrissie Chau LOL.
Yeah, Shirley really does possessed good figure.
Why don’t think that the marriage comes and she tried to think of Gregory as a husband but failed. In this case, Shirley’s decision is actually good for both. If they get married but she doesn’t have the feel with him, they will end up with a divorce? Then if she has kid(s) with him, how the kid(s) will be? There are many thing to consider if the feeling is gone.
I don’t think Shirley is selfish. If she really wants to let go, do it before the marriage is a good action. After being tied with a marriage, both ppl will have to surpass more hurt than now.
The feeling is that, say gone mean gone, can’t take back.
I’m now waiting for Shirley’s side. What she’ll say?
I also wonder if Shirley will come out and say something? or will she just leave it as is??
I rmb someone in here (not this topic, in Jaynestar) said that best way to deal a scandal is keep silent.
Apparently not in Bernice case. The more she keep silent, the further her image submerged and irrepairable; especially if the other party is more sympathetic.
@Masaharu: Yes yes. Even when Bernice broke the silence, she is still bashed.
Even though I don’t really agree with what Shirley did, I think that it may be for the best. It would be a lot worse for them to get married and then divorce. That would be even more pain for Gregory to endure… I agree that once the feeling is gone, then it is gone and you can’t have it back…
Exactly. Hurt now? Better than hurt forever.
I think Shirley chose this course of action because Greg refuse to accept the break up.
She could have been hinting and hinting for quite some time, but, Greg couldn’t or refused to take the hint. Then, she finally broke up with him but he refused to accept it and thought maybe after some cool down period, everything will be ok again.
I think Shirley was hoping that after she broke up with Greg, Greg will inform his family about it. Reading the expletive filled scolding of senior Lee, one can see that he can be quite scary. I think Shirley was scared of breaking the news face to face to Greg’s parents. But, since Greg was in denial and the preparation of the wedding was still going on. She felt that she has to do it this way to make a clean break.
This kind of all seems to make sense now if my predictions are correct, that Shirley did discuss with Greg about the break up, but Greg cose to deny it… so Shirley had no choice but to make him accept the truth and just announce it to the public.
I think Shirley should end the relationship quietly, maybe a dinner with Gregory family and announce the news to his family.
No need to make it public, if Greg cannot accept it earlier when she try to tell him, making this public won’t help much but only make people pity for Greg.
If she been hinting and Greg not accept, then let Greg parents know so they can talk to their son.
What ever excuses Shirley might have, this will definately looks bad for her, netizens will definately feel pity for Greg.
Wouldn’t the fact that Shirley bought an apartment and moved out been sign enough that there was trouble in paralise?
Ding ye says that there were no signs of trouble, but she moved out and only came back once a week, after living with them for 9 years….
What does he want ….a big neon sign that says she is not happy and wants to leave.
I think that there might be some truth to the fact that she did ask for a break up in private, but maybe Greg and family were in complete denial….she is just being a girl and doesn’t know how to make decisions, so they brush her aside.
If they did that, she may feel ignored and could possibly just accept the marriage proposal, because this is what the Lee family were expecting.
If they don’t want to listen to her in private…how else can she break up with the family if not by making a public announcement.
Anyway, Greg has always been excellent at bringing the tears and showing emotion…so him suddenly saying that he didn’t see the signs of break up just shows that he was in complete denial…even though he knew she basically moved out!
is gregory lee related to lee ka shin since his father’s name is also lee ka something
ofcourse not otherwise shir would never ever left him lol. lot of people called Li Ka xxx
As far as I know, no.