Sonija Kwok Admits Pregnancy: “I Have Been Vomiting Frequently!”
Miss Hong Kong 1999 winner, Sonija Kwok (郭羨妮) recently confirmed that she was more than three months pregnant, adding to the joyous news in the entertainment circle! Sonija admitted that her intention to have a baby only cropped up after getting married in October 2011. It turned out that the baby came quicker than expected. In the next five days, Sonija will speak with the Oriental Daily regarding her feelings before and after joining the entertainment industry, her perspective on love, rumors, her life as an immigrant in Canada, and her work. Sonija’s interview articles are not to not to be missed!
“Things happen in life when you do not think about them. Earlier, I never considered having a child so early and only thought about it after marriage. It was natural to enter this stage [in wanting a child]. My mother frequently urged me, ‘Daughter, you are no longer young. If you do not have a child, it is as if you are missing a wonderful aspect in your life. Next year, you will be 38-years-old; if you want to have a baby, you should hurry up!’ After becoming pregnant and preparing to become a mother, the feeling is quite special.
“I never considered how many children I will have; we will think about it after the baby is born! I do not know what it is like to become a mother yet and do not know whether I will be able to handle it! My husband [Zhu Shaojie 朱少杰] mentioned earlier that he would like to have another child and hopes for a daughter. He said that daughters will cling to their fathers more. I asked him what if the baby turns out to be a boy? He said that he will like it too. I do not have any gender preferences. If it were a girl, then I can dress her up. If it were a boy, he can protect me in the future.”
Bodily Changes
“When I knew I was pregnant, my husband was not in Hong Kong. When I called him to tell him I was pregnant, he was extremely happy and insisted that the baby will be a girl! I told him not to think this way, otherwise he will be disappointed if it were a boy. When I first became pregnant, I felt queasy and vomited frequently earlier. I was afraid to go to noisy places as I was very sensitive and would break into a cold sweat! Perhaps due to hormonal changes, I became very impatient. Fortunately, my appetite has been good, preferring sour and salty foods. Although my husband is in mainland China on a long-term basis due to work, my mother takes care of me and prepares soup frequently. I feel very blessed!
“Every pregnant woman looks forward to the ultrasound scan [of the growing baby]. It is wonderful to hear the heartbeat and feel the movement. I will likely cry when the baby is born. I am leaning towards a Caesarean section for the delivery, as I am afraid that I will not have the strength to push, ha ha! In an earlier television program on birth, it was apparent how painful and difficult the childbirth process is. A mother’s love is so great!”
No Desire for a New Stage
“After completing his work, my husband will come back to Hong Kong to spend time with me. We will travel to mainland China together to spend the Lunar New Year holiday. I have already asked him to place his vacation request to take off one month prior to the baby’s arrival. After giving birth, I will continue to work. At this stage, I am not interested in fighting for anything, but hope to have a comfortable job. In the past, I have endured not sleeping for three days and three nights. I have arrived at another stage of life. Due to my pregnancy, I have declined several dramas, losing approximately a 7-figure sum. Despite the loss in income, I felt that it was worth it due to the joyous nature of the news. I feel very blessed!
“Earlier, someone asked me whether living apart from my husband will affect our relationship. I am not afraid! Since the start of our relationship, we have always been separated. When we are together, we will be exceptionally happy. When I have time, I will go to mainland China to visit him. Returning to Hong Kong, I am used to living by myself. He trusts me very much. It is very important to have trust between two people. There is no need to grow anxious if I can not locate him in one phone call. Similar to flying a kite, it if flies away, you let go of the string. Everyone has their freedom.”
Source: Oriental Daily
Jayne: In this interview, Sonija Kwok sounds like a simple woman. She sounds truly happy with her pregnancy and looking forward to being a mother.
I also sensed that Sonija is someone who doesn’t plan too far ahead and just goes with the flow. She seems to be happy that her husband is somewhat holding the reins. Her comment that if the baby turns out to be boy, her son can protect her in the future is quite telling of her role as more of a follower than a leader.
I always thought Sonija to be someone who is a die hard romantic; in her earlier years she probably got to many rumours due to her idea of being in love, being a romantic. As she got many disappointments and bad gossips I supposed she matured and wanted a different sort of love. I am happy she is happy. I never thought of her as materialistic or high maintenance, just rather foolish to be so easily in love with people even if she doesn’t act on it.
Someone did asked why didn’t she marry into a rich family since she is very pretty and all that? I do believe that is not the ideals she was seeking. I think she wanted a man to love her and to be there for her and money was never the issue. Moreover she has too much gossips attached, all of which I believe except the one on Steven Ma.
Funn,
Sonija also doesn’t come across as too eloquent, but it will be interesting to see the remainder of her interview series with Oriental Daily in the next few days.
I think Sonija was likely pursued by rich men earlier in her career. She was rumored with Louis Koo in “A Step in the Past” and then dated Deric Wan for 4 years after that. She was also rumored with Charles Chan (current majority stakeholder of TVB) and appeared with several bodyguards on set in a movie once.
My theory is that Sonija is looking for more of an equal in a partner, someone whom she can connect with (romantic side) and perhaps not a very rich man that she may be unable to relate with. Somehow, I sense she is not a very confident woman in herself. In love, I feel she indeed goes by her heart.
Zhu Shaojie sounds like a good man from accounts so far.
The long-distance marriage sounds difficult to maintain in the long-term, especially when baby arrives and Sonija and her mother will be raising the kid on their own, while Shaojie continues to remain in China.
Sonija has stated in agroup interview (the other 3 interviewees are Anne Heung and Charmaine Sheh) many years ago that she would not date Louis Koo. The reason is because Louis is not a communicative person and she felt that in a relationship, a couple needs communication.
Note: In case anyone might feel offended with what Sonija said about Louis, she’s not badmouthing him, she’s just telling it as it is. Louis Koo himself said he’s not communicative and Jerry Lamb is a better boyfriend. Louis likes to keep things to himself.
Louis Koo was very bad tempered and foul mouthed guy. Of course she wouldn’t look at him twice. Even Michelle what’s her name which Louis was crazy about also didn’t consider him. I believe he has mellowed over the years though. And yes I do think Sonija isn’t too bright.
Funn,
Is it Michelle Yip? I didnt know Louis was crazy for her lol.
Anyway, I also heard that Louis Koo isn’t someone communicative and like to be alone.
No not michelle Yip. MIchelle saran I think the spelling. Saram? The one as corpse in Step into past? On ATE II also as the girl in love with him.
Oh Michelle Saram…I didnt know Louis was crazy for her but can’t blame him since she’s pretty..
I always think Michelle saram has those “singh” blood in her..her nose and mouth resembles of those “kours” in Msia lol.
I do think she has pubjab blood in her, obviously. He didn’t say he liked her but everytime she is onscreen his eyes twinkles. Haven’t see than twinkling eye since.
Oh Funn, she doesn’t has any punjab blood but she looks like one imo lol
Michelle Saram is an Indian-chinese mix. Her father is Indian.
Thanks Kidd,
oh that explains why she looks like one of our ethnicity in Msia lol
Wait. Isn’t she from Malaysia?? No? She represents the best of indian mix with chinese.
Now I remember. Singaporean!
Louis Koo has managed to keep his love life quite mysterious. I only remember him dating Natalie wong gei ying in his early days at tvb. I thought there might be something btwn him and Michelle yip when she thanked him at the film awards but nothing came of it. I wonder if he’s got a gf stashed away a la Andy lau.
I remember the interview, it was Behind the Fame hosted by Lydia Shum.
Louis also appeared on the program with Miriam Yeung, it was a funny episode because Louis admitted that he doesn’t like communicating but expect his girlfriend to understand what he need. Miriam then proceed to give him a cup of tea and muffled her voice. LOL…
Eeew Michelle Saram is not pretty at all. She just doesn’t look good.
Louis & Michelle S
Louis had always said he treated her like a sister… never heard that he was ‘crazy’ about her.
lol@Louis on that interview with Miriam and Fei Jeh that was hilarious <3 Louis At least he is real about himself and tells it like it is ;D and the biggest factor is that he loves his family <3 any man that shows and tells it rates high up even if he isn't all that communicative.
“Louis had always said he treated her like a sister… never heard that he was ‘crazy’ about her.”
Then he must really like the sister. You must watch ATE II to know what I mean. He can;t help but smile everytime he sees her, his eyes twinkling. Body language proves he really really liked her.
@ Josie,
Yes Natalie Wong was probably the only gf from entertainment circle which Louis admitted so far.
She supported Louis financially and emotionally when he was just a newcomer in TVB. Louis was grateful and it was rumored that he keep giving her monthly expenses even after they broke up (after he gained fame in TVB).
Louis was rumored with Michelle Yip too, after filming a movie together but it seems that Michelle is dating another actor now. Not sure on that coz its just rumors.
I read about Natalie Wong. She stood by him and was very nice to him. Quite touching really.
Not a big fan of Sonija but I always like her even though she’s the one who often has ‘bad rumors.’ I’m happy that she got married and soon to become a mother. She sounds really genuine. I think she’s a sweet and nice person in real life. Congrats!
sonija is one of those really pretty ms hk that w/o Plastic surgery rumour!
It’s good to see that the mentality of the people in China are changing now. China has a lot of female fetus abortions and female infanticide after the ‘One Child Policy’ was implemented. Good to see that mindset is changing now and girls are also wanted by parents.
Aiyah! One guy only what! Ask his mother. What she wants and MIL always want sons.
And her baby will be born in hk so they don’t have to worry about the one child policy. I think people like girls for the first child b/c they’re usually easier to take care of than rowdy boys.
Those traditional parents still want boys over girls.
Congrats to Sonija! I’m with Jayne, she really does sound like a simple woman who is quite the romantic. Refreshing in a world where you hear about women in the business marrying or dating for money.
She’s leaning towards a Caesaerean section… I heard natural childbirth may be a bit better for the baby. Or at least babies born via natural childbirth develop slightly faster early on, physically and cognitively. Plus no scarring. Think about that, Sonija, especially if there are any torso-revealing roles left in your future.
@thewong,
Sorry but your explanation on natural birth is so unconvincing. I’m a mother of 1 daughter and I got my daughter thru caesarean. There is certainly no such thing as bb will develop faster and etc. and No scarring? u sure? Even women who had natural birth babies have scare when the doctor use the forcep to take them out but these scars won’t stay on the baby’s body forever, the colour will fade in few days..
The reason why some celeb chose to have c-section is because they don’t have to go thru the labour pain which could last up till 10 hrs and more. Some opt for C-section because it’s safer than natural birth which can eventually caused hemorrhaging.
@Veejay:
Re: scarring. I was referring to Cesarean scarring for Sonija’s stomach, not her baby. Hence, my reference to “torso-revealing roles.” Anyway…
Re: elective Cesareans (not emergency ones)…
* Voluntary C-Sections Result in More Baby Deaths (http://www.nytimes.com/2006/09/05/health/05birt.html?scp=32&sq=&st=nyt)
* Elective Cesareans Tied to Breathing Problems (http://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/25/health/25baby.html?scp=25&sq=&st=nyt)
* Optional Cesareans Carry Higher Risk [to the mother], Study Finds (http://www.nytimes.com/2007/03/27/health/27birth.html?scp=28&sq=&st=nyt)
Unrelated but interesting: “The brains of women who have natural childbirth appear to be more responsive to the cries of their own babies, compared to the brains of women who have C-section births.” (http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/09/05/delivery-method-affects-brain-response-to-babys-cry/)
@thewong,
Foremost, are you a mother yourself yet? and if we’re to bring out all this info from website and discuss.. I don’t think we can finish until the next day.
I myself, have been thru experience and consulted my doctor many times before going thru c-section and he convinced me both whether natural or c-section has it risks..however c-section is safer nowadays without the baby having to stay in the mother’s womb for a long time thus leading their death by all reasons eg. strangulation.. I’ve a friend who had natural birth and her bb died due to breathing shortage and I heard of another story of natural birth, the mom died right after giving birth due to massive blood loss (hemorrhaging). Well, I’m not saying all new moms should opt for caesarean operation but what I was told by my doctor is that Many new couple/new mom will choose c-section over natural birth if given the choice becuz of safer reason and less pain.
But what you explained about bb who was born thru natural birth will developed faster than others, well “sorry” if I’m not informative enough than you. I’m not sure where u get this fact from and I don’t think to someone who have never carry a child in your womb would how it feels to have a living bb in your womb.
Wow, you seem rather emotionally invested in this issue. Fine, forget what I said about developmental differences. But please don’t simply dismiss the data in the articles and appeal to the experience of people you know or even yourself. That’s cherry-picking (“the act of pointing to individual cases or data that seem to confirm a particular position, while ignoring a significant portion of related cases or data that may contradict that position” [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cherry_picking_(fallacy)])
I’m curious at the title of all the articles
* Voluntary C-Sections Result in More Baby Deaths
* Elective Cesareans Tied to Breathing Problems
* Optional Cesareans Carry Higher Risk
What about those non-optional C-sections? They won’t have the above effect?
Nonsense! point is giving birth is dangerous. Period. Most doctors would recommend natural birth unless absolutely have to then use caesaerean since cut means in future can’t have more children? Not scarring but the ability to cut again and again and again. I heard labour pain is painful but the aftermath of being cut is worse. Doctors recommend caesaeran these days because of higher cost/fees/profit.
Point is giving birth is actually very dangerous whether push, cut or whatever.
@ Funn
A woman can still have subsequent children after C-section. My friend has to do C-section because of some complication. She has a second child a few years later.
Chinese nowadays usually have 2-3 children only. Most opted for 2. So, no need to cut again and again and again.
I really wish I can introduce this book to Sonija. Maybe she won’t feel so fearful about natural birth after that.
CHILDBIRTH WITHOUT FEAR – Grantly Dick-Read
I read the feedback comments in amazon. Many women were helped by it. This method was developed by a few other people later to become hypnobirthing.
Expectant mothers can check it out. The method supposed to make childbirth easy and not painful.
Sigh, awaiting moderation again because of the Author’s name
@ Funn
A woman can still have subsequent children after C-section. My friend has to do C-section because of some complication. She has a second child a few years later.
Chinese nowadays usually have 2-3 children only. Most opted for 2. So, no need to cut again and again and again.
I really wish I can introduce this book to Sonija. Maybe she won’t feel so fearful about natural birth after that.
CHILDBIRTH WITHOUT FEAR – Grantly D!ck-Read
Note: please change ! to i.
I read the feedback comments in amazon. Many women were helped by it. This method was developed by a few other people later to become hypnobirthing.
Expectant mothers can check it out. The method supposed to make childbirth easy and not painful.
Childbirth is painful, it is scary and it is very very dangerous. Less people die from it these days but people still do die from it for many reasons. Recognise all these and balance it with the fact such an important act lies with the weaker sex aka women, shows how strong women are in actual fact to bear with the pain. So what is there to fear at the end of the way? It is always a risk. Caesarean I think is a risk because you will need to be put out, is it general or local anesthesia or however you spell it. And all surgery have risks.
As for scarring nonsense, all scars fade with time. For actors, if you can cover ugly tatoos or big pimples, I do believe scars are nothing.
@Funn,
Actually I was trying to tell @thewong that not only Caesarean is dangerous..natural birth also bears the same risk.. it’s all depends on situation and etc.
And Funn, during caesarean, the doctor won’t usually put u out entirely unless u requested it. I only got my half body anesthesia and I was unable to feel “any slight” pain during the whole ordeal but when my anesthesia went off.. I can tell you that I felt LIKE HELL like I was never in this great pain before.. and the 2nd day was killing me. The doc asked me to sit up and try getting down from my bed…I felt like my whole tummy gonna fall off (it was really painful!!!) Imagine my cut was around 6-7cm length and it was really killing me.
So in my conclusion, I didnt ignore the fact that caesarean is risky like what thwong said i was ignoring it but i just wanna point out the explanation she explained about bb who was born thru natural eventually developed faster than Ceasarean is utterly nonsense..
@ Funn
The fear of pain itself is fear. It is easy to say ‘what is there to fear’ when one is just analysing, thinking and philosophing. But, when one is actually in the situation, one cannot help feeling the fear. It’s more so more when after you have heard so many people telling you childbirth is extremely painful.
Like when you are going to bungee jump or going on a roller coaster, can you just tell yourself ‘what is there to fear?’ and your anxiety immediately went ‘poof’ and gone?
That book’s purpose is to help the expectant mother reduce the fear because fear will cause the childbirth to be painful (the book has an explanation about it). Reducing the fear will let the body and womb to have enough resources for a smooth and much less painful birth.
I don’t know about other women but I prefer natural birth. I went through long hours of pain but I gave birth naturally. The hardest part for natural birth for me is enduring the pain, after the baby come out, it is a relief.
And about C-Section, I am actually scare of Caesarean . My college friend she had Caesarean, and she said after it heals, even a cough or sneeze can give her extremely pain.
It is also said that once you have a C-Section, you always will need a C-Section, you cannot give birth naturally after if you once have Caesarean birth.
Depends on the woman’s health and the baby is first baby or not.
However, c-section one time and have to use c-section all after that.
Caring or not, it’s matter of the mother. Some mothers gave birth naturally and still can treat their own kids badly.
@Funn: no one is saying that childbirth, whether natural or via c-section, is entirely safe, or not dangerous. We’re just just discussing which is LESS safe/MORE dangerous.
Veejay claims that elective/optional c-section is SAFER than natural childbirth. She wrote, “Some opt for C-section because it’s *safer* than natural birth which can eventually caused hemorrhaging.” And later, she wrote, “…c-section is *safer* nowadays without the baby having to stay in the mother’s womb for a long time thus leading their death by all reasons eg. strangulation.” As well, she wrote, “…what I was told by my doctor is that Many new couple/new mom will choose c-section over natural birth if given the choice becuz of *safer* reason and less pain.” (emphases added)
But I think she’s wrong about that: elective/optional c-sections are LESS safe and MORE dangerous than natural childbirth. And then I provided some evidence in the form of links to news articles. As an aside, experts recommend waiting until until 39 weeks to have an elective c-section, but people don’t always follow that.
@Kidd: I have no idea whether mandatory/emergency c-sections are more or less safe than natural childbirth.
@Veejay: c-section babies may not develop slower, but they may develop differently…
“Children born by Caesarean section could be more likely to develop schizophrenia in later life, according to research.” (BBC: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/216831.stm)
“Babies born via caesarean section (C-section) may face a higher risk of food allergies and diarrhea as infants than others…” (WebMD: http://www.webmd.com/allergies/news/20041020/c-section-may-increase-kids-allergy-risks)
“Children born by Caesarean section have a 20% higher risk of developing type 1 diabetes than those born naturally…” (BBC: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7576829.stm)
“Children born by cesarean section have a higher risk of asthma than those born by vaginal delivery…” (http://thorax.bmj.com/content/early/2008/12/03/thx.2008.100875.abstract?maxtoshow=&HITS=10&hits=10&RESULTFORMAT=&author1=Roduit&andorexactfulltext=and&searchid=1&FIRSTINDEX=0&sortspec=relevance&resourcetype=HWCIT)
“Young adults born via Cesarean section are more likely to be obese than those delivered vaginally, suggesting C-sections could be feeding the obesity epidemic, researchers have found.” (Reuters: http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/05/12/us-csections-obesity-idUSTRE74B68B20110512)
@Funn (again): you wrote, “[A]ll scars fade with time.” Fade? Yes. Disappear? Not all of them. I suppose actresses who’ve had c-sections can use make-up or plastic surgery or whatever to cover such scars–or even ask the doctor to cut beneath the bikini line. But they’ll still know it’s there…
@Funn: no one is saying that childbirth, whether natural or via c-section, is entirely safe, or not dangerous. We’re just just discussing which is LESS safe/MORE dangerous for either the mother or the child.
Veejay claims that elective/optional c-section is SAFER than natural childbirth. She wrote, “Some opt for C-section because it’s *safer* than natural birth which can eventually caused hemorrhaging.” And later, she wrote, “…c-section is *safer* nowadays without the baby having to stay in the mother’s womb for a long time thus leading their death by all reasons eg. strangulation.” As well, she wrote, “…what I was told by my doctor is that Many new couple/new mom will choose c-section over natural birth if given the choice becuz of *safer* reason and less pain.” (emphases added)
But I think she’s wrong about that: elective/optional c-sections are LESS safe and MORE dangerous than natural childbirth for either the child or the mother. And then I provided some evidence in the form of links to news articles. As an aside, experts recommend waiting until until 39 weeks to have an elective c-section, but people don’t always follow that.
@Kidd: I have no idea whether mandatory/emergency c-sections are more or less safe than natural childbirth.
@Veejay: c-section babies may not develop slower, but they may develop differently…
“Children born by Caesarean section could be more likely to develop schizophrenia in later life, according to research.” (BBC: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/216831.stm)
“Babies born via caesarean section (C-section) may face a higher risk of food allergies and diarrhea as infants than others…” (WebMD: http://www.webmd.com/allergies/news/20041020/c-section-may-increase-kids-allergy-risks)
“Children born by Caesarean section have a 20% higher risk of developing type 1 diabetes than those born naturally…” (BBC: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7576829.stm)
“Children born by cesarean section have a higher risk of asthma than those born by vaginal delivery…” (http://thorax.bmj.com/content/early/2008/12/03/thx.2008.100875.abstract?maxtoshow=&HITS=10&hits=10&RESULTFORMAT=&author1=Roduit&andorexactfulltext=and&searchid=1&FIRSTINDEX=0&sortspec=relevance&resourcetype=HWCIT)
“Young adults born via Cesarean section are more likely to be obese than those delivered vaginally, suggesting C-sections could be feeding the obesity epidemic, researchers have found.” (Reuters: http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/05/12/us-csections-obesity-idUSTRE74B68B20110512)
@Funn (again): you wrote, “[A]ll scars fade with time.” Fade? Yes. Disappear? No. Make-up, plastic surgery, or make an incision below the bikini line? Sure. But she’ll know it’s there…
Sonija confirmed that she is more that 3 months pregnant, but she got married in Oct 2011 which is 2 months ago so that mean she was pregnant when she got married. She said she only thought about having children after marriage,I don’t want to call her a liar but I don’t believe she wasn’t aware she was pregnant in Oct (not when she is more than three months pregnant in Dec 2011).
Natural birth is always better in my opinion but what if Sonija has no choice??At her age, maybe she can’t have a natural birth?? I think she was pregnant before marriage too… Maybe she did not know that she pregnant?? Celebs are famous for lying so this is not the first time…
I think a celebrity with their money and healthcare, they can give birth naturally at Sonijia age, unless her body have some under lying issues.
My sister in law in a nurse, and she said she knows there a woman who at age 46 giving birth naturally.
If a woman age 46 can give birth naturally, Sonijia can.
Sonija registered her marriage early in the year (April?) in China before taking the wedding pictures in Guam. She brought that out because some Mainland netizens pointed out that marriage registrated in Guam is not legalized by the Chinese government.
Congratulations to Sonija on her pregnancy.
http://entertainment.xin.msn.com/en/celebrity/buzz/asia/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5383031
Sonija Kwok registered for marriage in April
Does it matter in today’s world? Some don’t even bothered with marriage and their children therefore bastard children.
Forgot to say CONGRATS to Sonija on her pregnancy… I also wonder if her marriage will be able to be maintained in the long term due to it being long distance??
Congrats Sonija! I think your baby will be a beautiful baby.