Zhang Ziyi Considered Suicide By Hanging Herself
Zhang Ziyi and Michelle Yeoh appeared a special dinner for a luxury car exhibit at the Louvre Museum in Paris last night. In attendance was Jean Reno, the star of Leon: The Professional. Unexpectedly, Ziyi was more formidable than Jean, who portrayed an assassin in the film. Earlier, Ziyi contemplated suicide by hanging herself!
Michelle Yeoh attended the Louvre’s exhibit with her boyfriend, Ferrari President, Jean Todt. The Louvre held a special exhibit entitled, “Ralph Lauren’s Luxury Car Collection Exhibition.” Aside from admiring the luxury cars, Ziyi was warmly greeted by Ralph Lauren, who personally introduced her to his private collection to cars!
In the morning before the dinner, Ziyi went shopping in the St Germain district of Paris. Ziyi bought clothes and a handbag as Mother’s Day gifts for her mother. Although Ziyi was in wonderful spirits during her trip in Paris, she revealed in an earlier mainland interview that she had entered a dark period in her life and contemplated hanging herself!
Fortunately, Ziyi had the opportunity to portray Kam Kam in the film, Love for Life <最愛>, allowing her to distance from her suicidal tendency. “If I had continued to live in my own world, I would have proceeded to hang myself! However, Kam Kam saved my life! Living in her world, I experienced the twists and turns in the fate of life! ”
Source: the Sun
Jayne: I didn’t follow Zhang Ziyi’s news earlier. What happened to cause her to enter such a dark period in her life and contemplated suicide?!
I am shocked to hear that Zhang ZiYi considered suicide? BUt then again, maybe I should not be shocked since celebs may seem to have a nice and glamourous life on the outside, however, behind the scenes they have many problems that we don’t think about… After Leslie’s incident and many of the Korean celebs that committed suicide, I guess I should not be shocked anymore…
Ziyi has nothin better to do but to tink Suicide, rot a dum dum, maybe Ziyi is’nt gettin enough french frys and have trouble with stir fry these days!!
For watever reason, suicide is unresponsible
I agree with u. It’s part of escapism from the real world. Many famous people chose this route because of the pressure of being a star. They have financial burden and personal problems just like the rest of us only their lives are on public display. I guess being famous is not very easy.
The rich and poor both have problems, just different problems. The poor struggle to make enough money and put food on the table. The rich are above such basic challenges in life, but it is all in the head. Each thinks their problems are magnified, as we all have a tendency to externalize our problems.
I have been reading some Buddhist writings and they are very soothing to the soul and offer guidelines on how we all must be therapists to ourselves in finding happiness.
Everyone’s personal problem is their MOST IMPORTANT issue. hahaha. I have two friends who are equally lovely people but one of them worries about her boyfriend’s job stability, buying a house, parent’s retirement. The other is worried about world peace, border wards, and basic civil and human rights. Just depends on who you are. The second has accuse the first of being “shallow” but I think my activist friend just doesn’t have the same perspective in life…and it was an unfair judgment call in my opinion.
You know what’s funny? I have also started reading Buddhist writings too…but I’m not sure if my personality [I have too many “why’s”] is cut out for tranquility.
Iampheng,
I read some Buddhist books several years ago but they did not touch me the same way they do now. Personally, I believe you need to have “suffered” to a degree, experienced some true grief, while wishing to adopt a more positive perspective in life. There needs to be a willingness to analyze those weaknesses and explore hidden thoughts, origin of feelings etc. The “whys” are all part of the self-exploratory process and no need to feel perplexed. Like any difficult obstacle, it just takes patience and proceeding one step at a time.
Which Buddhist writings did you enjoy and would recommend? Some books are written in such a didactic manner, focusing too much on the principles and concepts all at once. This type of general guide to Buddhism is written in a very dry, clinical manner that makes adoption in personal life very difficult.
I like the free ebooks found on buddhanet.net. Below are two books written in a practical manner in a Q & A fashion:
Making Your Mind an Ocean
http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/mindocean.pdf
Becoming Your Own Therapist
http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/becoming1.pdf
I also like “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series of books. I like reading inspirational writing because it does take effort to train the mind to think positively.
One of my high school friends, a very pretty and popular girl, dabbled in many drugs in college. After college, she was depressed and troubled by her parents’ divorce and committed suicide by hanging herself. We were shocked when we heard the news.
Sometimes suicide enters our thoughts in a weak moment and it can happen too quickly before anyone is able to stop it.
I understand the situation but suicide is never right.
Have you ever read the old legend that suicide ppl will be sent directly to hell because body is presented by parents, suicide means you are against the natural and denied the present of parents.
If dare to kill yourself (it hurts), why dun live better? Haizz.
Fox,
Agree with you, but sometimes people don’t know how to face their problems while alive and feeling that life is no longer worth living. When the mind is grieved by such deep layers of pain and grief, it is hard to see the light.
Living better takes a lot of courage and confronting problems head on.
I also agree with you. I understand the situation. I just think tat to die also need to be brave, then why dun use this power to live?
For those who contemplate suicide, it is not bravery or cowardice that is on their minds. Neither are they thinking about how they have lost their will to live. Many of them have just let themselves fall too deeply into their own deep inner well of darkness and depression and that makes for poor judgement calls. Sometimes, those people who have attempted suicide and/or/if they succeeded are not even aware of the true consequences of their actions. Judging their actions on these terms then becomes irrelevant to their own train of thought.
Why don’t they use the power to live? Well, for some, it’s not that they are not brave, it’s that they feel their is simply nothing to live for. Sometimes, the problems in these peoples live do stem from uncontrollable external circumstances…but for some others, the issue is they cannot bear to live with who they are on the inside.
@Fox, I know it is a matter of different opinion on this topic, especially since Suicide is a sensitive one, but I felt slightly offended by your comment. It sounds a bit insensitive to me. People who contemplates suicide is not cowards that does not want to live a better life. (You make it sound very easy.) They’ve fallen too deep into the abyss of darkness that it’s hard to see the light. I won’t comment too much on this topic because there’s never a right or a wrong (it’s like the whole religion dilemma) and I think iampheng and Jayne has pretty much said what I wanted to say.
It’s matter of opinion, Lollis.
And I’m a free thinker. I dun have any religion.
I am sorry to read that about your friend. But I think what drove her to kill herself is probably the drugs. Drugs make you lose your sense and your ability to reason. I am sure she didn’t want to kill herself but the drugs muddled her mind. I am not belittling your loss or taking lightly her depression but I feel sometimes people seem to think killing themselves solves all problems. It does, it solves your problem but not those who are living. I am sure her parents are still tortured by her senseless death and this is incredibly selfish of her. But then she is dead so frankly she wouldn’t feel the consequences of her action anyway. Brutal but true.
Funn,
While her personal circumstances drove her to drugs, I do agree that drugs likely distorted her mental clarity and ability to think clearly about the situation. Also, depression is very difficult to get out of by yourself. You really need a lot of help from people around you to constantly draw you out of the deep hole and adopt those coaching techniques.
I understand depression because I have bouts of it too. Depression runs in my mother’s side of the family. My aunt and several cousins have depression.
No offense to Zhang’s fans…Why is it that she’s still here?? she doesn’t gives me any good impression that she’s decent lady in real life. All the news were about her having illicit affairs with jacky, and other famous men. Maybe she should just shut her mouth and keep acting…
She’s obviously graving for media attention like usual after her fames has faded lately without any new news of her…with other man.
Keeping acting? She SUCKS!!!
Guess she fell into the dark side when she broke up with her money tree.
I can’t stand Michelle Yeoh, Zhang Ziyi, or Isabella Leong; known gold diggers IMO.
So true, but don’t most of these gorgeous chicks go into the entertainment industry mainly for this reason? If they don’t latch onto a money tree at their prime time, then they’re skating on thin ice. Not everyone is as lucky as Michelle Reis and managed to hook onto a rich divorced man when he could have had a handful of much more eligible ladies to choose from. Still can’t figure out if in her case “love is blind” because for Julian Hui to take in such a piece of “used meat”, he really must be blind.
Sorry, I am not caught up with Michelle Reis news. Was there a history abt Michelle’s love life before her marriage to her current husband?
@yuaida I would like to know more about this too and why you referred her to “used meat.” I’ve googled her before, but there weren’t that much info of her in English.
Michelle had been around the block with majority of the super rich men in HK. She’s been many married men’s play thing before marrying Mr. Hui.
I think what he means by “used meat” is that she has been with many many other men in the past and has probably done it many times already. Therefore, she has been “used” many time already and is a used up woman so why did Julian Hui still want her?? Back in the olden days, guys would not even want a woman that is no longer a virgin so I must say that Michele Reis is lucky compared to many women whom have the same type of history that she does. She also got pregneant and has a child now as well. Many women her age are still. struggling to have a child.
@ Yuaida,
You’re kidding right? Michelle Reis’ husband is anything but blind. She’s one of the most beautiful Asian celebrities. As for the “used meat” comment, how derogatory. No one ever complains if a man has been “around the block” but if it’s a woman *gasp* she’s “used”. And here I thought we were writing 2011 and as long as she didn’t rape those guys, why should anyone care about whom she had sex with?
@advo Well said! It’s unfair for men to be able to sleep around with women and not be labeled, but not women. Michelle Reis were in relationships with her ex’s in the past, so it would be normal for her to sleep with those men too. I can’t imagine that women who slept with their past boyfriends be called “used meat.” It today’s day and age, it’s difficult to imagine that they’re still a virgin at marriage, especially if they’re a celebrity. They would have more pursuers than normal people and have more boyfriends. Of course, that doesn’t mean she should go around and sleep with any men, but there’s definitely nothing wrong with doing it with her boyfriends at that time. Furthermore, didn’t you mention Julian was divorced before too?
However, despite the fact that she has found her happiness, I admit that they don’t come off as a pretty couple to me because of their mismatch in physical appearance. As a classic beauty, Michelle still looks amazing for her age and her husband looks rather old to me even though he’s only about 6 years her senior.
I think people think of her as used meat not only b/c she’s had numerous bfs and slept with them all… but because quite a few of these men have wives… so it gives the impression that she has low moral standards and would sleep w/men just for money.
I personally don’t think Michele Reis is that great and don’t know why everyone tried to pursue her in the past. I think she is just lucky because after sleeping with married men and all, she ends up marrying someone rich, enjoying life and now even has a son. I wonder if she even thought about all of the families that she has hurt sleeping with married men?? I believe in karma and what goes around comes around…
@Judy & HeTieShou Not sure about the married men that she dated in the past. It’s always wrong to get involved with married men and to mess up a family, but it also takes two to tangle. Those married men who probably tempted by Michelle Reis’s beauty too… no?
@Chriselle,
It is true that it does take 2 to tango but if she was more considerate and all, she would not gotten involved at all once she found out that they were married. But oh well, it is all the past now and I hope that she has learned from it. Now that she is married, I don’t think she would like it at all if another younger and more beautiful woman was trying to go after her husband…
@HeiTieShou: I also don’t understand why everyone wanted to pursue Michelle Reis. I personally do not find her attractive at all. Yes she may look good for her age and have great skin but to be quite honest she looks like every other girl out there.
Only time will tell how her marriage will end up…
@cinsin,
Totally agree with you. I also don’t understand why everyone was going after Michele Reis.She is just like any girl out there. IN the circle, there are girls way prettier than her and are probably nicer than her as well. I think that she just got lucky for the time being. Yea, only time will tell how her marriage will be…
@HeTieShou There’s always that chemistry there that just cause two people to just click without any further explanation. Something that reason can’t explain. I’m sure many men out there would find Michelle Reis beautiful and would want to date her while many others wouldn’t like her past and don’t think highly of her.
But what you said about what comes around goes around is so true. Now that she is getting older and is married, I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t want a younger and prettier woman to come around and snatch her husband from behind her back. But when we’re young, it’s inevitable to make mistakes. That’s how we learn.
Fyi : Michelle Yeoh comes from very rich family, her family is very wellknown in Malaysia, I don’t think she is gold digger ^^
btw I don’t agree that you labeled these 3 ladies as gold digger.
Correct. Michelle Yeoh’s family is very rich and very respectable, therefore she married Dickson Poon. Moreover, the sultan or agong aka the king went to the wedding if I remembered correctly and it wasn’t because of Dickson Poon so Michelle is no gold digger but rather married one of her status. same with her current boyfriend who was made a dato or sir and that has nothing to do with him but because of her.
Why is it that I don’t see the ugly, the poor, the handicapped, the have nots consider suicide but rather the rich, the successful, the pretty ones? I have seen young men without any limbs living a full life, never contemplating suicide, those who are paralyzed worked to stand up again, a mother of 10 children with a dead husband working 3 jobs a day to feed herself and her children, etc etc, these people with real problems never contemplated suicide. And here she is saying she did? All for publicity. And unless you’re complete paralyzed, dying from some painful incurable disease or owes loan shark so much money the fact that you live will put your family in jeapordy, you have no cause nor excuse to want to, think of, consider or plan to kill yourself. If you do, please don’t tell anyone and just go jump off the building. But before you do, look at that poor kid without 2 legs and 2 hands and smiling brightly.
Dying takes not more courage than that few seconds to hang yourself or drink the pesticide. But living, living takes real courage and those who choose death without good cause, in the end are cowards.
Sounds harsh doesn’t it? But think of family, friends, everyone. is your life so insignificant and so immaterial that it does not matter? If you think so, then by all means go kill yourself. But please don’t drag your children along.
These days been reading a lot of parents killing themselves and children as well. Sick. Insane. Crazy. Evil. And worse? People justify their actions by saying oh she has been through a lot, he was having issues. Whatever the issue, just do yourself in and leave everybody else to suffer because I am sure some do choose life however shitty life is. And life is shit. But guess what? Death is nothing. You cease to exist. You’re a nobody. I find that worse than a shitty life.
In fact the only just cause to kill yourself is when you owe loan sharks money, so much you can never repay. Everything else there’s always a solution or at least a way to see things through.
All these rich celebrities thinking of death, for me if she did, she would have do herself in. Like Leslie Cheung, no one knew, no one suspected and he just killed himself. Those are genuine case. Those who talks about it, for me is nothing more than attention grabbing, especially for Asians. These are too personal to be revealed.
Funn,
You made some good points that living takes courage. It requires facing the problems that we face and finding a solution to those problems. Many people tend to externalize and magnify the personal issues that they are facing, drowning in a relationship that’s not working out, or feeling loss inside as to who they are and what it means to live.
It is not about the true magnitude or scale of the problems they are facing. It all lies in the perception of the mind. We might realize that there are paralyzed folks and starving kids in the rest of the world and although we are better off financially, that doesn’t make us emotionally happier. If logic can be applied over emotion, then yes. If more people can think so logically, most emotional problems can be resolved or mitigated in a logical manner. It is more about retraining the mind, how we perceive situations, come up solutions and assume a sense of control.
Both the rich and poor suffer from depression and suicidal tendencies. Money doesn’t mean life is necessarily easier. It solves food, shelter, and practical aspects of living. However, to live emotionally healthily lives is hard. When you have money, you look at other issues in love, career, and family life. People with depression tend to focus on the problems that are not working out and magnify them, whether they deserve to be or not in reality.
I think it is healthy for people to talk about their depressed state and suicidal tendencies openly. If Zhang Ziyi did contemplate suicide and she trashed that thought, I think she has a right to talk about it, as it shows that even people who appear to be strong have weaknesses.
Many people suffering depression hide their suicidal tendencies until it is too late. It’s not too personal to talk about. Family and friends should hear about it before it is too late to save someone’s life. People are too scared to talk about their insecurities, problems, and depression openly, thus increasing their perception of feeling alone. Having the support of those around you can truly mean love or death situation.
My college friend contemplated suicide after her father’s death. Fortunately, she had a very supportive boyfriend to coach her through her grief. A few years later, she experienced some career problems and went through another cycle of depression. My cousin has been seen a psychiatrist for 3 years for depression. She is healing slowly but it is such a long, long process. She talked about suicide almost on a daily basis for a year. It’s scary for the people suffering the depression as much as the family watching the situation because it seems to spiral out of control.
I think often depression is complicated by the fact many of those clinically depressed feel uncomfortable telling others, even close family/friends their troubles because they believe they’re just ‘bothering’ others with their own troubles. So people around really need to be proactive about helping them or just being there for them, even if it feels that you can’t change their situation factually.
Applause! Totally agree with you.
People who condemn her obviously have not gone through depression. Depression is not a simple low period or a simple bout of sadness. It’s very scary.
“think it is healthy for people to talk about their depressed state and suicidal tendencies openly. If Zhang Ziyi did contemplate suicide and she trashed that thought, I think she has a right to talk about it, as it shows that even people who appear to be strong have weaknesses.”
Agree with you on this. It is healthy for ZZY to talk about it. It’s good sharing.
Kara Hui also talk about her past depression state where she said she even didn’t want her life during the acceptance speed in HKFA Ceremony.
SDS,
My cousin talked about her depression many times with me. One day, she would feel hope, the next day she would come crashing down again and thinking about death. At first she had hope, she wanted to talk, but suffering the many low points over and over ahead made her give up hope on herself and lose belief that anyone could possibly help her. She even doubted her psychiatrist, but her family’s consistent support and love made her realize she was not truly ready to end this life. She still loved her family and that was what made her continue on.
Depression, along with other mental illness, is considered as a stigma and perhaps more in Asian cultures. People do not want to reveal their disturbed states because it was misunderstood and considered to be “abnormal” or that they were “possessed by evil spirits” driving them insane.
If your mind is no longer logical and reliable, where your emotions continually spiral out of control, it does make you feel totally helpless and hopeless. I think it takes knowledge from the family to seek the right help and as the depressed person’s mind is extremely vulnerable, the thoughts you introduce to them needs to be carefully guided.
That’s why prison is more of a mental punishment than physical punishment. Locked up for hours in a cell without healthy occupation of the mind, where do your thoughts wander? Locking criminals away for years, without emotional counseling, may do more harm than good for society.
Kidd,
I think the difficulty is that family do not possess the knowledge to help the depressed. Without employing the proper techniques, the situation could get worse. Or psychiatrists that are only milking patients for the money. Have met too many jaded health professionals who are doing their jobs more for money than the greater welfare of their patients.
@Jayne,
Totally agree with you and so many of those psychologists just want money and don’t want to really help their patients.I went to one once since I was really depressed for a period of time and she was an idiot!! I really regret going to her. All she did was waste my time and I wish that I could have filed a bad report on her since she did not help me at all. It is sad that many are so money oriented these days and lack the passion for their profession.
@ Funn… I do understand your point and agree to it to some extent. However, it’s also true that depression is genetic… Depression run’s on my mom’s side and sometimes I do have bouts of depression here and there… especially living in the rainy city and all! Me and both of my siblings have shared similar feelings in terms of depression! Sometimes it is very difficult to come out of, and I just have to force myself to get out and see my friends. I know I’m ten times luckier than a million people out there… and logically I shouldn’t ever be depressed… but you can’t help feeling what you feel.
In my experience, people who have reached higher education and career statuses seem to be more depressed… I think life becomes more stressful and complicated b/c you want more and more out of life. Whereas people to lead simpler lives… such as living in a small town w/ more basic needs and wants seem to be happier.
Sometimes, I’d like to give up pursuing higher education and become a farmer 🙂
@Judy,
I just wanted to say that I agree with you. It seems like people that are richer and more successful in life at times are more stressed due to their status and other things that they have to handle. While people that may not have as much financially or are as successful are actually happier people since they have a much more simpler life. When you reach a really high point in your life, you actually may in turn become depressed because as you said, you just want more and more out of life.
Money also doesn’t always buy happiness. It in fact can even introduce disaster. There are many people that may not have a lot of money but enjoy their life more than someone that has money. I think it is more of how you are emotionally that can make you a happy person or not.
Her wanting to commit suicide is pretty old news… I did a search on google and found news on it dating Aug 2010. Seems like she’s just wanting media attention again.
Or maybe she regularly thinks about it and regularly talks about it?
Cinsin, what was happening in Zhang Ziyi’s life in 2010 that made her consider suicide?
breaking up with her finance and stealing donation money
I think it may also be her troubled relationships too… I think she was once engaged to a rich foreigner but then it did not work out…
Good that she came out of her depressive period and regain her high spirit. Best wishes to her.
Why are people making such a big deal out of it? Just because she’s famous? Many people have thought about suicide but they don’t reveal it to the whole world.
A person doesn’t have to go through a lot in order to have depression, depression can affect anyone and at any stage of their lives.
Also I don’t think suicide is such a bad either. I think you have the right to choose when/how you want to end your life.
Not everybody believes in the sanctity of life
My friend and I were talking about suicide the other day since he currently has cancer and was shocked that someone he knew was trying to end their life. He was saying how he was trying to survive and there are people who want to end their life. However, if someone has never been depressed, they will not understand how it feels. Yes, living takes a lot of courage. Living is hard while dying is really easy.
I don’t condemn people who think of suicide because I have thought of it myself. I think if you have not gone through it you will never understand. However, I didn’t have enough courage and thought of my family and friends so I backed off from it. Now, I often think back and wondered if others that have thought of suicide ever thought of their family and friends who really cared about them???
I also wonder why so many Korean celebs committed suicide?? I hear so many cases that it scared me… I never thought that someone like Zhang ZiYi would ever think of suicide since it seems like she has a smooth career and makes a lot.Many want to be successful like her. I guess she has problems behind the scenes that we all just don’t think about. I think fame and fortune doesn’t always make ones life happy and fulfilling…ANyways, glad that she seems to be past that experience and is happy again. Best wishes to her!
I’ve had similar experiences as well.. thought about it, but realize it would be selfish… so for me, best not to dwell on something I could never bring myself to do.
Part of it is that Christians believe that suicide will lead to eternal damnation in hell. I believe in God… and that scares the shit outta me.
I think so many Korean celebs commit suicide b/c their society stresses physical beauty/perfection more so than other Asian cultures.. and for celebs, it becomes very stressful. One of my Korean friends told me that mothers will take their elementary school kids to a plastic surgeon to do minor surgeries already, such as the double eye-lid, etc. etc. It is common to get get plastic surgery as graduation presents!
@Judy,
Thanks for sharing your experience and glad that you think more positively now. I personally am Buddhist by name but am not religious even though I do believe in the philosophy and all, however, I don’t think that we should let any religion control us in every aspect of our lives. Also, we don’t know where we will go until we die so who knows if all of the theories and beliefs behind any religion is true or not.
One of my friends’ friend went to Korea and said that she had friends there that had a fund set up for them… Can you believe that it was fund set up to get plastic surgery?? I find it sort of strange that we would usually set up a college fund or something for our kids, but they would set up one for plastic surgery…I wonder how they will look when they grow old???
I think you may be partially right in terms of why Korean’s commit suicide so much. But for many of the Korean celebs, I don’t think it was just that… It was because of stress and other factors since most of them already had plastic surgery done, therefore, they already look good in people’s eyes.
Sometimes, when a celebrity talks about it to the public, it can help people who have similar thoughts about suicide feel that they can talk about it too… and hopefully get the help they need.
I don’t know why everyone is saying that she is doing this for publicity. Suicide should never be taken lightly, regardless of who the person is.
Really agree and I can’t believe that some think that she is doing this for publicity?? It’s not like there aren’t other ways for publicity. Suicide is a very very serious topic that should not played with…
I don’t understand the Zhang Ziyi haters. Although I haven’t seen that many works of her, I still find her a fine actress who is capable of displaying her emotions onscreen. (I recall that Tavia also admires her, as a side note.) Because of Zhang’s tough childhood, she is a woman with resilience, does not give up easily, and knows how to seize the opportunities that comes up to her.
However, from what I’ve read, its her personal life that most people don’t like. Perhaps because she’s too liberal-minded. From the interviews I’ve read about her, she doesn’t seem too fond of the Chinese culture as it is too restrained and conservative. I can see why she will go after white guys. I’m not sure how true those rumors are a while ago, but I recall she wanted to marry her white boyfriend, but he refused to settle down.
It’s neither right or wrong of her to publicly state that she once considered suicide and she doesn’t come across as wanting attention. Though she’s a woman with determination and willpower, I do understand that everyone has their times of weaknesses and sometimes it’s difficult to escape depression. The more you think about negative events, the deeper you sink into and can find no escape. I agree completely with Jayne regarding how our realities are shaped by the way we think.
And thanks, Jayne, for sharing the links to the Buddhists texts. Will definitely take a look at them. 🙂
She’s lucky to have the life that she has. I hate how she to reply to media’s questions, she doesn’t give a direct answer, she goes around in circle and end up not giving you any answer. It totally annoyed me so much to watch her when she’s being interviewed. She is attractive but I think she has work done over the years to maintain her look, I don’t believe she can achieve her current beauty without help.